My Sister got pregnant by her boss, Should she have an abortion.?

Question

I now this sound horrible but she is married and no one else knows about this just she and I. Can we blackmail her boss he is married too.

Answer 1

That's a tough one. The abortion decision should be made by your sister. The blackmail answer is no. A baby is not a bargaining chip. This might be a question for Dr. Phil ;-)

Answer 2

Why should you blackmail her boss and create even more trouble and confusion? Why making a difficult situation worse? Help your sister and sit down with her. If she decides to have an abortion, go with her and be supportive. The decision is with her. The next step would be to also careful look how and why she got herself into such a mess and how she can create a better life for herself.

And I agree with Rab. Facts 74 is not helpful and posts nothing but cheap pro life propaganda. Shame on you, girl! Develop some compassion.

Answer 3

Ouch -- that's a tough one. I won't get into the bad things about having affairs...office romances, etc because this happens every day. Heck, we spend more time with co-workers than we do our spouces and those that are acting high and mighty on the subject just don't realise how common this is. (Not to say it's right...)

Seeing as how both your sister and her boss are adults - it's time to act like them. The baby didn't ask for this to happen and no matter what anyone says - that baby does feel pain. (just watch TLC or the Discovery Channel)

Your sis may end up gettng divorced but as long as she gets a job (we'll assume here she'll need a new one...) and gets child support from her boss, she will be fine.

Answer 4

Wow, this is a tough one. She was wrong to cheat on her husband, especially with someone at work, and who is her boss. I am a believer that "two wrongs don't make a right," as cliche as it may sound. Things like this will catch up with her, so I think she should deal with it and get it all out in the open now. It will be terrible for her, her boss, his wife, her job, her husband, her family. But I think they deserve to know the truth and she should deal with this in a mature way. And, it would be an awful burden for her to hide and carry by herself the rest of the way. Maybe this way, her marriage could get help. If she hides this from her husband things will eventually get worse. Lies are detrimental to every kind of relationship.

And blackmailing the boss isn't a good idea. She would only get herself in deeper. They both chose this mistake, now they should step up to the plate and make it right. It's the only way ANY good could come out of this mess. They should be honest with their spouses. And the child should live. Perhaps she could give him/her up for adoption. Keeping the child of her affair would probably be really hard on her marriage. I can't imagine what that would be like. She could do it though, or give it up for adoption or something. I am not saying this wouldn't be the absolute hardest thing EVER. My heart goes out to her situation, but, though the right path is the most difficult, I think it would really benefit your sister in the long run, even after braving the tumultulous storm she is about to face.

And good luck to you. Being a good friend and brother in these situations is hard, because you don't want to see your sister hurt. But encourage her to do the right thing. It will be the hardest and worst thing she's ever had to do. But it will be worth it. Don't ask her to live the rest of her life in lies. And perhaps seek the help of a professional counselor, for her situation, and later, her marriage. Non-denominational churches have many. Or perhaps you could find a non-profit service or something.

I really wish you all the best. I hope you both get the strength and wisdom to make this awful situation right.

Answer 5

This is a tough situation, they should not have cheated on their spouses in the first place but to do it unprotected? That is beyond stupid. Now a poor child has to suffer. They best just come clean and give the baby up for adoption. It seems that the only reason she wants to have an abortion is because she wants a simple solution to the problem.

Answer 6

Okay, blackmail is illegal. You can do it, but there are consequences. The truth is that your sister probably engaged in one or more sex acts with her boss quite voluntarily and now must deal with an unwanted pregnancy. Abortion is a very drastic step, but it is a personal decision. It is not the unborn child's fault that he or she was concieved in an illigitimate union.

Answer 7

It takes 2 to tango. She is as much at fault as he is. I personally don't believe in abortion since it is murder. That baby didn't ask for this to happen and it is unfair to kill it. Blackmail is against the law, but, he can be accountable for child support if she wants to prove he is the father, either way both of their marriages are destroyed unless they both have spouses who can cope with what they have done. She and he will have guilt surrounding theirs, whether they tell or not.

Answer 8

This is a decision ONLY your sister can make. If she chooses to have an abortion then she is the one that is going to have to live with the decision she made.

Answer 9

No, of course not. The unborn child is the only one who is completely innocent in this situation, and he or she does not deserve to die. Your sister's boss will be responsible for paying child support. Your sister should see this information before she does something she will regret the rest of her life:

Photos and Video of Abortions, Including 1st Trimester Abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Photos and Facts About Prenatal Development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
http://www.lifeissues.org/ultrasound/11weeks.htm

Pain Perception in the Unborn:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html

Abortion Risks:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm

Abortion Deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, Confidential Pregnancy Help (including referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp

EDIT: Rab, when did I say a young girl who is forced to abort will go to hell for it? Please do not misrepresent my words. Anyone who wants to read what I said can here:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AvJXfUru60zArLA6XkfNH1Xsy6IX?qid=20070103235032AAguVs6&show=7#profile-info-3769ef89a1457fcf254b42fa731e9e49aa

Also, I find it rather ironic that people like Sinka chastise me for a supposed lack of compassion, but have absolutely no compassion for innocent, defenseless human beings in the womb. Do you think ripping off their limbs or poisoning them to death is "compassionate?" You can call the information I provide "propaganda" if you like, but that doesn't make any of it less true. It is pro-aborts who hide the truth behind euphemisms like "choice" and "termination of pregnancy."

Answer 10

I don't think she should get an abortion. She spread her legs for this man, she should pay the consequences. And I think someone should tell her husband, and someone should tell his wife! People like that make me fvckin sick!