Is it possible for a woman to get pregnant with a man who doesn't think can have children?

Question

I am 23 years old and my soon to be husband is 33 years old. He always tells me about his past life about his failure of having children. But some of that time he was in jail for a total of 10 years maybe (may be to much info, but helpful). He gave me the example of having sex with his ex girlfriends and random chicks everyday. He claims he's a very sexual person and that he would have sex with his girlfriend everyday. I told him it could have been them not ovulating yet,because every woman has a different cycle if one at all. This man who i love really wants a child by me, he of course doesn't have one at all. So recently, we had sex Dec. 26-29 so many times, maybe in all 15- 20 times. But the catch is that my period should come on around the 3rd or 6th. Could i be pregnant. Some symptoms I have are nausea, mood swings, lonely, and not hungry that much. But i just started doing this sunday on Dec.30-31. Is this even possible to have symptoms like this so early in the first 1- 2 weeks.

Answer 1

everything is possible

Answer 2

it is possible but not likely. Your "symptoms" might be you wanting to be pregnant so bad that you work yourself up into these symptoms. There are very early pregnancy tests you can take, it's a blood test, not urine. You'd have to go to a doctor of course for this. If you keep trying so hard, it will actually lessen your chances of conceiving. I suggest you buy an ovulation kit which tells you when you are ovulating. Also, have sex less, b/c you are decreasing his sperm count having sex so much. Trying too hard will actually backfire on you. It is possible he can father children, unless he's been told by a doctor that he can't. He has just been lucky not getting anyone pregnant yet, like you told him.
I am speaking from personal experience with the symptoms part. When I was trying to get pregnant, I'd think every little thing was a "symptom" of being pregnant. When we quit trying so hard, it happened on it's own! Also do a search on the internet, I am sure there are tips on how to increase your chances of conceiving.

Good luck!!

Answer 3

You say the man "thinks" he can't have children.

Well does he KNOW he can't or just "think"???

The only men who can not absolutely ever have children are those who don't produce any sperm, and thats rare. Usually its the result of severe illness, being born without testes or something like that. Even men with low sperm counts can father children, it just might take a little longer than it would for a man with a high count. My fiance has had fertility tests and has been told he has a low sperm count. But we still managed to conceive our 5 week old baby boy!

Unless your fiance has had fertility tests done (sperm analysis, hormone levels checked etc) and categorically been TOLD he can't have children, then I would say its safe to assume he can!! Just because his ex girlfriends didn't get pregnant means nothing. They could have had fertility problems or been on the pill and not telling him. My fiance's ex never got pregnant by him either (they were together for 2 years and trying for a baby) yet I did!

It is possible to have pregnancy symptoms before you even miss a period - I did. I had period cramps, sore boobs, nausea and tiredness all from about a week before my period was even due.

Most Home Pregnancy Tests are accurate from the day your period is due so maybe you should buy one and test yourself.

Answer 4

I would say he's been lucky! You cannot determine whether he is infertile or not just because he hasn't got anyone else pregnant. All I can say is I hope you've had yourself checked for STI's and HIV. All that sleeping around without a condom is dangerous. Back to the question the mood swings etc could also be the onset of your period and would coincide with it starting on the 6th. Having said that every woman is different and pregnancy syptoms obviously can be more noticeable to some. I hope all goes well and let us know the outcome!

Answer 5

Getting pregnant by him would be the least of my concerns. Have you both been tested for STD's? Not trying to be rude, but if he was really having sex that much, plus 10 yrs in the pen, he is very high risk for STD's.

Anyway....to answer your question, just because he never got anyone else pregnant, doesn't mean he can't. It may have just been by the grace of God that he didn't.

I would suggest that you both be tested for STD's....four your sake and the sake of any possible children who could also end up infected. If all is clear, go for it, if that is what you want to do. If after a while you don't get pregnant, he can always see a fertility doctor and then would no for sure if he is able to produce.

Answer 6

The issue here, is quite simple.No, dear you are not sure wheter you are pregnant or not.
The first "symptoms" that you describe, appear during the 6-8 weeks after the impregnation, and the ones you fell, most surely are stemming from physical exhaustion (with al due respect, you have had a very strenuous physical activity with sex).
The other side of the story, is that your couple claims to be infertile, and acts like a frustrated man (however he can be sincere), that does not want to face parenthood.
Well, the most reliable form to know whether he is fertile or not, is by analyzing his sperm (spermatobioscopy) and that of course, needs freshly emited semen.
The test can be performed only with his knowldege and consent (he has to sign a form consenting it),
The test for his sperm, is carried out in any clinical lab, in order to measure his amount of cells, mobility, quality of the fluid (there is a measure that tell a lot like alkaline hosphatase and fructose content), and to see ho many of those cells anre "inmobile" or defective.
You should face him with this option, ad if he really loves you and cares for you, will accept the test (Spermatobioscopy).
good luck
Yours
Garfield526

Answer 7

Yes, you could have symptoms if the hormone levels are increasing steadily. However, because you want to be pregnant so badly, it could very well be that the symptoms are psychosomatic. Your husband may have low sperm count or low sperm motility. The best way to know what the reason behind his not getting anyone pregnant would be to go to a doctor and have his sperm analyzed. You also need to be keeping track of your cycles and determine when you are ovulating. Taking Charge of your Fertility is an excellent book to learn more about how to learn the true signs of ovulation and things to increase your probability of getting pregnant (i.e. positioning) Good luck.

Answer 8

How fortunate for those girls that did not get pregnant by him. I wonder if he told them all the same story he told you. Yep, it is possible for him to impregnate you if he has never been tested by a fertility expert.

I hope you sort through your priorities before having a baby by him or anyone else. A child is a lifelong responsibility and one that he more than likely is not ready to face. Wanting to have a baby by all of these girls plus you without the benefit of marriage first then planning a child??? Out of 33 years of life, he has spent 10 years of it in jail????

It's highly unlikely that you would be having any of these symptoms so early on. For your own sake, please go to a doctor and tell him/her the same thing you have told us. The doctor should check you over for sexually transmitted diseases and do a pregnancy test.

If you are pregnant by him, I hope he doesn't disappear. At least get his social security number, driver's license number, info about his family, etc. before he splits sooner or later so you can track him down to force child support.

If you are not pregnant, run fast and find someone honest, dependable, and who values you for who you are and not a babymaker.

Answer 9

Yea you could get pregnant. But should both get tested for STD's at your local GUM clinic. Regardless of his past history, you should both do this as you are having unprotected sex now, and your health is very important or you could end up infertile due to undetected STD in the long run... and you don't want that!

Good luck trying for a baby though, hope everything works out okay for you!x

Answer 10

Yes, it is possible to get pregnant by him, knowing and thinking that he can't make a baby are two different things. Most guys tell you that so they can go in you with protection. You could be pregnant, take a test when or after your period is suppose to come and get tested!!! Worrying about being pregnant is one thing but being pregnant with an STD is even worse or just alone having an STD that cannot be cured.

Answer 11

You could be pregnant. How does your boyrfriend know for sure that he can't have children? In fact, I don't think this is the case, I just think that the women he's had sex with weren't ovulating at the time. If you had sex many times you are likely to be pregnant. You should go and buy a test.