i was loving a man bu my family forced me to marry othr man now i cant lead a normal life with my husband as i miss my boyfriend what ca i do i cant try to concentrate with my family life what do u think?
2007-01-03 23:20:25 · 20 answers · asked by jasmine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dear jasmine
it has been more then 9 yrs into ur marriage and u have kid of 7 yrs and now u say u miss ur bf this is little funny ... if u have done little daring then before marriage ur life would be much better right ... anyways ... best option try to divorce since he is ready to accept ur kid ...with u ... atleast dare now u will be happy life long..
may god bless u
bye
2007-01-04 05:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question, do you think your B/f is waiting outside and going to take you back? If yes then talk to your husband and tell him the fact if he is a real guy he will let you go, or else you have a hard way upstream and will have to face too many struggles in life.
I am sure you had sexual relationship with your husband think of it?
If your B/f is not waiting and if he does not accept you, you will have to find a new guy, (a stranger any way) than what is wrong in accepting you husband?
I think try and forget your b/f the reason your are asking this because your are feeling guilty of marrying and ditching your b/f.
Now it is history and you cannot undo that.
Now do not try to pay back your b/f by spoiling your life.
Please work towards making your married life happier.
Give the love you had for your b/f to your husband.
Love can always grow any time you want. Forget all that you had with your b/f and concentrate on your new family.
There is not point in pondering the past. It will only hurt you and your husband. Your b/f will find some oneelse to marry I am sure.
I would suggest just forget it as a nightmare and do not even talk about it any more.
One more thing if you have left and proofs of your affiar with your b/f better tell your husband, he might feel little upset for a time being but I am sure he will get over it very soon. If he comes to know later, by any reason say your boyfriend tries to blackmail you, you will be in more trouble then now.
There is no reason to feel guilty of past, move on with your life.
Best of Luck
God Bless You.
I just saw you have asked a previous Q about relationship outside marriage, please do not do that for lust, you will be spoiling 3 lives and the lives of your forth coming children.
Walk out of the marriage, complete legal formalities and marry your b/f if you want to do that.. rest you are the best to make decision for your life..
God Bless You.
2007-01-04 08:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you.
but past is past n u gotta let go. Accept ur husband... u cud start by seeing him as a companion rather thn a husband. Imagine urself in his position... Wat fault does he have except for having unknowingly married a woman who's in love with another man?Sooner or later u will have to accept the reality..The sooner u do that the better it will be for the 2 of you. Coz maybe after sometime the patience of ur husband may also give away.
u can't possibly leave ur husband n go back to ur lover.. that's not going to make things any better. Think about ur responsibilities.. You are a married woman now. Start afresh...You have a beautiful life ahead of you an only u can solve the problem. All the best!
2007-01-04 07:37:45 · answer #3 · answered by sonz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, nobody can force you to marry, unless it is in your culture for the parents to choose their child's mate. Second of all they really can't do that anyway because you are an adult. If you are willing to go against tradition, tell your husband that you were forced to marry him and that you are in love with someone else. Tell him that you want to divorce, because you weren't given a choice. Tell him you mean no harm or disrespect, but you have to be with the man that you love. You may just have to follow your heart instead of tradition.
2007-01-04 07:30:24 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was engaged to one man and a one night mistake changed m y whole life. I have yet to forget charels and probably never will. But you know life is what you make of it. I know love my husband and have been married for 24 years and wouldnt change any thing. So try and make the best of it before you worry abouth the BF. good luck
2007-01-04 07:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens to people used to sleep with others before marriage.You did not get to marry your bf may be an excuse.You should have thought of it before marriage.This is real life, not a movie.I do not think that you have any right to spoil life of a person,who done a favour to you by marrying even if you been having relations with somebody else.If you want ,you can talk to him and find solution without hurting him.
2007-01-05 21:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two sides of coin. You have to think both sides. One: **** the world & stay with your Boy friend. Second thing: You just have to except what had happened. Talking realty that thinking about you boy friend after marriage, May cause big havac in Your life. Think hundreds of times before you take any dicission.
2007-01-05 07:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by rockylike007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movies like Woh sat din or Hum dil de chuke sanam with your husband. See how he reacts.. it will give you a good lead on his way of thinking.
And ask yourself this important question " do i have the right to make the man i married unhappy in order to get out of a siutation created out my cowardice"
good luck !
2007-01-05 06:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good wife always develops her husband to her taste and enjoys.It is possible for sure.This co operation between husband and wife is ad viced always in sex ,day to day going and life after marriage.Off late all seniors know sex, friendship with opposite gender exists with multiple partners.Any way u take always take
safety and security as foremost important.
2007-01-04 18:03:57 · answer #9 · answered by Chandrasekaran S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your destiny . if you get a divorce even then you won't be able to get any peace of mind .if your hubby is not a loving and caring man only then think about divorcing him otherwise give him what he deserves (your love).and as far as your boyfriend is concerned ,had I been in his shoes ,I would have never allowed this marriage even if the world was against us.
2007-01-04 09:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by aji 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋