K, so all of my friends (age 18-20) are married now. I'm supportive as can be, but it's really starting to bother me. In the past 5 months, 14 of them are married, or are about to be in a short time. I love them all, but they are excluding me from the "group" because I havent married my bf of 2 years now. Most of them still live at home with parents, no jobs, no school, and married the 1st person theyve ever dated. Whenever we go out now, they dont have fun and say i'm too much of a "riot" for them when we're together. I dont want to settle down yet, but I want my friends back. Now i'm just a "pointless college student" as they say. I find it odd that I "party too hard" considering up until a few months ago, they were the exact same way. I dont want to be pushed out of the "group" just because i'm not married yet. I don't know what to do now. I'm starting to wonder if something is wrong with me for not wanting to settle down at 19. I hate it now, and dont know what to do. help.
2007-01-04 02:39:54 · 7 answers · asked by wellwtfok 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and when I say 14 people, I mean in terms of couples. so 7 couples. some of the guys/girls I dont know very well, but still know them through friends and have to see them each time we hang out.
2007-01-04 02:50:35 · update #1
You know what, Let them say what ever they want. You are not a pointless college student. When they come knocking at your door in a couple of years or less, because their life is upside down you will be glad that you were strong and stayed in college and got some NEW friends to hang out with. It sounds like to me that misery loves company and you are the only challenge that they have left to include in their group of misery. Don't let them drag you into their web of a nowhere life. Think about it, no job no money , living with their parents and married at that age? RUN,RUN,RUN, FIND NEW FRIENDS.
2007-01-04 02:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new friends if they're going to treat you like that. NOTHING is wrong with you for not wanting to settle down at 19. You should be having fun right now (and making good grades too of course). I think it's kind of strange that you know so many people who are that young, don't have jobs, live at home, and married the first person they dated. Is that really true?! Anyways, you are right about what you are feeling. Find some new friends who you can party with, but don't forget to study! :)
2007-01-04 02:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. Realistically speaking I would say, wait 5 years and many of them will not be married anymore.
But you don't have this kind of time. You sound like a sophisticateed and sensitive person and you simply might need new friends. Friends who are a little bit more smart and understanding than the people you used to hang out with. Just move on. The world is full of nice people and you deserve them.
2007-01-04 03:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by Sinka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be happy for them, than be there for them when they go through the divorce. marriage is not what it was like way back when. then ..and if it were I don;t think now onw would want to be Ms. Beaver, Ms. cunningham, etc... the todays wife would have been more like mrs. Jettson, or not wife, but the single mother on the partridge family... bett4er yet, but not Mrs. Howl Luvvy. Marriage is nopt for the birds, but for the crowes/vultures. I mean don't get me wrong its sounds all nice and wonderful, in your mind in "what it should be like" but there are alot of hard lessons to be learned, when the honey moon is over. Stay single enjoy your liofe and you'll know when, if that special someone enters your life...unexpectedly, until then enjoy your singlehood. good luck to you and more like to the ones who tied the knot at oh such a young age. yes I speak from experience..
2007-01-04 02:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by homespaparties4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter cried the day after Christmas because the last of her close friends got married. She said she feels like an outsider because all her friends are either married or having babies or both and she has done neither (she is pursuing a degree). Then I asked her if they were happy....
After she thought about it she gave me a big hug and said, "Thanks, Mom...they are pretty miserable".
(She is 20)
2007-01-04 02:50:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should get married when you think the time is rihgt, not because your friends are doing it. Do what you think is best for you in the long run
2007-01-04 02:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep going to college! Most of them will be divorced within 5 years.
2007-01-04 02:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by mm06840 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋