I accidentally came across chat logs of his conversation with this girl I know and they are very upsetting! He is talking very dirty to her and her back and it says that he picks her up and takes her for cruises, meanwhile he acts like such a sweetheart to me I feel like such a fool, he is a completely different person from what I thought he was, we have been together fo a little over 4 years!!! What do I do?
2007-01-04 01:01:14 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, That sucks, but you can't just let this one go. Kick his a** to the curb. No woman pregnant or not should be put in this kind of situation, and honestly if he really loved you so much, he wouldn't dare do a thing like this to you, especially when you are pregnant. Several of my friends have went through times like this, and they always end up going back just to get their heart broken again and again. After the the first time, I have no pitty because it is their own fault they got hurt again.
Get him for as much child support as you can. I know that sounds awful, but he should have thought about that before he screwed around on you!
It's like a baby, they will touch a hot stove burner only one time, and they get burnt, why would they want to touch it again?
2007-01-04 01:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all some of you should be ashamed of yourselves! You do not punish an unfaithful partner by not letting him have any part in the upbringing of his own child!! How unbelievably cruel and twisted would that be?
I would be brave and confront him but just make sure you're prepared to hear the worst. Maybe he's scared about the whole parenting thing which is by no means an excuse but perhaps a reason. You need to talk to your fiancee not the yahoo community. Good luck xx
Just reread some of the answers again and can't believe some of you would use a child as a pawn in some twisted revenge plot! Just because a man doesn't make a good partner doesn't mean he won't go on to be a wonderful father. My father in law being a perfect example. My husband adores his dad. The fact that he's a womaniser plays no part in their relationship. rant over.
2007-01-04 01:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by Velvet_Goth 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Most issues between young couples center on lack of or miscommunication. Talk to your fiancee, find out what's really going on. Oftentimes online chatting is merely fantasy fulfillment and never something they would attempt in the real world. However, if he's actually been cheating on you, then you have a serious problem that needs addressing immediately, one that has implications not only for whether you may or may not get married but for the unborn child he has fathered. Good luck.
2007-01-04 01:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by Reo 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. This is a truly shitty situation to be in. You need to talk to him, and DO NOT try to make him pity you because you are pregnant (at best, he will stay because he feels bad) and DO NOT threaten him with his child. Stay as calm as possible and tell him what you found. Myadivce from there would be to tell him goodbye. Even if you can get past this, I have a feeling you will do nothing but worry about it and be suspocious for the rest of your life with him. It will be very hard, but you need to move on. As soon as your child is born, go to your local Domestic Relations office and file for child support.
For your sake and the sake of your child, don't stay with this man. He will only continue to hurt you. Be strong and good luck.
To nanny: putting the cart before the horse had nothing to do with her situation. They were in a committed relationship and I am sure that he would have behaved the same way whether they were married or not. It is not your place to judge. At least now she doesn't have to deal with the hassle of divorce!
2007-01-04 01:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by lookinforanswers 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you. I know for the baby I should be telling you to confront him and try to make it work for the sake of the baby but in all honesty there is a strong possibility that he'll do it again and there's also the issue of trust and fear that you'll have to deal with constantly. You'd be better off without him. There are no excuses for what he's doing so don't let people tell you it's because of your pregnancy. Good luck.
2007-01-04 01:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get your things in order, you need a terrific friend or family member now to help you. You are going to need all your strength to get through this along with the delivery of your newborn. This next month will be a tough one for you considering the emotional turmoil your fiancee has put upon you. This should be a time of true bliss and happiness for you, the birth of your first child, a miracle on its own. Speak with a family member or good friend who know you both, seek their advice and help. My heart feels for you. Be strong and move on.
2007-01-04 03:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this since you are pregnant...once a cheater, always a cheater. You could confront him and get it out in the open, but then what is the guarantee he is not going to cheat again if you stay with him?? NONE!! In fact, it is more likely he will cheat on you again, multiple times. If he has lied to you this long and about something so important, just leave and do what is best for you and your baby.
2007-01-04 01:05:32 · answer #7 · answered by balooney2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is reality most men cheat when their wives are pregnant and when the baby comes they do stop. Maybe it is just a fling don't confront him yet. Have your baby wait a little and see what happens. If he is still cheating on you by the confront him. I know this may not make sense to you but this situation happens to a lot of women (Sad to say).Men just get unattracted when you are pregnant and seek sex else way (which is not right) but luckily for some women when they are back to normal their men are faithful again while others still cheat. Find out which category your man falls in then take action.
2007-01-04 01:25:18 · answer #8 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell one of your friends to help you out with this because you dnt need the stress on you. together you can then work out whether you want to talk about it with him or leave or what have you. Just do what ever is right for you and the baby at this stage. If hes not ther to support you there will always be som one else. If he loves you he will stop if he doesnt make sure he never sees that child! EVER!!
Take care gorgeous.
... x o x o !
2007-01-04 01:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by ♥..::Amy::..♥ 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one. My advice is move out and raise the baby on your own and try to seek help from your family. He will probably never come clean in terms of admitting what he's done. If he's willing to attend couples counseling and actually take care of you and the child, then maybe you could let him back in your life. I'd warn him it's going to be an uphill battle though to get back your trust.
2007-01-04 01:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋