can someone really be forgiven by their spouse for serious indiscretions or should you cut your losses early?

Answer 1

That seriously depends on the spouse. If he or she is the forgive and forget type, then I think with time, a lot of talk and perhaps some couples counseling, sure. However, some people are of the type that when you break the trust it's broken. I personally will not be with someone I don't trust. Why do I need you if I have to look over my shoulder, check up on your, think twice every time you tell me something happened to cause you not to show up, answer the phone, email me back...etc. That's way too much work and life is way too short.

Answer 2

Yes they can be forgiven but it will never be forgotten and the relationship will be forever changed. It is a difficult thing to deal with and the probability of success isn't good but possibly worth a try (assuming it's a first time thing) Although cutting your losses early may protect you from a repeat occurrence you probably won't have closure if you were truly in love.

Answer 3

I could forgive MINE. But then he's always been faithful - so far.

I don't think this is something to be answered for everyone as Yes or No,. Each circumstance, each spouse is a different case.

If rehabilitation is possible, if forgiveness is possible than I truly believe a new relationship, a stronger one is also possible.

If those two conditions cannot be met then I don't think there is much point.

But one never knows until it's attempted. There is always time to give up but only one chance to try again.

Answer 4

It really is possible to be forgiven, but it's not easy because the greatest change must be in you. In order to obtain forgiveness, you must repent: to feel such sorrow for sin or fault as to be disposed to change one's life for the better. This means you must accept upon yourself the blame for what you have done, and change yourself in such a way, in both attitude and behavior, that the indiscretion would never happen again.

Answer 5

well depending on if you fell that the indiscretion was in your mind forgivable, i always have gone by my gut feeling, 2 yrs ago my hub and i had problems, i ran off, i cheated he cheated, we confessed it to eachother over the phone, i was 800 miles away, we talked for along time, i made the decision to come home and work it out, we talked some more, i got therpy, we got a way stronger marriage, we talk all the time we work things out now, we love more than ever, it was worth it to me and him to save our marriage

Answer 6

Well, the only way you're going to find out is to sit down with your spouce and talk. You may be able to start over or may need to do a lot of couceling together. You don't know until you talk to this person.

Answer 7

As a woman I have to be honest with you. I have said that I forgive but I just cant forget. The trust is gone and most of the love. The love has been replaced with hate and I just can't get over it. We are still together after 10 years but I find myself wishing that he would just leave!

Answer 8

forgiving and forgetting are two very different things.It's not really either of these emotions that hinder reconciliation.It's the opening of the eyes and seeing that person you thought you knew and now see very differently.Once the veil has been lifted and the true face is revealed,the love no longer exists because the person you loved no longer exists.

Answer 9

my husband & I went through some really bad stuff after 8 years of marriage .. we separated for 8 months .. got ourselves straightened out .. and decided to get back together. we BOTH did alot of things we weren't proud of but we also knew we loved each other enough to let go of the past and bring our family back together. our relationship is stronger, has alot more meaning, and believe it or not .. we trust each other now more than we EVER did!!

Answer 10

Yes someone can be forgiven. It's rare though. It takes a level of maturity most people do not have.