Has this ever happened to anyone?

Question

This is a somewhat personal thing which is kinda hard for me to share in public, so I would appreciate it if you dont dismiss or ridicule it... thx.

Anyways, I am now 16 years old and basically I feel as if all my emotions have suddenly dissapeared. I can find something funny, be sad, or angry but those are not the types of emotions I am talking about.

I am talking about finding something beautiful like a view outside or a fresh feeling inside of me, things like that.

When I was in 9th grade (2-3 years ago) these things were at a peak and I felt really happy and good with myself, I was aware of these things and the feelings were really strong.

And then all of it dissapeared, and I have been searching desperately to get them back.

So naturally I have come up with several hypothesis as to why this is:

1. Lower fitness
2. I have lost a lot of the security you feel when you're older
3. Going beyond that sacred 13 year old age

There are more things, but no more characters left :(

Answer 1

I think it sounds like depression. As you go through adolescence your hormones change, as does most everything in your life. Hormone change can jump start depression in teenagers, which would explain apathy and lack of emotion. I think that you ought to talk with a counselor to get more information on depression to see if that might be a cause.

Good luck and God bless!

Answer 2

Based on what you have written, you seem to be a very mature 16 year old. The fact that you noticed this happening is a vary mature thing. It sounds like you are approaching college age and with that comes a lot of responsibilities; such as figuring out where to attend, if your grades are good enough and the like. One answerer posted that you weren't "growing up". I would disagree with that poster. Typically 16 year olds don't think the way that you are thinking. They are just living in the moment. With that being said, I think that you are experiencing some of adulthood. What that poster needs to realize is that things were different years ago. School is a lot harder, then you have to worry about being accepted by your peers and of course, what life is going to offer you in the future. Just take a deep breath and try to think about things logically, which I am sure you will do! Just try to be a little more active, since you sited that as one of the things that are different. But also remember that you aren't 13 anymore and there are going to be many more challenges that await you as you enter into adulthood! You seem to have your head on straight and that my dear is a huge plus. There are people way older than you that don't have their lives together as much as you appear to. Good luck though, I hope you can find whatever it is that you are missing.

Answer 3

You could be depressed, but I'm not much of a believer in depression. I am not naturally a happy person, but I have found that I have to take my eyes off me, and look to other things to be happy. Get out and walk. Start moving. It wakes up your emotions. Then, look at things in nature... leaves on trees, flowers, babies. Help people. When you see someone (friend or stranger) ask if you can help them. Giving is the best way to feel alive. Forget about being 13. Enjoy the age you are... always!

I don't know what you mean by loss of security. If you feel you are in danger, get help. You'll understand this when you get older, but your parent(s) is doing the best they know how to do at this time in their life. Very few people try to do their 2nd best. The naturally do their best. It may not be good enough for your standards, but it's the best they know how to do.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I'm 60, but remember very well how I felt when I was 16. Dont desperate. Felligns you had when you were a child will never come back. But be sure new emotions will come. Perhaps stronger than the ones you had before. Wait to discover many things that will happen to you. Love, marriage, sons, grandsons. Also learn as much as you can. Knowlege will open for you thouthens of windows that will bring you lots of emotions.

Answer 5

Boss, You are living in denial. So much has changed since you were 13yrs. Almost everyone passes this stage in their lifetime. Alll you need to do is allow the whole stage to passby. By being engrossed on what you used to have is very dangerous. It will lead to depression and it may turn suicidal. I strongly advise you seek psychiatric attention if you cannot let it go.
Otherwise you can manage the situation by living a more social life. Do not spent so much time alone and thinking about the past life.
Good luck friend.

Answer 6

i guess it's quite a normal phase for a teenager. I did go through a similar phase in my life.
But that doesnt mean that you should leave it as it is.

You can try getting involved in more activities that you're interested in.

Or try reading books about self-development or life philosophy. I find these books can help you develop a more mature thinking (not saying that you're not mature now). And it helps give more clarity about yourself and life overall.

not sure if it's gonna work. But worth a try.

Answer 7

Perhaps all you need is a direction in life and the motivation to go follow that direction. Tis something much sought after by people and there are those that never will find it.

Find and develop a passion?

Answer 8

I'm sorry to say young man, but I believe that you are depressed. Depression is the most undiagnosed disorder in America. It affects your moods, your eating habits, your sleep, and your interaction. If God is a part of your life suggest that you seek his aid in pulling you out of such a dark place as to where you can't appreciate His creations. Depression is a form of bondage, and you my friend need to be free.

Answer 9

You mentioned lower fitness. Maybe you need to get some exercise going to stimulate those endorphins. That will bring your mood up. Don't rule out depression though. If it gets worse or persists, see a doctor.

Answer 10

I think you are going through "growing up" and I don't think you are alone. Find some books written from 16 years old point of view. I don't say you will find answers, but, you may find you are not alone.