2007-01-03 21:27:31 · 18 answers · asked by roro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I WOULD ASK HIM. AND EXPECT HIM TO BE HONEST. IF IT'S TRUE- I AM NOT SURE WHETHER I WOULD BE ABLE TO FORGIVE HIM AND MOVE ON. EVEN IF I FORGIVE HIM, I KNOW, THAT I WOULD NEVER FORGET AND KNOWING HE WAS UNFAITHFUL WILL HAUNT ME TILL WE ARE TOGETHER.
2007-01-03 21:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all honey...stay shut for no man! Your marriage is one thing and your self respect is another.If you know he's cheating on you, why not let him know? Let him know you're not stupid! You're not clueless! You know what he's been up to! Maybe he'll stop or maybe he'll become sneakier! Either way, you know you're better then getting cheated on.Nobody deserves to get cheated on.If you're not financially stable without him and have kids...then make a plan for yourself..and make a quiet planned exit! Usually once they cheat they dont stop! If you can get him to sit down and talk to you about it without it having to turn ugly...then do that.Dont keep your mouth shut because then he'll think you have no idea whats going on and do it even more! You say marriage but being unfaithful isnt what you agreed to when you guys got married was it? NO.You guys made a commitment when you got married and he's obviously not following what he vowed to.You can do better.Dont think he's your only option because he's not! Good Luck to you Sweety.
2007-01-03 21:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question confuses me! Are you suggesting that you simply let your husband keep cheating on you, saying nothing, to save your marriage? Sounds to me that if this is what you mean, then your marriage is a marriage is one of convenience - HIS convenience, and your are consigned to being the archtypal doormat.
IMHO, you should confront him with the facts, either forgive him on the understanding that that he really loves you and remains faithful (which on the facts seems improbable), or tell him to piss off and find someone who loves you truly - which means respect, honour and fidelity.
If, on the other hand, he is a billionaire and you enjoy the fruits of his labours - then stay in the marriage and find a lover who truly appreciates you.
It is YOUR call which ever way you choose to go.
Somehow, I doubt that pricks like him will be able to handle the truth.
2007-01-03 21:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Ricardo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in my case, i confronted him, and then he started telling me all sorts of lies at the expense of the other woman just to get out of the issues. But only to find out that he still seeing the other woman. I am torn between finally leaving him or staying because of our kids... or maybe am still hoping that he would change... but its been 2 years and until now I caught him having comminucations with the girl.
If this is the kind of situation, is it really worth saving the marriage?
2007-01-03 22:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by ryanne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only would he know, but I think the subtle hints I gave would also contribute. Such as, finding his clothing shred to pieces all over the lawn. If that didnt work. I Would leave nice little messages for his boss at work to apread. If he still didnt get the hint. I would slap the crap out of him and tell him to get out of my house. Then I would find them together and confront them. ..I have also told my husband that if I ever caught him in my bed asleep with another woman...I would set the bed on fire. Not tryying to sound crazy, but if you plan to disrespect me..Dont do it in my house.
2007-01-03 21:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely... Well if he is cheating on me and I know abt it... I would be the first one to let him know...
Save a marital life at what cost... I dont want a cheater to be my husband. Rather I would make him punishable to the law.
Extra marital affair is a crime and if he has indulged into it he needs to punished.
2007-01-03 21:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Bindass Hyderabadi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u knew your husband was cheating, u need to confront them, if they lied, or failed to be remorseful, than u would know how to handle it. if u said nothing, he would just keep cheating and maybe fall for this other person and leave . so confrontation is needed right away.
2007-01-03 23:03:10 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A better question is why would you want to preserve a marriage with a guy sleeping with other women?
2007-01-04 01:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew my husband was cheating on me.....Then he's not who I thought he was. He never loved me. And I would leave.
2007-01-03 21:31:47 · answer #9 · answered by MotherMayI? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happened with me. I was unfaithful to my wife and she caught me and made me realised that what i have done wrong in my life and then we have started taking marriage counselling. I am very happy now and thankful to my wife. If you need a good pschiatrist's number in Mumbai, email me on aramaiya@yahoo.com
2007-01-03 21:31:26 · answer #10 · answered by aramaiya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Deal with him.
Why don't ya have fun with somebody if your husband had fun with somebody.
You can lie to him if he lied you.
that's a deal.
he will know he can't cheat on you anymore. it works.
2007-01-04 02:44:12 · answer #11 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋