I'm going to a sleepover party soon, and the friend's house it's going to be at has a pool. I've already told her that I'm going and I'm moving soon, so I definetly want to go to the sleepover. But it's right in the middle of my period and I don't feel comfortable wearing tampons. If she asks if we want to go swimming, how should I tell her I can't without getting myself embarassed, considering she doesn't have her period yet?
2007-01-04 00:05:27 · 27 answers · asked by GoldyFishy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
speak to her on a one 2 one. if she is a true friend she will understand and u can still put on shorts and dip your toes so you will be near everyone else and can get splashed and enjoy the fun. you would be surprised how many people actually understand. i f you cant face to face do it via text or phone!! goodluck :-)
2007-01-04 00:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by flubberlubberlubber 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Every thing will be ok. You can go about this in many ways.
I am not sure how old you are, but if she hasnt started her period you would have to be pretty young. Maybe middle school.
In that case I undertand, that you wouldnt feel comfortable wearing a tampons. Dont use them till you are ready and dont let people pressure you.
Having a period is nature. And I know that is the last thing you want to hear.Here is a few ways you can hadle this.
tell her that you cant at the time for personal reasons and leave it at that. If you feel comfrotable tell her. But you dodnt have to.
Leave your swimsuit at home, and you cant share a swimsuit mom wont let you.
Have your mom call and ask that you are unable to swim EAR ACHE. That would be good.
Your skin is real dry and will cause you to dry out more.
IF ITS A PARTY THERE WILL BE MORE GIRLS THERE. WEAR SHORTS AND A CUTE TANK TOP.... SOAK YOUR FEET AND LAUGH HAVE FUN WITH EVERY ONE. JUST DONT SWIM. PAINT YOUR TOES OH SO CUTE! HAVE FUN
2007-01-04 03:36:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so everyone has basically given you really great advice...sooo i'm not gonna repeat what they've already said - i just wanted to comment on what one person said...and that was if you go into a pool without a tampon that it is dangerous....well it's really not and you obviously sound like someone younger who is still unaware and i didn't want you seeing that and start to freak out like something will happen to you lol. and don't be shy about the whole not being able to use tampon thing - i'm 19 and i've still never worn tampons and really don't plan on it lol i had a lot of friends tell me well you should because you're going to "have to" someday...but there is no rule saying you must wear tampons...if your more comfortable and confident with pads then wear pads. :)
2007-01-04 04:25:29 · answer #3 · answered by Elise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the sleepover party and enjoy it. Just tell her ahead of time that you will not be swimming since it will be your "time of the month". These days, most girls have been educated on this subject enough to know what you would be talking about. Just wear some shorts when you go poolside and I'll betcha that there might be a few of the other girls with the same problem hanging out with you.
If anybody suggests borrowing one of their tampons, tell them you can't use them. If anyone insists you go in the pool, just smile and say not today. They will probably get the drift of what you mean.
Sweetie, the most important thing is to relax and enjoy the time with your friends. Be sure to take some pictures at the party so when you move, you can take your memories of your friends with you.
2007-01-04 00:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by moekittykitty 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
When I had the same problem a long time ago. I where shorts and a bikini top. I wadied in teh water and set with my feet in the pool When asked why I wasn't swimming *b/c I love to swim* I just told them taht I thought I was coming down with a cold.
Ansd about the tampon thing, don't let anyone talk you inot till you are ready. Heck I'm 26 and a mother and I still can't wear tampons I have tried and they aren't comofrtable. It doesn't mean you aren't comofrtable with your body. Some people just can't wear them
2007-01-04 03:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your friend that you cannot go into the swimming pool for one simple reason - it's your time of the month
she will see where you are coming from and understand.
You can still have fun and sit by the pool and have a splash around. Just don't leave your pad on and go in as it will come off and that will be more embarresing than telling your friend!
Don't be scared to tell her, as she is your friend.
Good Luck
2007-01-04 00:56:18 · answer #6 · answered by shelley l 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude to Tracy, but definitely do NOT go into the pool without a tampon- that could be harmful to your body, other people, and potentially much more embarrassing then the period itself.
I've delt with the same thing before. Bring a magazine and if they ask why you're not swimming tell them you're reading. If your friend's keep asking just simply explain to them that it's not a good of the month for you to swim- or just be blunt whichever works best for you.
Regardless you can do what YOU want to do.
2007-01-04 01:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by K 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This happened to my 14yr old daughter last week.
She didn't want to tell her friend/s so she asked me about tampons. She tried a couple of brands but found it to hard to do. (nerves) I said that she should be able to speak to her friend or mother, but she still wouldn't. Luckily the outing was cancelled, but I had the opportunity to speak to her friend when she invited my daughter to sleepover( because I had to remind her to take her pads). Her friend said that she just tells her friends straight why she won't swim and they haven't made fun of her because they all have the same problem at some stage. Good Luck
2007-01-05 23:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Vera K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's time for you to get more comfortable with your own body and experiment with tampons. One day dear, you're going to love the fact that you know your body well. It will be an important part in being able to tell if there's something wrong with your vagina / labia - like sexually transmitted diseases like herpes. Only if you take the timeto understand and explore your female sexuality will you ever really understand what you will like when it comes time to have sex.. Starting with tampons is a really good way to start to understand your own physiology.
If you're so uncomfortable about tampons then just tell your girlfriend the truth - you'll probably both end up having a fantastic conversation about the reality of having periods.
2007-01-04 00:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by sandi_ccc 2 · 5⤊ 2⤋
I personally would just try to use a tampon. Try using the Tampax junior tampons. They are great for first-time users and cant even feel them inside. If you are really not willing to try that then tell her- "I cannot go swimming for reasons you will understand sooner or later." It works, but just try and use a tampon and if you don't like that use the excuse.
2007-01-04 05:19:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know its embarassing but its life noting we can do about it its natural ,,,try tampon just for the swim if its in right you wont know its there and after pool run to bathromm and take it out
2007-01-04 03:24:28 · answer #11 · answered by spankystrouble 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋