not to be affected by a bully in the workplace?

Question

how can i deal with not being affected verbally by a female bully who is another employee in the workplace

Answer 1

A smack in the mouth usually works
otherwise report them to your manager/personnel as there is now legislation to deal with that sort of thing.

Answer 2

It sounds like this coworker is causing a hostile work environment. I woud report the occurances to your office manager (make sure to keep accurate notes so your manager can see that you are on top of things). Request that the office manager make her best effort to make the situation change - and maybe have some suggestions as to what would help. If you go in looking like a crybaby (not saying that you are) you will not get as far as if you seem to have a resolution and not just a problem. Furthermore, I would request of the office manager that documentation of this meeting be placed in your personal file as well as this "office bully". This would be very important, especially if there is nothing done.

I would hope that that would fix the problem for you, but if by some chance it does not, then I would go up the totem pole to a higher authority in the office, request that they pull your personal file so that they can see that you followed the proper chain of command, and that you can inform them that not only this "office bully" but the office manager as well is facilitating a hostile work environment. Those words alone will cause some action to the higher-ups in your office (those would be savvy bosses would know that you have you stuff together and that they could be held liable for a lawsuit for inaction after multiple reports).

I hope that this helps a bit, I feel for your situation - so many have been there and will go through the same thing.

Answer 3

Read the book " How to win friends and influence people" by someone called Carniege, or something like that. It teaches you how to handle most situations. Two ways to handle the situation: the legal ( right) way, which will take forever and probably wont sort it out for you. The other, which is very effective, is build up your confidence as best you can. This can take a few months, but you can do it! As soon as you have the nerve, when she is on her own, go up to her and advise her in a way that she knows you mean business that you will get her on her own and personally sort her out in a way she can't even imagine. While you're saying this you will be very nervous inside. This is not to show on the outside. It is very important you do not raise your voice at all when saying this. Speak rather more quiet than you normally would, then stand your ground, wait for a reply. If she does not reply within one second ask her does she hear what you are saying. This will work. Be ready for her to react in different ways, and be sure you are able to do to her what ever you say you will. You can do this by having a few very "Hard" looking people stand close by as you talk to her, or have a couple of very hard looking people meet you outside your work place. I advise you to sort it out yourself. You will be very nervous, and will die with feeling bad when you get home, but it really is the only way.

Answer 4

This seems to be more and more common place. I know exactly how you feel. I joined the company I work for now over a year ago. The wome I share the office with, although she has nothing to do with my area, and nothing strictly speaking to do with me, has gone out of her way to make things difficult for me. Has called me to all other people, and as my role is stand alone, I work with no one else with in the company there idea of me is poor. She crtisises and huffs and puffs, wont help me when I need information and as she is in charge of the stationary (v important role) getting so much as a paperclip is a fight in itself. But I also take great satisfaction in the fact that she hates me being here just as much as I hate it, although I am going no where! She can crank the air con up, ***** and moan as much as she likes, but eventually she will come unstuck.... and when that happens.... well will be great! After she has gone and she will do soon.... I will be off..... I dont speak to her, I dont listen to her and I make it clear that I dont give a toss what she thinks, If it becomes to much for you, go see your boss. Keep some notes of times and things she says / does. Find out if any one else is having problems then lay it on line with boss and get somthing done they have to act! Good Luck and dont let it bother you, people like this, that deliberatly and systamatically target people to make things difficult for them are worthless waste of space.

Answer 5

I really feel for you. It is not fair and you shouldn't be subjected to that every day. Talk to your boss and threaten with leaving the company. It is not allowed these days so you have rights. In the meantime, try to avoid her, and if she says something just stay quiet and completely blank her out. Eventually she'll realise that there's no point bullying you because she might as well 'talk to the hand because the head is not listening' and bullies are only effective if somebody is effected by them.

Answer 6

How is she a bully? What does she do?
The best way to handle anyone who's behaving a bit brain dead is to be an extremely - and I mean extremely - good listener. Answer her with what she is saying to you so she can hear her own words. People are usually taken aback when they can hear their own sloppiness come out of someone else's mouth.
Train yourself to look into her eyes. The left pupil is regarded as the window of the soul by many cultures.
Begin to bolster your own self-esteem. As soon as you get rid of this one, another will take her place because YOU are attracting the behaviour from others.
People respect those who allow them to not have to think around them.

Answer 7

Tell her firmly that you find her conduct intolerable and also against the law. If she persists then you will take what ever neccessary action against her. Stand strong against her because bullies only get kicks if they think they can control you.
If you have a union then get them involved after all a workplace is for adults not a playground for children.
Do not be afraid (easier said than done) but stand up for yourself and say to yourself that you refuse to be intimidated by stupid people.
My supervisor learned that the hard way when he thought he could lord over me. I bit his *** now he eats out of my hand - the little punk! I take no crap.

Answer 8

If her actions don't affect your work you should be able to ignore her. If they affect your work, then tell the boss. We are not paid to get along, but just to work. But if someone is affecting the ability to work, then it needs to be dealt with. Believe me if it is a good company, they will remember the Postal worker shooting and make sure your job is not stressful.

Answer 9

I would talk to your boss about what is going on with that co-worker! She sounds like she is not very professional! If you were to talk to your boss then maybe he would talk to her, then she will probably back off! It is hard to work in a workplace with a person that is bulling you! Good Luck!

Answer 10

Harassment in the workplace (USA) is illegal. Notify your Human Resources officer and file a formal complaint. If the situation is not immediately resolved, you can file a grievance with the State Labor Department.