Did you give your spouse time to decide whether he/she wanted to stay married?
How long?
How did it work out?
My wife moved out 10 months ago, bought a red sports car and within weeks had a boyfriend. We have two small kids. I have no desire to remarry and I hate not seeing my kids everyday. She dumped the chump but says she needs time to think about coming back.
No, I have not put my life on hold. I am very busy when I don't have the kids and have gone out on a few dates (nothing physical or serious
2007-01-04 01:19:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My question is this... Do you mind HER being in control of your life? I'd say you decide what you want and take control. If you want her back tell her, but do so telling her that she has a limited time to decide if that is what she wants. After a ten month separation I would think she could figure that out with a time limit of a week. Tell her she has a week to decide if she wants to come back and after that its over. Its time for YOU to take control of YOUR life and stop waiting for her to decide what she wants. What about what YOU want? My guess is she doesn't want to come back or is using you as a "back up" incase she can't find someone "better". Good Luck to you.
2007-01-04 01:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same here, but neither of us are seeing anyone else. Just giving time to think about what we want. She stays the night most of the week, but were not getting anywhere.
I am wondering how long is enough for her to decide.
I kinda do have my life on hold sorta; so I'm getting impatient as well. Curious how it all works out for you too.
2007-01-04 03:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 10 months. I know that you must love this woman-but she must not feel the same about you anymore. You should put your foot down and let her know that if the marriage isn't worth it to her that she needs to let you know. Explain to your kids the best that you can about this situation and let them know that they can call you whenever they want to talk and when you do have them, make it special. She's jerking with your feelings.
2007-01-04 01:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your pal that she has taken too lots on herself and desires to locate a sparkling domicile for the two the mum and the kittens till the kittens or previous sufficient. Or a minimum of a foster carer, i'm confident you may get the kitten back while it somewhat is previous sufficient. additionally tell her to get the cats neutered
2016-11-26 02:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by woolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the reason you two separated has not changed there's no point in hanging on. 10 months is ample time to decide.
Move on.
2007-01-04 01:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her more time to do what? To use you like a doormat?
You aren't treating yourself much better than she is treating you. Time to grow a pair. Take your life back--such as it may be--and move on.
2007-01-04 02:34:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be foolish to take her back....if shes done it once...she'll do it again....and THAT will tear your kids apart....just do your best to see them as much as you can....find yourself a nice girl that isnt going to play games with you....Sounds like her time of thinking is to just make sure she cant get any better elsewhere...trust me there...
2007-01-04 01:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love her, then give her the time she wants. Who knows, she may decide to come back to you.
2007-01-04 01:21:01 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. If she had any intentions of coming back she would have been back buy now. Sounds like she's having a good loe time. Why would you want her back?
2007-01-04 01:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is fooling you. Dont wait for her. Get along with your life,but you should think of the kids.Can you get their custody?
2007-01-04 01:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋