I have this X best friend, who I used to tell all of my secrets to. Then she suddenly decided she would go and tell the whole school all of my secrets!!! She is also making up lies too. I have a lot of classes with her so it is impossible to avoid her. how do i get her off of my back?
2007-01-04 01:29:29 · 21 answers · asked by annabanana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Honesty is the best policy right? So tell her that you don't appreciate the lies she is telling and that you will not let her in on anymore of your secrets. Then you could either act like shes not there at all or you could kill her with kindness - but be sure to not tell her anything else thats personal. Secrets are trouble anyways the fewer the better
2007-01-04 01:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by shadows 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has taught you a very valuable lesson about trust. She has shown you that there are some people in this world who are not worthy of your friendship, or your trust, & that she is a shining example of one of those people.
Once the floodgates are open there is very little you can do to hold back the water, so you will have to try to live with the situation as it is.
If she was ever to publish any of her lies about you on the internet then you would have grounds for suing her for liable, & slander, but I wouldn't put too much stock on that possibility.
You would do better to start building a new catalogue of secrets for yourself, & make sure that she doesn't hear about any of it. Then the next time she confronts you with anything you shared with her in the past you can say to her "Are you still talking about that? That stuff is now all ancient history to me"
She can only affect you with her lies & gossip if you let her.
2007-01-04 01:42:48 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. I know someone that fits that description well. I simply confronted them about it and then stopped associating with them. Maybe your friend is lacking attention, so if she is the first with the story that others may pay attention to her. I simply wouldn't tell her any of my secrets any more.I have learned that the best way to deal with a problem like this is to simply throw it right back in their face, but that is my method. If you think that it would work, maybe you should return the favor by telling some things to others that you know about her or simply just make something up. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best.
2007-01-04 01:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Lawrence C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Approach this girl and ask her whats she's playing at, after all she's doing herself no favours. Who exactly is going to trust her when she's telling the whole school what you've told her. The girl will have no credibility left. You could also point this out to her, as she's sounds too thick to have actually thought about this. She sounds very insecure and is trying to make you the same way. Find yourself a new friend, and this time don't tell them anything, that way they can't back stab you. Learn from this. Don't avoid this girl, show her your strong and that she can't harm you with silly words.
2007-01-04 01:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by trackie1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End contact with her and don't do the same thing that she does. Remember, the best revenge is living a good life (and making sure everybody sees that you are doing so).
Make new friends and don't bring her name up at all.
I am sorry you had to have this happen to you so early in life, but I know what it is like to have a friend bail on you and turn into a total jerk. It's somethinig we probably never could have guessed at happening. One thing I have learned is not to be too quick to tell a friend everything about me.
Good luck, dear.
2007-01-04 02:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her!But talk to her gently 1st.You know
gentleness can break a bone.Then give her time to absorb your diplomacy.If she still continues with it, just let GOD and let go.
A trustworthy person knows how to keep a secret.People won't trust her anymore!She will
end up losing others as well.So in the end it would be more of her losses than yours!
And big deal no person is squeaky clean!And
you can prove them wrong by your actions if it's only a lie!If it's true, there is always a 2nd chance.So just charge it to experience and next time keep your secrets to yourself.
2007-01-04 01:49:24 · answer #6 · answered by ranya j 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. The rumors will die down eventually. Most people won't know or care what she's talking about. Her remaining friends will start to worry if she would do the same to them. Just wait it out and don't let her see that you're upset. Don't reciprocate either. That would be a losing proposition. Take the high road and find some new friends.
2007-01-04 01:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by Firespider 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ignore her. if it dont bug you it will bug her. its a really hard situation to deal with. it depends on how you two were together, if you guys goofed off and pranked and had fun with other people, there's really no stopping her, if its not like her to be that way then say something about it, but if shes the violent type then confronting really wont help..... so the best thing you can do is just ignore, and for damage control, tell the people who shes telling your secrets to that she's mad that you guys got into a fight and arent friends, and shes just doing it to get you mad...
2007-01-04 01:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Confront her and ask her to stop and to have some respect for the friendship you once shared. Or you could lower yourself down to her level and tell all her secrets, but I don't suggest that. I hope everything works out for you. Maybe one day you can get over your differences and become friends again.
2007-01-04 01:32:29 · answer #9 · answered by queenofkings2525 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Obviously she's made it clear through her actions that you are sooooooooo much better than her. Just act cool, calm and collected. Hold your head high and pay her no mind. You'll look a hell of a lot better than her in the end.
2007-01-04 01:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by from me to you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋