He thinks I am making an excuse. I'm 13 weeks pregnant and get very emotional. Not just crying. I get very angry for no reason and then really irritated. Irritation at this point is my worst enemy. He thinks I am making an "excuse" for this irritation...even though I was NO WHERE NEAR this bad before pregnancy. Crying really wasn't an issue after I'd say about 9 weeks preggo. He says I can help it and need to stop getting so upset. It gets me so sad, because I thought out of all people, he's be more understanding. Apparentely not. How can I explain this to him in a different way to help him understand it IS because of the pregnancy and my hormones...this is so frustrating!
2007-01-04 01:39:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
slap him around a bit, he will get the picture
2007-01-07 16:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, just assure him that the first three months or so, are the hardest on pregnant women, because their hormones are adjusting to this new life in the womb....... And if you have to go and buy one of those books , in order for him to understand it all.. Or have a girlfriend talk to him, or her boyfriend (someone who's been there).. Or even ask one of your doctor's nurses to give him a call, to explain it all to him!! You should get to feeling better after the first 3 months!! I always did, and I had 6 pregnancies!!! Two miscarriages, and 4 live births, so , if anyone knows its me!! The hormones get way better after the 3 month period! Just ask him to be a bit more "Patient" that he helped you get to where you are, and you'd be by his side if men were the one's doing the carrying of the babies!!!HaHa!! wouldn't that be cool!!! No such luck!! Darn-It!!! Anyway, Good-Luck, to you & your's!!! Smile!
2007-01-04 01:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him with you to the doctor and have the doc explain the hormone changes. Ask his mother for help if she understands. Make him read a book about pregnancy. Write him a letter telling him how much it hurts you that he doesn't understand your feelings. Come up with a word picture to explain it (example: a story about a guy who broke his shoulder in football and it aches every time it rains, then he's in a car accident where the shoulder is slammed -- it's gonna hurt more than usual when it rains)
2007-01-04 01:45:20 · answer #3 · answered by wannasnooze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at first my boyfriend didn't understand either. He thought I was also making an excuse for my attitude problems and things like that. Of course this pissed me off even more. But, now I am 36 weeks, and he got used to it. You have to just remind him that you weren't like this before. I mean my boyfriend says that I always cried this much... though I rarely cried before. I cry over stupid things now... but getting that upset and crying is normal. I guess the only thing you can do is bring up times before you were pregnant... GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-04 01:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey good luck on trying to get him to understand... I'm pregnant w/my 5th child, and with each pregnancy it doesn't get any easier to explain.. My husband thinks I'm crazy when i start crying for no reason..and i cant explain why /or for what i am crying about...
It's hard to make your partner understand all the emotions you are going thru, when you really don't understand it your self!!!!
Good Luck & Congrats on pregnancy
2007-01-04 02:30:57 · answer #5 · answered by ahg30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I would do is print out some materials from a baby site on this issue. Highlight the areas that apply to you and your husband. Having scientific data for him to read might help. Also, you could enlist his Mom to help you out. Maybe if she explained what was going on with your body and mind during this time, he might understand it more. Men have a 'thing' with hearing stuff from their mom. Good Luck, and I hope this helps!
2007-01-04 01:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by One Race The Human Race 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got pregnant the first time, I bought my husband a book
called WHAT TO EXPECT WHEN SHE'S EXPECTING.
I got it at Barnes & Noble. It was about $20.00. I asked him to read it. He did. 3 times, actually.
It worked because Mr. Understanding and Supportive was back,
right away.
Also check to see if there is a support group for new parents to be at your local hospital. Mine has one. Talking to other guys, really helped my husband, too.
2007-01-04 01:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first don't beat him over the head with your pregnancy. most guys don't like that. second just browse around the internet for articles about horomone changes in pregnant women and leave then out for him to read or try buying him books on pregnancy.
2007-01-04 01:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try taking him to one of your doctors appointments and asking your doctor about it. Then he can be there and her the doctor say it is hormones and that there really isn't anything you can do about it. Perhaps then he will stop saying you can. Good luck and congrats on the new baby!
2007-01-04 01:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant 2nd time. This time I have no patience at all, especially when my son does not listen. Everything seems to push my buttons and I mean EVERYTHING. I'm usually extremely calm and patient. Now I just can't stand it!!!!! Show this answer to your BF. You're not the only one.
2007-01-04 01:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly take him with you to your next pre-natal appointment. Let him ask the doc himself. The pregnancy mood swings and ultra-sensitivity are all related to biophysical and social changes that are occurring. Your estrogen and progesterone levels are increasing to keep the uterus in homeostasis..
2007-01-04 01:46:34 · answer #11 · answered by littleshorty9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋