I have an almost 5 yr old and an 11mon old. My husband and I decided that we should have another baby now but, I'm worried that it may be to soon after the last pregnancy. And, am I just asking for trouble having 2 in diapers?
2007-01-04 00:58:29 · 17 answers · asked by ea1825 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Ha! My kids are 13 months apart. Trouble, no... difficult and overwhelming at times?... definately. I also had a harder time because my son ( 2nd born) had jaundice and colic and they thought he had pyloric stenosis ( thank goodness those tests came back negative) By the time your new baby comes, your now 11 month old will be well on their way to potty training. I wouldn't worry.
2007-01-04 01:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bottom line: How do you feel about it?
However, do think about it from the broad perspective. Why is it necessary to have another at this time? Unless you're on the edge of menopause or have other reproductive issues, I suggest waiting. A year and a half difference may be fine with some people, but that doesn't erase the involved stress.
If you were to immediately get pregnant, at the baby's birth you'd have an almost 2 year old and 6 year old. Even gentle children are handfuls at those ages because they're going through major changes, again. Add on the less pleasant parts of having an infant, and that's a triple dose of worry and frustration.
2007-01-04 01:19:56 · answer #2 · answered by erythisis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait a few yrs if I were you.My 2 oldest children are 5yrs apart.I found that easy to deal with because the eldest was in full time school before the second arrived. I then had a 10 yr gap before having my last 2 children 17 months apart.For me it has been the hardest few years of my life,mentally,physically and financially. Some people cope great with kids close together,I didn't.Make your judgment on your own abilities and temperament.It isn't always roses round the door.
2007-01-04 01:15:18 · answer #3 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart! I have an 8 year old and a 2 year old....we want another but I know I don't want 2 in diapers...so we are waiting. I have friends that have 2 young ones and LOVE it. Do what is best for you and your family. Having 2 in diapers is doable and you will survive....I am sure you will be tired but who isn't these days!
If you are so unsure take some more time to talk it over with your husband.....you both will know when he timing is right!!
2007-01-04 01:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mary P 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who brought up the idea? You or hubby? Is he pushing you to have the next one?
Does hubby help with all the work involved with this? Or, is it always you that has to do things? Does he ever take over with the kids so you can have time to go out with friends?
If everything is on you all the time, then maybe you should wait for another year or so. If you have a lot of help with the kids, maybe you'll be ready soon.
2007-01-04 01:15:24 · answer #5 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its really up to you at the end of it all. your the one who is going to be looking after them all day.Providing for them. Think how things is now are you coping well with the children you have got. Have you enough time to give each child its own time with you. Is your husband a good father or leaves you to cope on your own most of the time. Would you be able to cope if your husband wasn't around having three children. Is your house big enough for another person living there. Which even you decide i wish you all the best.
2007-01-04 01:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by kiarakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 29 month old in pull ups, and a 8 month old in diapers, and eight weeks with my third. If you are ready go for it. I love my girls being close since there is 6 and 8 years between me and my sisters and hated the distance. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-04 01:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by kristin h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I wouldn't say you are "asking for trouble", I think you are being a little hard on yourself. But to answer your question its easier to have two small children than one because they can keep each other company as per my aunts and mom who all have a minimum of 3 children each. They tell me that when you have two young ones close in age the entertain each other and give you more time to get other things done like house cleaning and stuff like that where as if you have one older child and one young one they like different things and are on different levels so you are working like hell to make sure they are not getting into anything you know what I mean. . . . I think you will be fine.
2007-01-04 01:09:22 · answer #8 · answered by Love United 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give Your Body Chance to feel normal again before leaping back in to being Pregnant!
Leave till your Youngest is 3-4Yrs Old at Least!
2007-01-04 01:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by J. Charles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its totally up to you if you want another child then have another one. I think its a good think that they are close, they will be able to do more things together.
2007-01-04 02:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋