i am married for 13 yrs with 3children , at first i thought the man i married is the one i love and we're happy but time past by my husband getting noisy we having fight almost everyday because of my kids , im getting tired of it but he is kind caring . few months ago i met this guy on internet he is single we talk everyday ,sending emails and saying sweet words ,sharing happy moments and bad because of that i feel something diffrent i think i started to fall for him i couldnt erased him into my thoughts . i told him that i am married and has kids he accept me he says he love me . we want to see each other in person to know how we really feel with each other . many things bothering me i dont know if he is true to me , what if we realized that we really love each other im still married and i dont know how to explain it to my kids.
2007-01-04 01:25:52 · 21 answers · asked by majo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Has he asked you for money yet? I bet he will if you decide to meet. Then he won't come. He'll have a good reason. More money will be asked for. Still he won't come. Then he'll be in the hospital. A doctor will call saying that it's your name he's calling out. Only your name. There will be hospital bills you'll be asked to cover. You will cause you love him. Pretty soon the bank will call. There's a problem with your account. There's no money in it.
YOU DON"T KNOW THE GUY. Come on. You're unhappy and this guy is saying all the right things. He's playing your emotions like a fiddle. Even if he's sincere, you can not know someone via email or im.
The reality is your in a sad place and to compensate your falling for someone who says the right things. It's normal. It's common. That doesn't make it right. That doesn't make it real.
What you have in your husband and children is real. That's family. Do not risk something that important on the illusion of an anonymous guy on the internet.
2007-01-04 01:58:31 · answer #1 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, based on what you wrote, you're not really sure of anything. There's a lot of what ifs there. A person who is ready to get a divorce or annulment, doesn't really discuss this here but picks up the phone and gets a lawyer. I suggest you think long and hard before you do anything drastic. List all the pros and cons of leaving your husband. And make another list of the pros and cons of being in a relationship with someone you hardly know. Pray and reflect. I've thought about getting my marriage annulled a lot but there are still things in my husband that I love, despite all the problems. Talk to him, and maybe he also wants to separate. If so, then you're problem's solved.
2007-01-04 01:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by ponder2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would try to fix your marriage first. you are looking for love in someone else instead of with your husband. don't you think you are probably fighting more because you are online chatting with someone else that is saying all the right things for now? i mean the fact that your husband is home is (i'm sure) preventing you from being online and talking to your friend. all the sneakking is exciting but it does not last forever and then reality will hit and you will not be able to turn back the hands of time. try and think of what's best for you and your marriage before you go out into a new relationship. you have children to think about and the children want both parents happy in order for them to be happy. i know it will be hard to do but maybe you and your husband should actually communicate with each other...sit down and talk...think about how it used to be and what brought you 2 together in the first place. think about how your life will really be if you and your husband were not together and how that will affect not only you but your children. Good luck and i hope all works out well for you.
2007-01-04 01:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by yadi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you thing your marriage is over,get a divorce and then do whatever you want! Your husband and you may have problems and wish a new start in your lives, but your kids should be the number one in your lives! Become single again, love your kids, and then meet the Internet guy, keeping in mind that he may be not what you've imagined! Good luck!
2007-01-04 01:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by j.h. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have nothing to explain to your kids if you come to your senses !! Don't do it. This other man knows you are married with children, therefore he has no morals and will only be using you. Get him out of your thoughts, you only know what he has told you on the net and it's possibly all lies just to get what he wants from you. A lot of guys would go for married women knowing that they will not leave their husbands, so it's just casual sex with no strings attached . Is that what you really want ?? To cheat on your husband is disgusting and to do it with someone who is only using you. Wake up to yourself and stop talking to this guy, he will only cause you trouble. Stay faithful !! Best of luck
2007-01-04 01:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what are you thinking you are married with 3 kids and you are considering being envolved with a stranger from the internet not to mention the God factor this would be adultry you would be breaking up your 3 childrens home for what your marriage is not perfect so what whose is you should be in my marriage pure hell most of the time you need to thank your lucky stars you have a faithful husband and 3 beautiful children
2007-01-04 01:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mississippi's Jersey girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your kids your getting a divorce. You can tell them the rest of it later when they get over the emotional shock of that. As for your internet affair, whats going to happen if you meet this guy and you realize that you aren't in love with him, then your stuck in a loveless marriage. Either way you should get a divorce.
2007-01-08 11:04:17 · answer #7 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you are looking more for an emotional need your husband doesn't supply. This Internet guy is just filling that. Think long and hard before you jeopardize your family for a man you hardly know.
2007-01-04 01:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful, paper holds anything you put on it. And love trough Internet,...... i have seen many deceptions. you are in a delicate position, that anything that relieves you from your husband, sounds good. You really want the beginning passion.
Nobody told you it fades and turns into other kind of love?. First try to fix up with your husband.
"all you know its you want to be with him" BS, you want to have the beginning of the love story again. If it fails, and isn't as good as he promised, what to do then? THINK.
2007-01-04 01:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The idea of actually meeting someone I met over the internet is a scary thought.You really don't have any idea who this man is.Yes, he could be lying to you about everything and you are taking the chance of losing your husband and kids.If I was you I would seriously think all this over.
2007-01-04 01:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋