Would wives be mad if the hubby was looken on the internet at other women nude or not?

Answer 1

I suppose that since I'm a man, my opinion doesn't count for much here, but my wife understands that me using internet porn doesn't have much to do with her. I did it before we met, I did it when I dated other women and she knew I did it when she married me.

My wife doesn't have a problem with the female body, or the fact that I find it attractive. We have a subscription to "Playboy," in fact, and it wasn't even my idea to sign up for it. I read the articles, she enjoys the pictures (and the party jokes).

Answer 2

Those who would mind are those who are insecure in some fashion, whether they suffer from low self-esteem or are overweight or some other real or imagined problem. This is true for either the husband or wife.
Men and women are vastly different; for men, sexual interest includes visual stimulation to a larger degree than for women; for women it is emotional and/or security.
Neither is wrong, it's just the way things are. Some women will call a man names for doing what instinct drives him to do simply because they either want men to be, or be like, women or have somehow gathered the idea that men, being unlike women are somehow wrong for being different.
That a man looks at other women does not in itself mean that he is disinterested in his wife but her reaction to his doing so is very informative.
Also, if a man looks at women, nude or not, also does NOT mean he would cheat; doesn't mean he wouldn't either but most men adore a pretty face or body. To men, the feminine form is both artistic and sensual.

Answer 3

Yes, my wife was pissed wanted me to trow the computer out. I listened and calmly explained I may be watching women on the computer but haven't had sex with them.She huffed and "said she couldn't understand why men have to look at that crap"
I knew it was only her pride that was hurt nothing to do with the women, How do I know that, well its been 2 years since my wife felt like having sex. After a few days I tried again to get her interested it lasted about 2 days and we where back to no sex again. The total truth is I never cheated on her with any other women although Ive had many opportunities.
So I say to all the married or commit ed women listening " Take care of your man and don`t listen to all the know it all women who shoot from the mouth and say "leave him hes a dog"

Answer 4

I don't get this desperate need some people have to control every single thought and action of their spouse. There seems to be this pervasive, childish belief that one other person in the world must not only be your lover, but your best friend, buddy, pal, bowling team partner, etc. etc. It's absurd. These outsized expectations are the reason so many marriages fail - people watch too many "Cinderella" movies as children.

Look, looking isn't cheating and married isn't dead. So he looks. So what? I'll bet he has sexual fantasies when he's away from the computer. Do you want him to stop that too?

Please, grow up and focus on the things in your marriage that you like. And stop trying to police the man's behavior and every waking thought. Otherwise, he may just seek his freedom, for real. And I for one wouldn't blame him.

Answer 5

If you are at a good place in your marriage and you know how he feels about you then it shouldnt bother you. I like to look at it with my hubby. It gives great new ideas and it makes sex life a bomb!! I may be one of the abnormal females out there, but ive been married almost 17 yrs now. It wasnt until I was secure in my marriage that I was able to do this with him.

Answer 6

I have a similiar ? posted and everyone keeps telling me they ALL do it. I don't buy that. I think that if a man is involved he wouldn't need to get off while looking at someone else - it's kinda like cheating if you think about it. If they claim its how they learn - hey, learning can be a couple experience within the bedroom...together by experimenting and talking and touching and exploring. It annoys me. I think that images like that can get in the way of a healthy sex life. Does the hubby mind if you are looking at well endowed and muscular men and pleasuring yourself while doing it? Try him and see. You'd be surprised at how fast you get your point across!

Answer 7

Karen,

What did they teach you in sex-ed about men? Did they not teach you that men like looking at the naked female? Sheeesh.

Lot's of wifes have a "thou shalt be blind to all other women" mindset, and these women get very very mad if there husband dare to look at other women's beauty. That is there problem. I hope you don't suffer from that problem.

Did you marry him to have a life partner, or did you marry him to have toadie that must deny his interest in all things sexy? Yes - men find women sexy, even after they are married. Shock, shock!

Answer 8

My Fiancee looks at that crap, and I don't like it, but i'm not going to try to be his mom and tell him he can't. Hes not doing anything with the women, I get a little grossed out seeing the stuff on his computer. But he is with me, becuase he loves me. Thats all that matters. Many men (and Women) look at that kind of stuff online.

Answer 9

My boyfriend does this when I am not around, I know that he loves me so it doesn't bother me much. If you have a good relationship with your husband and trust him then I don't think it sound be too much of a worry. I think it is natural for men to do that.

Answer 10

The wife and I fight over who gets to read the Playboy first when it shows up in the mail