bullying at work how do you stop it?

Question

i have alrady finished from work she was evil what she said to me then i had a nervous breakdown not long after i am always getting bullied for one thing or another i hate them how do i get her back i havfve sent a letter of grievance to personnell in south wales and she said that she is happy with the appeal procedure and that the matter is concluded well im not happy with it at all it was distgusing with what she said i cant find anyone to do ststements as hey are not interested or not bothered what is my next step i have just about recovered from my breakdown and have about 2% confidence i relly want to get her back somehow for the humiliation as i was already claerly upset but she just laid into me with no union rep present my word against her and personel any tips

Answer 1

Report it to your immediate supervisor IN WRITING and keep a copy of it. Wait for a couple of days and then talk to the supervisor to see what he/she has done about it. If this doesn't work, then WRITE A SECOND LETTER to the supervisor of your supervisor and send a copy to the Human Resources Manager. Always keep copies of what you write. Be very specific on the dates when the bullying occurred and also be very specific of how this made you feel at the moment. Add names of any witnesses you may have, only witnesses that saw and heard the person during the bullying. If possible, add in your letter that you want to be reassigned to another area so you won't have to endure the presence of this person anymore or ask for that person to be reassigned. Hope this works out; if not, hire a labor relations lawyer who can really help you out.

Answer 2

Record all instances of bullying in a diary. When you have two or three good tangiable examples (perhaps you alrerady have) of the behaviour bring these to the attention of a trusted superior (not necessarily your boss). After consultation with that person you can then decide if you wish to pursue a formal complaint. It might be possible to resolve the issue informally without having to go the formal route - it might be better all round to do so.

Stopping it will involve bringing the bully to understand that their beheviour is unwelcome and wrong and that it must stop. You will probably need your boss (unless it is him/her and so long as they are understanding) to push this forward.

Unfortunately, much of what constitutes bullying is subtle and difficult to prove or document. It is important that you find an understanding colleague or friend in which to confide.

Check the HR policy oin bullying and check the Health & Saftey Authority guidelines on how to handle bullying.

There is a plethora of info. on the web about it too. Type "workplace bullying" into Google and see what comes back.

Good luck and don't give up even if your confidence is low. You are right.

Answer 3

Depending on what country you're in, even what state or province , the rules may differ but basically you report to the highest supervisor you have. If it happens more than once , document every incident, time , date, what was said or done, make two copies one to give to the highest supervisor or ceo and one to keep for yourself. Do not keep these at work.

If nothing is resolved at work by supervisor or ceo, you can go to the board of directors or stakeholders and let them know. You also file a complaint with your human resources department , your federal or state employment standards office or ministry of labour office and if all else fails you file a complaint to the human rights office.

This will take time , but be sure to document every incident to the fullest. The more information you have other than he said /she said , will be able to show a pattern and that is indicative of his/her abilities to manage and lead.

Workplace bullying , like any kind of bullying has been tolerated too long and generally workplace bullies were schoolyard bullies who found the tactic of intimidation and nastiness worked for them so they just apply it to every situation they encounter. They need to find new ways of managing or coping in society and the earlier that is recognized, the lesser the chance that the behaviour will carry on into adulthood.

Yes bullies are usually victims too and become bullies because they have been bullied themselves.

However not doing something about bullying whether in the schoolyard, at work, at home , makes you just as guilty as the bully him/herself, if not more because you witnessed it but you were too gutless to do anything about it and you didn't want it to happen to you so you just looked the other way or egged on the bully.

Answer 4

CAB can offer advise on Bullying at work also the Job Centre can advise on other avenues you can pursue.

I would suggest first following whatever company procedures you have for grievance.

If all else fails find another job, not all companies employ or tolerate bullies go work for someone nicer. Keep your chin up LOL Chris C

Answer 5

In my experience the best thing to do with bullys is to stand right up to them. You'll get more respect for sure.

Remember that youre paid to fulfil the terms of your contract and thats it. Beyond that you dont owe anyone at your workplace anything and if youre not getting treated right then you have an obligation to yourself to put them straight.

I would recommend doing a course in assertiveness, it can really help.

Answer 6

Have you considered seeing a counsellor at your GPs surgery, to work through why you seem to attract bullies. I left my previous job because of bullying by a co-worker who was insecure and she saw me as a threat; she had no computer experience and one of my bosses wanted part of the work we did to be computerised. I left as I was unable to cope with the stress, went to my GP and worked through this issue with a counsellor and it helped. The job I am in now has a bully who also sees me as a threat, I am not going to leave, when the time is right I will confront her, but I must learn to control the anger she stirs within me. She will be told to stop bullying me. My boss does not want me to leave and is supportive but I must deal with the bully myself or I believe I could move to another job and have the same problem as I am running away from the situation. Some people we can deal with, some are impossible and then its time to move on, but it is how they affect you that is important and how you deal with that. Problems repeat until we have the courage to deal with them and stand up for ourselves and rights.

Answer 7

I am in exactly the same position!
We unfortunatly don't have an HR department so I have called a meeting with the company's MD as my own line manager is not interested.

Make sure your direct manager is aware of the situation if they are not bothered go higher! Don't stand for it, it not fair and i know exactly how you feel!

Answer 8

SIMPLE.

Dont take nothing. Treat people how you wanna be treated, if they dont treat you how you want to be treated, treat them how they treat you.

Just think like this, the way they treat you, would you like them to treat your daughter/son like that, if not, tell them exactly how immature and nasty they are. What can they say back if its true. Nothing, they will probably be speechless for a few seconds, look the wan!ker in the face then turn on your right heel, and walk away. i HATE bullies. tell me and i'll sort the C*nt out! lol xx

but seriously, dont take what you dont have to, bullies are the most terrified and insecure people TRSUT ME !!

Answer 9

i'm havin this at the moment.

Are you a new starter? Do tell us more- whats the situation??

Are you speaking up for yourself when someone says somthing to you?

I can help more but you need to give me sum more info. I wouldn't report it yet- you must try and help yourself, before going straight to HR- I've been fired after telling HR about somone before! lol EDIT thanks for the extra info some have offered some good advice- good luck hang in there x

Answer 10

Bullies live on attention. Ignore him/her. Don't look their way. When they try to talk to you act like you don't hear or see them. Unless it's your boss then you're gonna have to find a better job.