My husband & I have been living in Spain for a few years. He has just passed away and I am returning the body to the UK to be cremated and the ashes scattered near his mothers and where his family in the UK can visit. But in a way I could like a small part of him to be in Spain, where we have been so happy, and was wondering whether it was acceptable to take seperate just a few of the ashes and bring them back to Spain with me, so a small part of him will be here forever. Is this a strange thing to think of doing, or have other people done this?
2007-01-04 02:46:11 · 6 answers · asked by Dona 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
So sorry about your husband. Yes it is acceptable to divide the ashes.You should do whatever you feel is right. He would have probably agreed with what you are thinking of doing. It should be nice to scatter some of his ashes where you live in Spain. You say some of the ashes are going to be scattered near his mother's and where the family in the UK can visit so I think you have the same right too for when ever you want to visit.
2007-01-07 06:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think whatever you feel right about. You had good times with him in Spain, so you should keep a part of him with you.
When my brother's friend passed away, he and the guy's sister took a road trip accross the country scatter his ashes at all the places he loved out west. It was a fitting tribute to the free spirit of the man that passed away so young.
2007-01-04 03:17:29 · answer #2 · answered by ficklepegasus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is perfectly acceptable to do what you are thinking.
i have heard of several occasions when ashes have been split up to ensure they were scattered in several places.
you should do as you wish.
when my brother and later my dad died, we scattered the ashes around the roots of a sapling tree in a place they liked, so that as the tree grew the ashes would become part of the tree.
there are no rules when it comes to what you think is right.
2007-01-04 03:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by simon r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably acceptable. And if you think this is something he would have wanted, I see no real problem with it. It would advise you not tell too many other people about it. I don't know about the laws in Europe, but in some states in the USA it would be illegal. You might want to check into that. And please allow me to express my condolences on your loss.
2007-01-04 02:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by link955 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no wrong or right thing here, you must do what feels right. if you think it will cause offence to other family members you dont need to tell them....me & my brothers did that with our mums ashes, we kept a tiny box each (size of a ring box) and buried the rest. frankly, i dont care if people dont like that, it was right for us x
2007-01-04 03:39:14 · answer #5 · answered by ginger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont think it is. Even though he is not 'whole' in the sense that his body is still intackt, I still think to divide him up is not right.
2007-01-04 02:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Dee 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋