I had a bad time after my first Cesarean, any tips on how i can get over it?

Question

i was put into special care unit after a haemorage and didnt get to enjoy the first weeks of my sons life, i want to have more but just to scared!

Answer 1

Awww, I'm so sorry about your experience. I too had a rough experience with my first c-section, although not quite as bad as yours. I developed a bad infection and ran a high fever for several weeks and was confined to my bed so I too feel like I didn't get to enjoy the first weeks with my son.

However, I just gave birth to my second child via c-section in August and I'm very happy to say that it went much more smoothly. I didn't nearly as bad afterwards and of course didn't develop an infection so my recovery was rather quick this time around. I was sore for about a month, and just had to keep reminding myself (like my husband didn't LOL) to take it easy and not over do it. Easier said than done when you have a 4 year old and run an in-home daycare!

I did have a really rough pregnancy this time though, I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes and was put on medication to control it and was hospitalized several times. Now I have been told that I will have it (and of course a c-section) with any subsequent pregnancies that I have. Knowing this, and that it will make it a VERY long and difficult pregnancy has not changed my feelings about having a third child. It helps for me to know that my husband is so supportive and will be there for me every step of the way. I hope that you have that too. Just remember that it's only a few weeks of pain verses a lifetime of love and happiness when you have your baby. I encourage to think about your son and how much he means to you, this will help you get through anything. You should also be proud of your accomplishment, you went through a lot to have your son and I have no doubt that you can do it again.

I wish you the best and if you should ever need any support please feel free to email me, the link is on my Answers profile.

Answer 2

Hi,
Its completely normal to be scared. I'm not much on cesarean because I had both my daughters the normal way. But I can suggest some tips for ya. One, be thankful that your ok and so is your child. You can never get back the time you lost while you were in special care unit. But make the most of it while you can and be thankful everything worked out.
Just don't be scared to have other children. I have heard tho that when you have a first ces done that the rest of your child baring will be the same. But it also depends on how big the child is and how you are able to have a normal child birth.
Just let your body heal before you decide to have more children. It needs to. Wait a yr or two before you try again. Maybe by then you will be over being scared and it will be easier on ya.
Congrats on the new one!!!

Answer 3

I take it that your baby is still quite young & if this is right Please talk to your health visitor or health advisor.
Certainly before planning for another child go & see your nurse at the Dr's surgery & ask why things went badly wrong last time & ask advice about how long you need between births to allow all the layers of tissue that were cut to heal.
The amount of children you are recommended to have if you can only give birth by cesarean varies from one hospital to another but I know my hospital say no more than 3.

Enjoy your young one while you can, times pass so quickly & they soon grow up.
Allow yourself sufficient time to recover properly before trying for another baby.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

more as in more kids? scared as in would you have to have another cesarean? well honestly there's nothing to be scared of. If in the future you decide to have more children, it's only up to your doctor to decide to have another c-section. Reasons for that is risk of tearing while having a baby naturally, or risk of another hemorage. Don't be scared, have more babies if you want, but if you're scared of many things, discuss them with your doctor and your husband and go from there GL :)

Answer 6

i had a caesarean the first time i know how u feel!
so the second time i wanted a natural birth and the emotions were so different.
ask your doctor as everyone is different, ive known a lot of people
2 have a distressing birth and pregmancy for there next one to be fine
good luck! hope it all works out for u

Answer 7

I had the same, just think positive, for me being with my son helped me, and just take your time to recover don't put a timescale on it. Hope you feel ok and enjoy your son.

Answer 8

ask your dr. about this. i'm scared to death to even have one!