It has droped to an all time low, and I'm about done dealing with it. Romance her is the answer I see most frequently. Stress is the second most used. Well, I've alays pleased her to the fullest when it comes to sex...something new all the time. There's no stress...I work, I cook dinner and the kids clean the house. She doesn't even have to make her own coffee. We literally cater to her every need. I would say she was seeing someone else, but she never goes anywhere so that's an impossibility. She is 30 and I'm 32 so menopuase isn't and issue YET. (don't want to see what's gonna happen then). I'm at a lose as what to do and am about ready to give up and move on.
2007-01-03 22:07:05 · 12 answers · asked by HawgHunter 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of times we as men get frustrated when we "think" wives are not giving us enough sex. We often times fail to think about what they may be going through. Just because they seem to have everything handed to them on a platter doesn't mean its so. So, you say you please her to the fullest extent.. Something new all the time. Maybe she would like to just spend some quality time with you, instead of everytime they walk by we want to jump them. Against majority opinion, she may not be in the mood just because she can say your name and your ready.. Suggest to her she get involved in things out side of the house. outside of you and her.. go out with her girlfriends. just a thought, but some times its how we talk to them that effects them as well. Are we constantly nagging them for sex, but won't take the time to listen to them? If we spend some time listening to them they will tell you what is on their mind. If she asks you things, do you roll your eyes before you answer? do you make time for her outside of the bedroom? or do you, the moment she doesn't want to have sex, you proclaim You Never are in the mood? Try not to be SEX SEX SEX SEX as much, and romance her outside of the bedroom. Take her out on the town, and when it comes back to the bedroom, give her a kiss goodnight and just lay next to her without expectation because you took her out I must get sex...
2007-01-03 22:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Fugitive Peices 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people have low sex drive. Which, eventually drops even more after wedding. Even more, I believe you treat her too much like a queen so you castrate her. Maybe she feels like a baby who must be treated accordingly and as you know babies do not have sex drives. Be her man! Let her be your woman. Bring your relationship to an equilibrium and let everybody take his role. If this continuous,, visit a doctor specializing in this area, maybe he has a solution. Do not give up yet.
2007-01-03 22:42:04 · answer #2 · answered by Alice in Wonderbra 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, what does she "have" to do? Maybe she is bored out of her mind if she is catered to as you say. Talk to her. Tell her exactly how you are feeling. Ask her what the issue is, if there is anything that would help her get her drive back. Tell her you have needs too, as simply as that. Put the ball in her court. If that does not work, you should seek counseling, or maybe go away to a romantic couples spa?
2007-01-03 22:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you've made her the head of the family putting yourself down by overdoing the catering to her and not being the 'master' yourself. Do you have a clue what she admires, then work on it w/o giving her the impression it's all for her attention.
2007-01-03 22:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by spareo1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is being lazy, tell her it is her turn to make coffee.
Get bitchy enough about what you are doing or hard your working to let her know you are unhappy (about something).
She'll give it up to keep everyone waiting on her.
Whats going on with her sex drive is it is too much work to have sex with you when she can satisfy herself without the ritual you two normally go through to have sex.
If plan A doesn't work then you have to make her jealous some how like checking out women while shopping or dining with her. She will get mad but will also get herself motivated.
Women's sex drive in their thirties is amazing.
Are you SURE she isn't going any where, or no ones coming over?
2007-01-03 22:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Red 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like she has a different sex drive than you do (her's is nill). It's a sex drive mismatch.
There's a support group of people in this predicament, it is called SWAGE. I invite you to join us and help us find real answers together.
I am sorry you're in this hellish plight. We understand what you are going through, even if nobody else does.
J
2007-01-04 00:40:24 · answer #6 · answered by JRSK007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit waiting on the bit&h hand and foot. Make her get her fat as* up and make her own coffee. You're turning into a henpecked little wimp boy aren't you. Take the apron off and get her back in the kitchen where she belongs.
2007-01-04 01:32:44 · answer #7 · answered by seahorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she would not such as you anymore ? women bypass off intercourse while their thoughts have died, in assessment to adult men who can sh@g each time they get a stressful on, women are distinctive. you're making it sound like she is there to thrill you on my own, and her "low intercourse rigidity" isn't honest on you. You married her, you have heroically "dealt" with this for 8 years. there is extra to intercourse than merely poking around, maybe you have lost the knack of seduction and merely ask once you pick intercourse, i could say no too below those circumstances.
2016-10-06 10:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay here it is from a woman's side, to put it bluntly you have spoiled her rotten you do everything for her so she feels she has you wrapped around her little finger.
2007-01-03 22:21:19 · answer #9 · answered by polynesiachick 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got the same problem. Maybe this is why guys cheat sometimes? Ya think?
2007-01-03 23:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋