has some serious issues maintaining an erection while we're trying to be intimate. He says it doesn't even get 100% hard when he does get one. Usually it goes limp some where in the middle of intercourse. He said it's never happened before with any other woman and he's highly attracted to me and he doesn't have E.D. so what is wrong? Serious responses only please!
2007-01-04 01:24:50 · 7 answers · asked by Noodle 2 in Health ➔ Men's Health
I'm thinking he's just nervous because he is really into you and wants to make you happy and please you. Stress like that can cause all sorts of medical issues with a mans member.
The best way to get over this is for you to tell him to lie on his back. You go down between his legs and perform either oral or hand-job. Make sure it is all about him - that way his mind can relax and not worry about you for a few minutes. Be sure to go slow and don't let him climax, bring him close but not over the edge. After many minutes of this, climb on top of him while he is still lying down. If you brought him to the edge a few times without going over then he'll be nice and hard. Make sure he doesn't have to move or adjust his position, just climb on top of him and go to town. Let him know it's about him.
The key is to make it about him - if he knows he doesn't have to to please you at the moment then his mind can focus on the pleasure you're giving him. Go nice and slow, and do it for a while.
Also, tell him to research on the net for kegel exercises. They work for both men and women. Men can really benefit from them because they wil be able to stay harder for longer naturally. He will be able to keep is erection on his own. Hope this helps - good luck.
2007-01-04 03:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by efil_4_msdb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My current boyfriend was like that, in a way. It's probably the fact that he really likes you and is worried about pleasing you. It took my boyfriend about 2 weeks to get over it. But, don't obsess over it, let him know it's not a big deal. The last thing you want to do is make a big deal out of it, it will only make him more anxious about everything. This has nothing to do with him not being attracted to you or anything like that.
If this doesn't clear up in about a month, I'd suggest he go and see his doctor. It could be the result of an underlying medical condition. Not likely, but better safe than sorry.
2007-01-04 01:31:51 · answer #2 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All it takes is patience and love. The guy is nervous and trying too hard. Just relax and enjoy the relationship
2007-01-04 01:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by cp_scipiom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably just nerves.. he's not emotionally comfortable or ready to go all the way yet. instead of trying to have intercourse, take things one step at a time. start by letting him get comfortable with you touching his penis.. once he's relaxed and used to you touching him, then move up to oral sex.. gotta take baby steps with this stuff.. but evnetually, he should be ready and able to go all the way.
2007-01-04 05:45:30 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe hes concentrating too hard on pleasing you and not enjoying himself!
2007-01-04 01:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be he is in a bad mode,tiered, or not ready for sex with u, u know something, man should take his time to be able to have sex with a new girl friend.
man is not sex machine or need to have sex anyway that's totally wrong.
2007-01-04 01:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's not in the mood
2007-01-04 02:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋