so ive have been with 3 guys, and with my luck, none have lasted longer then 5 min . one actually got 10 seconds in. my boyfriend now of 1 year, has never been able to last longer then around 2 min. except a few times it was maybe 5. what can i do to help him out?? i love him for him, and i dont care that much at all, but it really effects him, and i want him to feel better about himself, he knows hes hot, but its really bothering him
2007-01-03 22:50:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is great that the two of you can talk about this and work through these trying times. It is best if he works up to it. In other words just when he feels he is going to he needs to stop and concentrate on something else. Then when the feel has passed start again and keep doing this a couple of times. It will help him get better control over the situation. It really does work. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-03 22:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen closely im about to make you and him alot happier.
your probley waiting to long in between times.
the more days hes not getting it the faster the bottle will pop
2.less time for-play if your working it up thats less time in.
3.take it nice and slow.the faster the quicker
4.when he feels like hes gonna go pull out kiss a minute or give you so needed time.dont touch him this will be his down time not long a minute should do
5.you can repeat this how ever long you wish when he finaly goes it will be mind blowing to him the longer the better it is for him.
6.the second is to talk about different ways you both can have fun be open minded both of you.
7.go for seconds that will last longer
8. if these dont work have him talk with a doctor maybe medical rare but possible.
9.now are you sure its not him wanting it over some men are like that and they say man i cant help it it has a mind of its own.
10.but trust me the pull out works my husband does it when he wants it to last longer for me.
good luck exsploring new things
2007-01-03 23:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by michelle e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you two will be just fine! Do some reading about sex... either online or buy a book at the bookstore! Find some different positions, and tell him to stop when he feels like he's getting "close". You can have him stop for awhile and just kiss you all over... have him slow down and speed up at different times... experiment and have fun. He can learn to last quite awhile. Also... do it twice in a row (yes he can do that!), as the second time will always last longer... and it's more fun for you, too... yippee, lol! Just tell him not to worry so much, sex is supposed to be really fun!! Good luck! :o)
2007-01-03 23:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by JP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Samantha!! :o) For a guy to last 14 minutes - even 5 minutes - is pretty darn good. I'm not sure how long some people THINK a guy should last - but obviously they must have been raised on porno videos or something. TRUTH BE TOLD - most guys will c u m in about 4 to 5 minutes. And I'm talking 4 to 5 minutes of non-stop continuous thrusting. This is why it's always best for a guy to 'work on his girl' [So to speak] quite some time BEFORE he starts going at it!! Otherwise - she will almost always feel frustrated. [Just like you're feeling] There is nothing wrong with him at all. And nothing wrong with you - either. You're both just going to have to accept nature for what it is and tend to about 90% of your needs before he enters you in quest of getting to the finish line. Have a great day!! Craig!! :o)
2016-05-23 02:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly in my opinion, give him head first and let him get off. it may take a min or too for him to get hard again but the second round will last for quite some time. try letting him be on the bottom more than on top, he will be more relaxed and will last longer, and tell him to relax and enjoy himself, he is probably so worried about pleasing you that he is getting over excited and is concentrating to much, just have fun, and enjoy each other, the rest will fall into place. good luck and enjoy.
2007-01-03 22:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by monkeyfingerslap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its Get Better And Lasts Longer With Age !
2007-01-03 22:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By working out, he can increase his sexual performance( better sex for both of you) and if he drinks cranberry juice every day or so he will strenghten his bladder which means he will last longer( and have less bathroom stops). Also, when he uses the bathroom to pee, tell him to pee just a little bit and right away try to hold in his pee for as long as he can and when he can't hold it in any longer tell him to release the rest of the liquid. If he is able to master this technique, he can last as long as he want!
2007-01-03 23:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by SKMMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well , i would give u an advice , change postions, and keep his mind off his ......, u know what i mean
kiss him
distract him he would still be hard and last longer. Good luck
2007-01-03 22:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by seeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's going in with a loaded gun...he has to knock one off prior to ...if he is unable to last more than 2-5 min.
2007-01-03 22:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by fade_this_rally 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to learn how to munch carpet... no really, i mean it, have him go down on you until you're just about there, and the finish up together... Trust me, works great for those times when you just know you wont last...
2007-01-03 22:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by eldeeder 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋