i'm a white athiest girl, although i was brought up christian. my boyfriend is hindu. this is proving difficult for our relationship, as his parents are giving hims stres over the whole culture difference/mixed relationship thing, they say he shouldn't even be having a girlfriend at this age (17). however, we get on so well and really really like each other. but i'm not sure how much of a problem his parents are going to be.
he said they're not forbidding him, but they are disappoiinted and they are making it difficult. also, he seems to worry that i will cheat on him or something, and so he needs reasurrance because he said he doesn't want to upset his parents for a quick fling. but we both want something serious but he still seems to be unbelieving of that on my part.
what shall i do? is there any way i can convince his parents? and convince him that i am serious about this relationship?
i am more than willing to convert to hinduism if this ever gets really serious,that's not a problem for me...just his parents and be being white. i really want to be with him and he really wants to be with me but they're making it so difficult...
2007-01-04 00:23:07 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
iv'e been in cahtolic schooling all my life until the past few months when i moved-i don't believe in God due to past experiences, science, logic etc. i tried very hard to believe but i havn't for about a year now.
i think he would be willing to marry, although that is far off. we were very good friends before we got together, he told me he liked me since the beginning of october but i wasn't sure if i liked him back and i also didn't want a boyfriend. howveer i am now 100% sure that i do, and that i want him. i knew going into this that he wanted something serious-he made this very clear to me. i do as well. i know he is crazy for me, the only thing is his parents...he said that indian boys are not even supposed to have girlfriends till like 2 years before marraige, but he likes me so much so he can't help it..
2007-01-04 00:59:08 · update #1
If you continue with the relationship you will likely alienate him from his family. That is a huge problem. It is tough, but it might be best to step back and let this go. There are cultural concerns here hard for you to understand. As a last resort perhaps you could point blank talk to his parents. Explain your desires and willingness to convert. However, I wouldn't hold out for much hope. Sorry.
2007-01-04 00:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by Boilerfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I'm not supposed to ask questions...but if you were brought up Christian why don't you believe in God? Please can you answer this question?
I will now go on to answer your question. I won't lie to you, inter-racial relationships are tough but can work out successfully with a little maturity, hard work, and luck (which I call divine favour) on both sides.
My second question is do you even SEE yourself getting married to this guy? If you don't I suggest you end the relationship as quickly as possible cos it would only end in heartache: why damage your realtionship with your parents for a guy you wouldn't end up with? Try to find out if he would go all the way for you too. Also don't discredit your parents advice, you don't know if they've had experience with such matters. The fact that his parents won't forbid him makes me suspect they understand how he feels from past experience.
My third point is not to get involved in a religion if you do not believe in. If the zeal isn't there you won't last and it could lead to some awkward situations such as the guy asking why you don't pray...
My final point: Not everything that feels good is actually right, I'm sure a friend of yours has had her heart broken in the past, it must have felt wonderful at first but that's how life is. Not everything that glitters is gold.
You don't have to act just cos you feel a certain way. Jus cause you're angry doesn't mean you have to punch someone. I have also fallen head over heels for a Hindu girl though she isn't very serious about her religion. Till today she doesn't know I like her and I'm not going to tell her cos we're close friends and I know I'll find someone else. Life's like that, many fish in the sea...
...oh...science and logic don't disprove God. I don't know why people say that when they don't even know 1/100....0000% of the secrets of the universe. I leave you to ponder this question: Millions of years ago the universe including all physical things (e.g the world, which was without form at the beginning of the Bible) was created by a big bang. WHO created that big bang?
2007-01-04 00:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Homerun hero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it is an extremely common custom conflict. you're nevertheless youthful and once you boost up you will recognize this happens on a much bigger scale everywhere familiar. i think of you're able to tell him which you're prepared to transform in time. in case you ever meet his family individuals, attempt to no longer talk faith and understand something they say approximately theirs. the certainty which you do not have faith would not propose you have the suited to underestimate human beings's ideals. the only thank you to cajole him which you're a stable female is which you do stay with their son. no longer cheat on him and make him chuffed. supply it time. If issues bypass high quality, in time, they are going to end viewing you as a white aethist, they are going to view you because of the fact the lady who loves their son and whom their son loves back quite. merely have staying power. stable success!
2016-10-06 10:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋