n my parents n grandparents dont like it either .... any advice ?
2007-01-04 01:52:51 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
It is your baby, name it whatever you want. My son's father didn't like Jeremiah, but that is our sons name. I told him if we couldn't decide together on a name then I was naming him because I am the one that carried him for 9 months.
2007-01-04 02:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jodi C 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hhhmm tough one.
I would say that your parents and grandparents have no say in what the name is. We didn't even tell them the names we were thinking of for fear that they would react negatively. This is one of the most fun things about becoming a parent and I'm sure they would not have appreciated the unwanted opinions when they were naming you.
The father though - that's complicated. Despite not being together as a couple any longer, you will be forever tied to this person for the rest of your life. In the spirit of compromise and to pave the way for years of better relations for the sake of your child, I would try to find a name you both can agree on. Perhaps suggest Xavier as a middle name?
My husband and I had a battle of wills over the name thing. We had very different tastes in names. I REALLY wanted Avery for our little girl and he couldn't stand that name (he knew a guy with that name). He wanted the names Danielle or Michelle (see what I mean by different tastes!). Then I heard the name Aubrey on a TV show and told him, and it turned out to be a good comprimise name for us. And that's our daughters name!
2007-01-04 10:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by harrisnish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Xavier is usually ex-ay-vee-er Javier is ha-vee-air. That is the spanish pronunciation. As far as that goes though, it is mostly your decision but you should respect the fact that those people will be a large part of your child's life. The last thing you need is those close to him making fun of his name. Perhaps there is something else you like or you can use it as a middle name? Maybe even use it but come up with a nickname others like. In the end though, you can't please everyone so you might as well please yourself.
2007-01-04 10:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Xavier is strong Basque name, comes from popular Basque surname Exteberria, meaning new house or new family line. I think it is a great name for a baby that will be a fresh start in your life. Go with your instincts.
ps micg is wrong about the pronounciation. Basques pronounce it ha-vee-air.
2007-01-04 10:01:20 · answer #4 · answered by thewarrinoates 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've always seen 'Javier' pronounced like that - the common pronounciation of 'Xavier' in the US is 'Za-vee-air'.
It's a good name, IMO - not childish, so he can grow into it. He's your kid and if the father isn't involved, who cares? If you want to compromise, make it his middle name, or give him a more common middle name so he can use either if he wants when he's older.
2007-01-04 10:27:18 · answer #5 · answered by Cobalt 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u should both agree on a name that you, your ex, and parents & grandparents agree on. I think he has a right to decide on a name too.
There is other names out there that you would probably love too, and the rest of your family and ur ex. That way you will all come in to a agreement and not fight.
well best of luck
2007-01-04 10:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by meg k 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
name the baby what you think is best for him! MOTHERS KNOW BEST! I think that it is an awsome name.
-- and in regrauds to the father, is he caring it for 9 months?? does he go thre the mood swings and back aches? If he is there for you and all is good then let him do the middle name or give the baby his last name, but if he isn't then he can't really say anything.
2007-01-04 12:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha-vee-air is the Spanish pronucication and it's spelled Javier. Xavier is pronouced EX-zave-ee-er. I kind-of like what someone said was the German pronunciation: Zavier. That sounds kind-of cool.
2007-01-04 10:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't name it something that you know the father will hate.
Even though you're not together you are still both the parents of this child and will have to work together to co-parent the child. It's time to start NOW showing that you are both responsible and mature enough to work together for the sake of your child.
Offer to sit down with him to go over options to name the child. Narrow it down to the names you can both agree on and then if you have to, pick one from a hat!
It's time to start now to show that you are both parent material and put your child's welfare ahead of your own egos.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 10:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remember when you are naming a child, you are DRESSING them for life; will this be the sort of name that will wear well in 20-60 years?
Personally, I like Xavier (EX-have-EE-r).
2007-01-04 10:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋