My ex-husband and I have been divorced for three years. We did try to reconcile about two years ago, but that ended when he confessed about an earlier affair, he immediately began dating another woman and has been with her ever since. We have a son together and share custody, which is working well and we are doing a good job of co-parenting. For the past year, I have been asking to meet his girlfriend since our son does spend a lot of time around her and her family. He continues to blow me off and will go out of his way to ensure that she and I don't casually meet, such as during the exchanges of our son. I have been dating someone for about six months and he and my ex have met on several occassions. Any idea why he is trying to hide her from me?
2007-01-04 02:39:15 · 15 answers · asked by Traycee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just an update, the woman he is with currently is not the one he had the affair with...I hold no ill will whatsoever against her. I also know her name, etc., but she is not in my circle of friends. Our divorce was very friendly and we have had a decent relationship. I don't want to know every detail of their lives together, I just want to meet the woman who spends two weeks a month with my son. I'm not really a judgemental person. I do think fair is fair...my ex has met my SO, why can't I meet his?
2007-01-04 07:41:56 · update #1
he is hiding something, maybe he is afraid there will be problems, since he left u for her, he feels guilty. maybe it is someone u know and it would open up old hurts again. maybe he is ashamed of her.
2007-01-04 02:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's afraid you'll make a scene (I'm not saying that you will, but a lot of women would when meeting the "other woman",l I know I would definitely be tempted to). Also consider that she may be a total dirtbag, and he may fear you'll prohibit her from being around your son. Is there anyone you know who might know her? Trying to meet her through him won't work. You're going to have to find out by being sort of sneaky. I admire the fact that you're upfront with him about it, but you have the right to fight dirty in this case. You have to look after the best interest of your child. Find out where she works and make a visit there (or send someone else you know and trust there) as a customer or client to sort of check her out.
2007-01-04 02:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't want you to let her know about all the bad things he did to you. If your son spends time with the ex's new girlfriend and her family you have every right in the world to meet the woman. Talk to a lawyer or a child case worker and see if you can MAKE IT HAPPEN.
2007-01-04 03:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he knows your a very judgemental person, and doesn't care to hear your visual opinions of her.
It is a good idea that you know who she is anyways, if she is around your son, but as far as her family goes, I don't think you have the right to go that far! Her family are none of your business, unless of course if your son goes see's dad for visitation and all he's doing is dumping the son off at her family's.
WHY not ask him, why he's evadeing the issue? Why can't you go over his head and call her yourself stop by why he's at work, or whatever?
2007-01-04 02:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you know this person. Or, maybe your ex doesn't want the two of you to meet, for fear of confrontation. In any case, he has no obligation to have you meet everyone he associates with, simply because you have shared custody. What he and the child do on his time is his business. Instead of trying to meet the girlfriend, go on about your business and be glad the child's father is in his life. When, and if, the time comes for you to meet his girlfriend, you'll meet her.
2007-01-04 02:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-25 01:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 02:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she does not measure up to you and he is embarrassed. Maybe she has mental problems, and alcoholic, or and addict. Scary! Maybe she is a sex offender and he is hiding that. Check your divorce decree. Mine says that any member of the opposite sex who resides in the home, it is ordered that he informs me and the court. Maybe he thinks you would be toxic to their relationship. Are you a *****? Would you try to destroy them? Get honest with yourself on this. Maybe it is you. Divorce sucks. There is always a fight or disagreement when kids are involved so I communicate with my x only on speakerphone with my current wife listening and my x knows this.
2007-01-04 03:01:17 · answer #8 · answered by Jekyl and Hyde 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he might be hiding something (u know men) but on the same note i kind of agree with him. why do you need to put his new girlfriend under the microscope? is your son old enough where you can question him? that is what i do with my daughter. but becareful of the questions. my daughter said i sound like a cop oneday lol!
2007-01-04 03:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by sexy c 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
basics r he probably feels that is his life not yours and it is really none of your bussiness........u will probably meet her eventually so dont push it.......hes more than likely protecting her from undue stress or ridicule from u or your previous relationship with him.....he has moved on face it the only thing the two of u have in common now r children.......get a new life and live it to the fullest forget about him its in the past.......ur wasting your time
2007-01-04 03:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by snowangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋