i have 3 kids and so i have wife but one day maybe 3 weeks ago i was at work and there was a women and i just had sex with her and now she's pregnant from me , my wife also is pregnant too . what should i do ???
2007-01-04 01:07:29 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2007-01-04 02:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a case of you made your bed, now lay in it.
Be a man, tell your wife and let things go from there. And don't woosy out on this other woman either. You knocked her up, now you've gotta have balls enough to be a dad to this child too.
And I have to agree with another post here, ask for a parental blood test to make sure the baby IS yours. Some women will use the old "I'm pregnant" to keep a man. But the trick is, you being man enough to keep it in your pants next time, not use the old excuse of "well I'm just a man" routine. Have some respect for yourself and your family. Get yourself and wifey into counceling and damned quick. Otherwise you may not save this marriage.
2007-01-04 01:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by Voice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that was a stupid thing to do! Is that women at your work going to keep the baby? You have abit of a problem here - You got two women pregnant, one who is your wife, and the other is just a one night stand!
I think your wife has a right to no, tell her that you have been really stupid and slept with someone at work and that it didnt mean anything. You better hope she doesnt leave you cos its not fare on the children!!!!
Good Luck
2007-01-04 01:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by shelley l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to pay for an abortion for the other woman. Tell her you are NOT going to marry her or maintain contact with the baby if she has it. If she goes for it, pay for the abortion, go with her to get it done, and never mention another word about it to anyone and have no further dealings with her.
If she refuses an abortion. You are screwed. You'll have to tell your wife what happened. Think about whether or not you want to stay with her, then apologize and beg her to stay if you want to be together. If not, get a lawyer.
Then either way, you have to come to a settlement with the other woman on child support. It's only money, you'll live.
You may end up living alone in a trailer paying child support for 5 kids and spousal support for an ex-wife, but you'll live through it. They will always leave you enough to just get by. Married or not, you probably won't be buying a boat for awhile.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 01:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WAS married to a man that cheated on me while I was pregnant with our third child. I left him right after the baby was born. He hasn't changed 4 years later - he's still cheating, just not on me. Oh yeah, had a thing with his best friend after I left. The revenge was cathartic. Good Luck - just don't be a jerk to the kids involved or your wife - she didn't make you cheat. Respect her enough (and the kids) to START doing the right things. I hope you make good money - I hope your wife and kids are taken care of financially. What kind of whore screws a married guy anyway, especially at work?
2007-01-04 01:16:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave the country. If you were able to make love to another woman let alone get her pregnant then you are smart enough to know that you just got caught. Probably wasnt the first time and probably wont be the last. Men like you give other men bad names. No excuse. Get fixed. Leave your wife and pay alot of child support. See how that feels.
2007-01-04 01:12:31 · answer #6 · answered by notalucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the girl is lieing, maybe she sleeps around and was already pregnant, and doesn't know by who. After 3 weeks, its hard to tell your pregnant, maybe she just wants you to leave you wife and be with her, I knew someone that faked a pregnancy so the man would leave his wife, girls are sneaky like that. tell her to go to the doctors and find out for sure, the doctor can tell you when she got pregnant, almost to the exact date. don't freak out yet.
2007-01-04 01:20:26 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are in a pickle, aren't you? First off, don't use the screen name Hot Guy unless you are named Guy and you're on fire. Next, tell you're wife. Better she finds out now than a couple of years from now. How she reacts depends on her and her pregnancy hormones. Don't be surprised if she leaves or asks you to leave. Also, get a DNA test done on both babies to make sure their yours before paying child support. And don't worry, you will pay.
2007-01-04 01:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Sharyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my wife (with one woman for two years) and then told her. I was ready to walk out the door when she asked me where I was going. She told me I was staying right where I belonged. That was two years ago and her unconditional love helped me so much. We're still together and happier than we have ever been. But there was no pregnant girlfriend involved. Regardless, you need to face reality, face the truth and take responsibility for your actions. Be a man!
2007-01-04 01:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by jonthestoryteller 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Three weeks is not enough time to necessarily know for sure. This woman may be lying to you. Even if she's pregnant, are you sure it's yours? It was a dumb thing to do but some things this other woman told you may be false. You should tell your wife about your indiscretion nevertheless.
2007-01-04 01:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aborting the other woman's pregnancy is certainly not an option. U have to come clean before ur wife and hope that she'll forgive. But if she refuses to forgive, well l guess life goes on because to err is human and to forgive is divine,
2007-01-04 01:14:08 · answer #11 · answered by genie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋