Am a shy person and how do overcome it.?

Answer 1

Tackle it head on. Find the demographic you find most hard to talk to. Be it other shy people, grungies, "gangstas", or old people. Get out there and talk to as many people as you can. I was shy a few years ago when I was learning to drive. This was because my parents were social recluses and I never saw anyone other than family in my home. Once I got my Provisional license, I drove to the mall and started talking to people. I would find various ways to do this. I would sit on the benches, talk to the old people resting their feet, I would bum cigarettes from the people close to my age then start talking with them, and I would talk to the employees, let them play dress-up with me, get all the peoples' numbers whose age I was closest to that day and call them up later that week to go cruising, golfing, bowling, stargazing, playing games at home, listening to music and having a coffee, just about anything luxurious and fun. Be creative, spontaneous, and courageous!

Answer 2

I really don't know what to tell you. The reason is, I too was an extremely shy person when I was young. I am now just the opposite. I am able to walk into a business or a gathering and talk to total strangers and kid with them or what ever the situation calls for. The reason is confidence in myself. How did I come about this? That I can't tell you because it happened over a period of time. Probably because I was self employed most of my life and that alone will cause self confidence. Any way, the problem took care of itself.

Answer 3

Shyness is all in the mind. I should know... I'm a shy type of person myself. An people think that I'm a snob because of this. The best thing to do is develop self-confidence and try to mingle with people. Just always remember that we are all born equal... So you don't have to be shy in front of a stranger because we are all human beings dwelling in this world. And whenever you found yourself being shy, try to think that you are not. Remember, what you think about yourself reflects... Smile!

Answer 4

"baby steps". Take it carefully. Don't rush out and do anything rash or you may embarrass yourself and end up right back at the beginning.

start by finding a group that has the same interests as you... e.g photography, art, bushwalking, dancing, reading, poetry, crosswords, whatever. There is a group out there for nearly every pastime or hobby. Go along and see if you feel comfortable, if so join. If not, then look for somewhere else where you do feel more comfortable and where you will be in contact with people.

Just keep building your contact with people in a steady, controlled way (that way you still feel in control).

Answer 5

Remember that you are just as good as anyone else, dont worry what people think about you, and just be your self. It is easier said than done to overcome shyness, but you just have to start believing in yourself, and not be afraid of failure, it doesnt matter how long it take you to suceed at something just remember you'll get there in the end, be positive and think positive thoughts, always make the best of your appearance, I think also if you look good you feel good, dont worry and be happy xx

Answer 6

Start by going out each day and saying "good morning" to other walkers and passer's by. No one will look at you strangely for saying that and nearly everyone responds well to it.
You can then progress by holding short conversations with others at the bus stop - "Buses never seem to run on time do they?"
Before you know it, you will feel confident enough to start a conversation with anyone.
If anyone knocks you back for trying to talk to them just think that they must be more shy than you and think "Next". Then try the next person to come along.

Answer 7

I was shy and it stopped me doing things. Now I am still shy but do push myself into situations that are difficult. I did it by seeing it as an experiment so I wasnt so personally on the line. I kept a diary with results and it helped - like having an objective look at my limitations and seeing how far I could push myself.
a book like 'feel the fear and do it anyway' - Susan Jeffers might help

Answer 8

You can advise you all day long if you like, but it will do no good if the one receiving your advice is weak-willed. The same can be said for all of our goals in life. We have to get control of ourselves before we can tackle our environment. The first step in this is to develop our willpower. A weak-willed person is as shaky when it comes to life’s problems. The fastest way to develop positive, spiritual willpower is to extract it from the desires it is trapped within. Renounce futile activities, harmful thoughts, and negative emotions. Every time you reject these behaviours and observe them within yourself, you have an opportunity to create more conscious willpower.

Answer 9

Hi!
When i was younger i was terribly shy too, but i started to join in theatre courses and it was really helpful. Just try to think that nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes, so the others are not far different from you.
Good luck!

Answer 10

A 'kind of' Guru friend of mine taught me a great lesson about being shy...

He said

"Feel the fear and do it anyway"

So now when I HAVE to do something I am shy about I pause, think of the fear, and go ahaid and do that thing. Heart pounding away...

And you know what? I REALLY does get easier over time....

Good luck!

Dan