I have a son with my ex.We split up when my son was a baby because he could never be honest with me - he lied and decieved me. He is a total coward when it comes to emotions and commitment.
For 11 years he was too scared to see his son because that would involve "commitment" and emotional attachment.
We met up in february '06 and he told me he was moving to Canada in the Autumn and renting a basement from a lady friend.
He actually agreed to see his son and it went really well. They have been seing each other and emailing They are building a good relationship. This is great as my son does need to get to know him.
He had an affair with a married woman at work 3 years ago and is still obsessed with her. I started having feelings for him again but it didnt get physical. He went to Canada in July and has only just revealed that he actually married the lady.
He hasnt told her that I'm his ex and he also hasnt told her that he has a son. She is is coming to live in the UK.
2007-01-03 21:31:44 · 9 answers · asked by sashabubble 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
So he is still aliar and a deceiver ; both to you and his new wife. get a grip ; you have started fancying him again but you know what he is like. Insist that he is honest with his wife and hope that she is understanding about your son. Keep away from him yourself and hope that your son eventually sees through him and does not become like him. If you set yourself high standards of behaviour in relationships (unlike his fahter) hopefully he will follow you.
2007-01-03 21:36:13 · answer #1 · answered by D B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do feel sorry for that lady too.
At least you didn't give into your feelings for him; He clearly doens't deserve it, nor has he changed obviously.
You have the responsibility to make sure he does the right thing by your son.
So, that means that the lady knows that he has a son, and that the son still has a mum.
The way this guy acts, I am even sure it's safe to leave your son into his care. He hasn't grown up yet.x
2007-01-04 05:56:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for the lady he married. She is about to learn some important things about him that she should have known before they got married. He sounds like a very selfish person who puts his needs before anyone elses. I think you should open your eyes and see him for the selfish person he is and not get involved with him again. If he'll be dishonest with her he;ll do the same thing to you. I wouldn't trust him in a relationship but I do hope he will continue to see his child.
2007-01-04 08:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be desperate to start having feelings again for someone who would never commit to you...
Maybe it's these feelings that makes you want to wreck his marriage?
It will all come out in the wash as they say, and she will find out his true nature, just as you did, so there is no reason for you to stick your nose in, is there?
You need to move on and find someone new, who isn't a toad. Don't destroy your son's relationship with him, by wrecking his marriage.
2007-01-04 05:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen closely....this is HIS problem....not yours!
You do not owe this new wife anything....let her find it all out by herself.
I understand your concern and it is admirable....but this is one fight or problem which you can avoid. I suggest you do so.
At least you know now what kind of man he really is.
2007-01-04 05:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you feel bed, this is not your problem!!! I would stay well out of it. If he is that bad, their relationship wont last the full length!!!
2007-01-04 05:34:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes he has..... She would have seen it on the marriage documents......
2007-01-04 05:59:54 · answer #7 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paddle ur own canoe !!!
2007-01-04 07:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by BeautyBreak H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Move on.
2007-01-04 05:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋