I have a girl friend and we belong to different culture and I have not met her for a long time as we live in different countries but we two love each other and feel each other a lot. A single smile on her face gives peace in my soul. Last week I cheated upon her,but never had an intention to do so , something happend so fast I could not control but latter I confessed and apologised before her and asked her for the forgivness , a sceond chance but she wish for punishment and want to break up and I dont wish to . I had never lied to her ever and neither wish too. Can somebody advise the fair solution for us.
Thanks a lot
2007-01-03 21:10:50 · 12 answers · asked by Nites 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
in your case there is no answer....
2007-01-07 21:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As it happens, nobody is perfect and you are one of them. There’s no straight answer, it’s all up to her.
You were honest by telling her and that says a lot. You took a huge risk and wanted to be truthful to her. I personally, would appreciate this and would have you back. But, not all women are the same …
I think is very important for her to understand that people cheat or each other all the time, but if they choose to confess and try not to do it again, that should be treated as ‘not guilty’.
But you said she is from a different religion … how does her religion sees this sort of behaviour?
It’s not easy …
If where she is and her religion does not accept cheating what so ever … sorry mate, you’ve lost it. It’s not so much about ‘What is the answer of true love - Punishment or Forgivness?’ … It’s more about … how she feels not about you but about the situation… not easy.
At least you have learned your lesson … next time, you think of ‘What is the answer of true love – Faithfulness or betrayal?’
2007-01-03 21:36:29 · answer #2 · answered by Me me me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
breaking up with you, while it might seem like a punishment, is most likely just that she cant accept you doing this in your relationship with her, and/or it might also mean that she sees the problem with you two trying to have an exclusive relationship under the circumstances (far away/not seeing each other etc),,,,if she is upset and hurt, it also can be that breaking up is much more about her feelings then a desire to punish you, even if she forgives you and understands why you did what you did,,,,, that doesnt mean she will decide to remain with you,,,,,,,,,,
so, i would suggest that you discuss with her if you both even feel that the relationship, while having deep feelings, was the right one for you to be in at this time,,,,,,, even before this happened,,,,,,, had you two decided your love was such that you were ready to make a serious commitment to each other???? have you been able to date/be with each other enough to really get to know each other and have a deep love? do you see the relationship being able to develop and grow in the future? then finally, does she feel she can continue on with it??? if she decides not to give you a second chance, you will just have to accept that,,,,,,,,, and in the future, dont make commitments that require you to be faithful, until you are ready to do that,,,,,,,,
2007-01-03 21:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by dlin333 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing is sure she is badly hurt by your what ever you may call ....cheating or mistake even if u have your self told her abt it ....this doesnt prove you non guilty .so it is better to ask her what she expects you to do to prove you love for her . I am 100percent sure she will never let go off this relationship even if she shows distance at the present .so dont be afriad but be bold enought o accept the kind of treatment she gives you for a few next weeks till her anger goes down and gets over with .
2007-01-03 21:17:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is -- Neither. The answer to true love is trust and respect. You gave her neither when you cheated. The confession was for YOUR sake. You are still not truly sorry as you wrote that it was beyond your control. She's wise to break things off. You are not ready to commit to only her.
2007-01-03 21:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her time. Right now, she is angry and probably wants to hurt you in any way she can. Let her get through her anger, then discuss the situation. Let her know that you love her and care for her. She will not stay angry with you forever, but it could take time. You have to understand that she is feeling very betrayed right now and that takes time to get over. If you give her time and some space, she will eventually forgive you. I can't guarantee that she won't break up with you though.
2007-01-03 21:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by JustDucky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey I have an idea why not tell the other girl she was a mistake and that way two women can be mad at you. Your not very bright are you. Maybe now you will either keep your mouth shut or your pecker in your pants if you want a relationship to last.
2007-01-03 21:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Mr Zip 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the FAIR thing would be for her to cut off your dick and stuff it down your throat, but I get a feeling you wouldn't hold still for that. So I guess you'll just have to settle for her form of "punishment". You've been dumped, dude, and your bullcrap about "never having lied to her" and "having cheated against your will" (you're not serious, are you???) are just pathetic.
2007-01-03 21:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The solution would be for you to keep your little weny in your pants.
Cheating isn't something that just happens out of someones control.
2007-01-03 22:36:23 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she should dump you wether u ment to do it or not u did it and everyone can control themselves,... once a cheater always a cheater you both need to go on your seperate ways. besides thats a wacked relationship anyhow
2007-01-03 21:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by jingles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have betrayed her and no longer deserve her. You did this to yourself by cheating.
2007-01-03 21:12:48 · answer #11 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋