What would you do if you were only married 4 months and you read your wife's public on-line blog and she was talking very badly about you. Saying things like she wish she could have another night with her ex. And just flat dogging you out.
Then when you confront her about it she gets pissed and says all kinds of things to you that hurt to the core.
2007-01-03 22:23:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't say how long you were together before you got married. You may need to look into marriage counseling and if she refuses to do this look into a separation and if your life is better for being without her then divorce her. It seems that she is not making your life better if she is tearing you apart in her blog and then in person.
2007-01-03 22:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it was a public on line blog then anyone could read it and she should not have gotten upset at you. The problem is what she wrote and the fact that you read it, that is what made her upset. Although 4 months has not been a long time to be married it would appear that she is not in love with you and would prefer to be with her ex. If you could sit her down and speak with her about the problems you are facing and find out what it is she wants from you. It is sad that after a short period of time she is already thinking of her ex, it sounds as though she really does not love you, or she could have been very upset with you over something and wrote what was in her heart at that moment. Either way you need to speak with her about it. If she no longer wants to be married to you then you need to find this out before things get worse and she ends up having an affair. What she did broke the trust between you and her and she needs to come clean on why she wrote such horrible things. Give her the chance to explain before you react and jump to the wrong conclusion. You can only make a correct decision with all the facts. Best of luck to you and yours.
2007-01-04 06:34:57 · answer #2 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to you that your wife isn't over her X and probably should never have married.
People who get angry in the situation you have discribed are hiding things. She might be having an affair right under your nose.
My suggestion---it's only been 4 months---you haven't invested alot of $$$ or time......Put the marriage to an end. File for a dissolution of marriage and be done with it.
Be very careful in selecting a new marriage partner.
If divorce is not in your quest for answers----Both of you seek couples marriage counseling. With counseling it will help you both get the insight into what you really want in your marriage relationship.
Your wife dissing you in blogs---isn't respectful and maybe that's the problem---Selfish, SelfCentered MEN or WOMAN, have no respect for themselves let alone others they hurt in their paths of destruction.
2007-01-04 06:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but it sounds like she isn't committed to your marriage. Either go to marriage counseling, or quit while you're ahead. With only four months of marriage under your belt, it doesn't look promising for a future. Your wife is probably angry because you found out what she was doing. Her activities aren't harmless, so you have some serious decisions to make. Good luck!
2007-01-04 06:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then she is not the girl you are destined to be with! She thinks immorally and no offense still immature considering how old she is. Let go of this relationship and find yourself a more mature woman who can make you happy before and after the marriage!
2007-01-04 06:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's time to have time apart. A grace period, maybe two-three weeks separation without contact to see what you both want.
Also try some marriage counseling.
2007-01-04 06:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u both cant sit down & have a good chat... then maybe write her a letter or email. ask her what good she see in u to want to commit herself to marriage in the first place & how in love u both were...
honestly, hv u asked yourself if has she been neglected these 4 months??
pardon me if i sound rude but if she thinks that a good shag is more important than love and security, then she's not worth it.
2007-01-04 06:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by milo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say leave now before she starts treating you even worse. I am sorry to say SOME women are not worth trying to make things work.
2007-01-04 08:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by happywifenmom21@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from this women. you don't need the grief. she must have hidden her bad side pretty
good before you married her. you won't have anything but problems with this one. get out before you bring children into this. she just was in love with the wedding not the groom. get out before she starts cheating on you if she hasn't already. best of luck to you
2007-01-04 07:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by janiebug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be time for a heart to heart, then a trip to the lawyer...It it has just been 4 months. who knows what you will get for a year...
2007-01-04 06:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Brenda Soooooooooooooooooooooooo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋