So Ive been with him for 4 yrs married for only 5 months...and last night he said hed be home early cuz our daughter is sick and anyways I called him at 7 Because he wasnt home and he said he was leaving in 5 min...He was only working 15-20 min away and he didnt even get home untill 8:15 or so. I asked him why it took so long and he came up with this stupid excuse of he kept forgetting stuff. To make matters worse when I call him usually its very loud because he works construction...but when I talked to him and he said hed be home early he was talking very low and it was supper quiet....Am I over reacting or do you think there is a something to worry about?
2007-01-04 01:39:48 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well what are the classic signs...Im not sure what Im supposed to look for
2007-01-04 01:46:33 · update #1
Thanks for all the help/advice I guess Ill just pay better attention and see if there is anything else that makes me think of the same outcome....thanks again
2007-01-04 02:14:18 · update #2
You are not overreacting. Humans of creatures of habit, and when there normal patterns change dramatically, something is awry. Check your husbands call records if he owns a cell phone. Call up his friends and have them check up on him for you to match stories. And when your talking to him just look for signs of deception. Its all in the details. When someone thinks of a quick excuse, they usually dont plan it out. Like forgetting stuff at the office. Don't feel bad if your interrogating him, becuase your have the right to question until your satified. Ultimatly it comes down to trust, and if you cannot trust your man to be faithful there are serious problems. Remember to look for changes in his normal daily pattern; that is the key.
2007-01-04 02:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with "a woman usually knows".
I find a lot of the time it's your own insecurities that make you think he's cheating.
How is the rest of the relationship? Is this the first time you've had these feelings? Some signs to look for:
Dressing better or suddenly taking an interest in his appearance.
Changes with his cell phone..does he not leave it out any longer, is he hiding the bill or not taking calls when he is home with you, when before he did.
Hiding credit card statements.
Being very nice to you ie guilt or being very mean to you ie trying to justify his actions.
Lastly, we can make any situation appear how ever we choose to see it. If someone were to tell me my husband was cheating...I'd be looking for signs, but that doesn't necessarily mean that he is.
2007-01-04 01:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by katalah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are over reacting and then again maybe you are not. Go with your gut feeling. A woman's intuition is normally pretty accurate. Make sure though before you go accusing him of wrong doing. Keep a close eye on him if he is cheating you will find out soon enough. I do hope for your sake that he is not though.Even the way he acts should tell you if there is a problem in your marriage or not. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-04 01:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt neccesarily advise he's cheating. He ought to easily be speaking. yet while she nonetheless loves him and has emotions for him, shop a watch on them the two. maximum individuals do no longer communicate over with an ex gf in the event that they are married. yet provide him the earnings of the doubt and don't assume that he's cheating, yet dont be so carefree that he slips into cheating. If that makes any considering the fact that.
2016-11-26 02:40:45 · answer #4 · answered by wilde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honeslty , you willl never really know unless he tells you or you catch him red handed...have you asked him?? From my experience if you think he is cheating he prob. is, and if he is not, if you keep bothering him about it, he will prob. end up doing it, so this is what I'd do...don't mention anything about thinking he is cheating, and have a friend or you follow him every now and then for a few weeks, when u think he is cheating and says he is at work drive to his work, or get his cell phone summary, if it is only in his name all u need is his social sec. number and u can go online and get it ,!!! it prob. wont ever stop bothering you until u know for sure!!! i always had those feelings that my x was cheating, and I always believed him when he said he wasn't, but then later i find out all those times my gut feeling was right!!! I don't tihnk you are really overeacting because if he is doing things diff. then u have reason for concern!! if he gets really pissed off when you ask him if he is cheating thats another sign he is guilty!! one more thing does he hide his cell phone or keep it on silent??? watch what he does with it, thats another sign.
2007-01-04 01:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by dreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe he really did keep forgetting stuff, maybe he needed to talk quiet because he was waiting in the boss's office for some things to get taken care of. When my son is ill, I'm not exactly the most clearheaded person. I've meant to get out of work right on time before because my wife and son needed me to get home right away, and ended up stuck two hours past my shift making up for stupid mistakes I made because I was thinking about my son and not my job.
2007-01-04 01:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have more than enough proof to speculate that something is wrong I say follow your heart but dont be no fool,remember Love Does'nt Love No One.Maybe you should ask him a simple question or two about that night ,but do it very casual so he dont pick up on it ,then next week ask him the same questions but in a different way,you get me ? than see what his answers will be.If you do it smooth enough you'll find out your truth just that easy.Worst comes to worst ask one of co-workers on the low was he there all that time or not ,if you use the right tact you can get info out of them without them even realizing that their telling,but that's if your smooth enough.Tell me what you think o.k, Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-04 02:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by JAY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a woman is feeling that something is wrong they are usually right, follow your instincts and dont let him make you feel as tho your crazy, men have a great way of making you think YOUR MAD!!! when its him who is guilty,
Dont accuse him tho!! you need proof or you just act like the mental woman and do yourself no favours at all,
I really hope that you are proved wrong, but I am glad that you have your eyes open and dont run away from it.
Good Luck
2007-01-04 01:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by carrienicholson23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has family or buddies that he sometimes hangs out with, then that may have been what was happening.
He may have let his pride stand in the way of being there for you & the daughter... by not wanting the family/buddies to know that he needed to be there for "the wife."
Some guys make fun of other guys, about being "hen-pecked" ...if he puts his wife 1st.
Either way though, he's still cheating... cheating you & the daughter out of your needs.
2007-01-04 02:00:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only need your intuition to tell you what's going on,every woman has it and I do believe it's a keeper and never fails.If you think it's so then ask and if he refuses to answer and you still believe it star to make plans for your life without him because once you find out he's cheating,if you do and if he is, you will no longer trust him and the marriage could be over.
2007-01-04 01:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋