I have recently finished high school, this is the time where it is evident who your real friends are. i have 5 very close friends or so i have thought and in the last year or so 2 friends in particular have drifted from our group and have intentionally gone out of their way to not invite us, and have manipulated, lied and let the rest of us down on numerous occassions. i want to move on but how? when we are together we have the most fun times and we all click so well, so it is hard for me to understand why they do that....is the fight worth fighting for? the worst part is that they often brag that they have gone out and expect us to be happy. i have talked to one of the friends but still nothing. have i got r toxic friend??
2007-01-03 23:57:20 · 9 answers · asked by scholar021 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is actually very typical and I and probably thousands of others have gone through similar situations. As you move on from High School you will soon realize that you will only have probably less then 5 true friends for the rest of your life.
Everyone else will be friends for a period of time and others will be acquaintances.
As a person, one can only do so much and remember that everything should work as a two way street. If you put forth the effort, and they cannot offer the same, then it's time to move on. At one point they will soon realize they liked having you around or the friendship will most likely fade or turn into a friendship where you hang out with them once in a great while.
It can be hard, but it's the honest truth. I had my little kliq for years and we stayed together for about the first 1 year out of high school and then everything began to fade and run its course. However, I still talk to them every once in a while and we might go bowling or something, but that is few and far between. I hope this give you a better understanding of what the future is to hold.
2007-01-04 00:06:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Real friendships are based on trust, kindness, being upfront, sometimes reasonably going out of our way to be friends. When you find you are, for whatever reason, hitting a brick wall, then walk around it. Friendship is a two-way street.
My best friend other than God & Christ is my wife of over 38 years, and we have had to make sure we are on that 2 way street We have misunderstandings everyday, that is imperfection, but our friendship grows every day , because we not only love each other , but we like each other.
Real friends do not deliberately go out of their way to hurt us, if they do , there is something wrong with their disposition. You cannot force people to remain friends if they want to control you, make you feel inferior etc. Better to have a few good friends than a lot who are around just for the good times and whatever else they can get out of us. Unfortunately, toxicisity prevails in the world of human relations--do what is best for you and your real friends. Be careful, there are many disappointments in trying to keep friendships, that is because many do not have principles to give the relationship some steadiness.
2007-01-04 00:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by THA 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Finishing high school is the first step to adulthood. You will find out that sometimes the people that you knew in high school will drift away and it is normal. New friends will come in as you grow with this new time. I wouldnt stress about it too much.
2007-01-04 00:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by vertical c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to College and make new friends and/or get a job and make friends with your co-workers. As time goes by you will learn you get to keep some friends, you lose others, and you always get more if you put yourself out there. Good Luck
2007-01-04 00:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jason W-S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaahhh...high school! Let it go! Get your own life. 10 years from now you may not even remember their phone numbers. Life changes people grown and these people are growing inconsiderate. surround yourself with well intentioned people and your life will be much happier.
2007-01-04 00:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had this problem my freshmen year of highschool. just let it go, they arn't your friends anymore. it was hard to cut off contact with my old friends....but it had to be done
2007-01-04 00:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by jsmonkey013 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is pretty common. . you will just have to find new friends. . thats what i had to do
2007-01-04 00:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say yes it is. you should bring it up jokingly to see what they say first. thats how i would bring it up
2007-01-04 00:03:39 · answer #8 · answered by khjunior1980 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMGOSH !!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-03 23:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋