I feel so hopeless & alone..?

Question

I'm 26, just purchased my first condo, good job, college educated and far from ugly. Why does it seem like I have the worst luck when it comes to relationships? I dated someone for about a month and he got upset because I didn't feel like I was ready to have sex so soon, so of course I got dumped. I'm so alone and miserable it's not even funny. Sometimes I wish God would just take me out of my misery. I'm a good person and I have a good heart, so why all the bad luck? I'm to the point where I feel like my life has no meaning or purpose anymore. I feel like I'm just existing just because. I've tried praying, and it obviously doesn't work. I'm starting to believe that God either has it out for me or just doesn't care anymore. I just want someone who would treat me good and won't use me. I feel like maybe I'm asking for too much. Should I just settle for any ole guy that passes by just so that I won't have to be alone? I'd really appreciate some answers.. No smart comments please.. thanks

Answer 1

Let's start the end. Never settle for anything. And about God? Now let's see, You have been blessed with beauty, brains, a nice home and the discernment to choose the person you want.

You have meaning and purpose. You can have sex when you want to. When you are ready. Sometimes being dumped is a blessing. Never settle. When people get used, they allow themselves to be used. Have you ever thought based on your behavior that God has put a protective shield around you because you are not strong enough to protect yourself right now? Develop meaning and purpose for yourself. Take this alone time to see who you are. What you want. More importantly what you don't want, Again never settle. Any ole guy is not for you.

Answer 2

First of all, no you shouldn't settle for just anybody so you won't be alone. That doesn't work because if you aren't really good together you will still feel alone. You said you tried praying....you can't just say a prayer for a day or so and then decide it's not going to be answered. God will answer your prayers, just remember that He may not answer as fast as you would like or give you the answer you are looking for. Sometimes what wee want isn't the best thing for us at the time. God knows you and has a plan for your life. Keep praying and don't stop. He will give you what you need. You need to feel good about yourself and your life before you can have a relationship with another person.

Answer 3

Been feeling much the same for the past year or two and I hate to hear about someone else feeling just as miserable and lonely. I guess the only advice I can offer is to keep yourself distracted as best you can while you wait for the person-of-your-dreams to come your way. Surround yourself with friends if possible, and find someone you can trust to talk to. With friends around, even if I'm not too close with them, I forget about feeling depressed, worthless, hopeless, etc., and it might help you as well.

And if you ever just need to talk to someone, feel free to email me. I'm always happy to listen.

Cheers,
Andy