I had sex with my boyfriend after my period in the week before xmas, around 20th Dec, an stupidly i had an xmas fling with a guy on 2 nights, he didnt ejeculate inside of me though an it didnt last very long. And now I'm scared im pregnant :s me and my bf have been trying recently for a baby. Please I know I am a stupid and careless :( what should I do? is there any way I can get tests done to see who the father is before its born, thats if I am pregnant?
2007-01-03 22:56:46 · 27 answers · asked by the_questioner 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
=) silly girl, now your pregnant and you can get tests done but its chepest to have jerry springer do it after the birth.
2007-01-07 16:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Chad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope you have to wait until after the baby is born, see my cousin did that except her situation was a little easier, her bf is black and a jerk he beats her all the time, so they are on and off and well when she found out she was pregnant she knew it might not be his but didnt tell anyone, including the bf she probably should have cause him and his family were there and you can tell that the baby has NO mix in it whatsoever, the other guy is white and had no idea he might be the father. but in her case she didnt have to wait for a paternity test cause it was easy to tell, in your unfortunatly you have to wait. dont worry we all do things we regret, we are only human no one is perfect and you are obviously not the only one who has done it, dont beat yourself up, either way IF you are pregnant that baby is going to need love and support that i know you will provide either way. good luck to you and i hope things work out the way you want. oh and i dont want to make it sound like i am telling you what to do, but i really think you should talk to your bf and tell him what you did, he might be more understanding hearing it from the begining and not at the end when all of a sudden there is a paternity test. hope all goes well.
2007-01-04 07:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you can't get the baby tested before it is born to see who the father is and if you have had sex with other people that close to having sex with your bf it will be very difficult even looking at dates to work out who is the actually father. You owe it to your bf to tell him as it's not only babies you get from unprotected sex. If you are so happy with your bf and were trying for a baby why? why? why? would you sleep with other people. Let us guess, It was the alcohol.. The situation you have put yourself in will make it hard for anyone to find sympathy for you, sorry.
Good luck xx
2007-01-07 15:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to wait much further along the pregnancy or maybe even when its born to get DNA tests carried out to see who the father is. If you are pregnant - try to work out when you ovulated (14 days before period or at least day period is due) - obviously though if you slept with both of thyem around this time it may be difficult to determine, but thats really all you can do right now.
2007-01-04 09:34:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he didn't ejacualte inside of you, doesn't mean he couldn't have got you pregnant.
I don't think you can do any paternity tests before the baby is born.
An early scan can help to identify the date of conception, but the timeframe sounds quite tight here, and they could only say within a period of 5 days or so, so that probably wouldn't help you much either.
I don't think anyone can tell you what to do here. It all depends how you think your bf will react if you tell him, whether you could live a lie and not tell him and whether you could cope with bringing the baby up on your own.
I'll keep my fingers crossed that you are not pregnant!
2007-01-04 07:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Ricecakes 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but as the saying goes "what goes around comes around". You've brought this one on yourself! If you loved your boyfriend enough to be trying for a baby why on earth would you sleep with another man? It sounds to me that you don't really love your boyfriend and are only in the relationship to have a baby. You certainly don't respect him, otherwise you would have used a condom. Never mind pregnancy what about the diseases you could be passing on to him.
I suggest the best option for you is to be honest. Tell your boyfriend what happened and let him decide whether he wants to continue this relationship with you. How would you feel if you're boyfriend cheated and got another woman pregnant?
2007-01-04 08:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by niccog26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first thing calm down because you mite not be pregnant is your period late? sometimes when your all worked up and stressed your period could be late just wait and see if it comes. if not then get pregnancy test but there are no test to find out who the father is until the baby is born.i know you and your b/f have been trying for a baby but you have to be honest with him if you are pregnant but forget all that for now chances are your not pregnant anyway just wait and see but be careful in future good luck x
2007-01-04 07:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by lorraine x 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you are not pregnant as 9 months is a long time to find out who the father is, but if you are try not to worry be possitive and you'll just have to wait and see. Be faithfull in future and learn by this mistake.
2007-01-07 05:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by JODIE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you trying for a baby and sleeping about you can still catch AIDS and the likes of STD AND STI would you be happy if your baby was made ill because of you ? your not fit to be a mother and i feel sorry for your bloke !!!!
there is a name for people like you !!!!!
by the way do you realise the pain you have caused my boyf cheated on me while i am pregnant i will never ever forgive him i hope he dies a painful horrible death so thats probably what your boyf with think of you
yes you can get pregnant by some random
2007-01-06 11:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by Twin mummy *** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been a silly girl? Try unfaithful girl! Stupid and careless don't begin to describe it. Cheating on someone is serious, and I have no compassion for your situation. When you have sex, you take a chance that it will result in a baby. Plain and simple. You should break up with your bf because obviously you don't love him.
2007-01-04 07:24:24 · answer #10 · answered by shaldyr 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But more importantly, you need to let your "supposed boyfriend" know right away, so he can get himself tested for HIV/AIDS and various STDs. If you are thinking of trying to get pregnant, you shouldn't be putting yourself at risk like this. You don't sound near enough mature to think of becoming a mom.
2007-01-04 09:34:27 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋