ok this is a tough situation, i am three months pregnant, the guy i am pregnant by i have dated on and off for like 7 years when i told him i was pregnant at 5 weeks, he in return told me that he was seeing someone else. if that didnt hurt enough he has been putting her before me and just not being there for me as much. i went over to his house the other night and we talked and he told me that he is just confused and doesnt know what he wants and he told me that he is still very much in love with me he just needs time, well i kind of told him how i feel but i dont think anyone is really getting it, i cry myself to sleep most nights, i just feel super alone, half my friends stopped talking to me cause i dont go out anymore, i am already taking depression meds and been since before i was pregnant, what should i do, how can i get myself back on track and stop worrying about who is there for me and who isnt.
2007-01-04 00:14:29 · 4 answers · asked by puppy love 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Honey I went through that exact thing when I was pregnant with my first. I was only 18, and his dad ran away when he found out I was pregnant... I didn't go out anymore so all of my friends could care less about me.. I felt all alone.. I was scared, depressed and had no one to confide in. I layed in bed at night though rubbing my belly and realized that I didn't have time for all of this sadness. I was about to be a mom, and isn't that the GREATEST thing ever??? Just think about this beautiful precious life that you are bringing into this world.. think about all of the love you will have for each other.. all of the things you will teach him.. watching him giggle.. watching him grow..
Being a mom is tough.. but so so so rewarding. AS far as the boyfriend.. drop his sorry tail! IF he is acting like this in one of your greatest times of need, it is just a reflection of how he is going to be in the future.. he is probably just going to drag you down.. Saying "i need time to think" is just a way to try and buy more time because you are too scared to say what you really want..
You just have to get real about everything! And get strong for you and this beautiful baby.. because he is going to need you.
Good luck!
2007-01-04 00:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Legs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything is going to be fine. In 5 years from now, when you look back at this moment you will wonder why did you feel so bad when you have such a fantastic gift in your child. He/She will fill you wish such a tremendous joy that you will not be able to contain yourself.
Do not beg your bf.If he is not coming to you, perhaps he SHOULDN'T be around you. That is not the type of person you want to have around.
Do not fear about doing this alone. You are NOT the first single mother that has succeeded, neither will be the last. Moreover, if you have the right attitude towards life, you will find the right man to fill your needs... but finding the right person REALLY starts with you, and the attitude you have.
If you have a positive attitude, you will attract positive people to your life. Like attracts like. Always remember that.
Cheer up. Be strong. The world continues. Face your problems, deal with them, and do not worry. Everything will be find. If you are weak, seek God and ask for comfort with all your heart.
2007-01-04 08:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through such a hard time right now. I think this guy sounds like a jerk and you are better off without him. You are pregnant with his child and he says he loves you, what is there to be confused about? Of course, I do not know him so I may be wrong but any man that puts a woman they supposedly love through additional stress right now is an *** and does not deserve you or your love. You will get through it. Go talk to a therapist or a woman's counselor at the YWCA. They are free and it will help. Good luck to you!
2007-01-04 09:25:49 · answer #3 · answered by ShanaJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll pray for you. I am sorry you are in so much pain. Please do the same for me.
2007-01-04 09:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by micg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋