If she has had seriously emotional and physical relationships with other girls in the past and then told me she loves me and only wants me should I believer her? Is it hard for her to resist another girl after telling me that...especially if MOST of her female friends are bi or gay also?
2007-01-03 20:57:13 · 13 answers · asked by El Tigre 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Great answers ladies...thank you and yes I am insecure. I found out she was lying to me and had these relationships in the past and she still denies it. I have seen pictures, love emails, and yet she swears now that was the past and it is me and her now. I want to trust her but do feel threatened by other girls...I'm sure I can't offer to her what they could...what if she has a change of heart 10 years from now? Oh, we have a 6 month old beautiful little girl now too. Now what do you think?
2007-01-03 21:14:27 · update #1
I'm sorry that she's been deceitful and possibly having those other relationships- that isn't fair to you or your child.
But remember that her cheating (if she is, indeed, cheating) is a personal thing that has nothing to do with her bisexuality. I know tons of married, monogmaous, absolutely faithful bisexual women and men, as well as those who want to be polyamorous and do so, and even the lowest scum of the earth- those who justify their same-sex or opposite-sex lies and cheating with their bisexuality. Don't let anyone convince you that they 'need' to be with both sexes because they're bisexual; it's not true. If she 'needs' to be with anyone but you, male or female, it's a matter of her preference for polyamory over monogamy, not because of her bisexuality, which happens to be incidental.
My point in case is that yes, a bisexual woman can stay committed to a man. A lot do. Some don't. Yours has said she loves you and wants only you, yet you've also found evidence to the contrary. At this point, I can't help you; I don't know her well enough. You do. I definitely think you should sit down with her and talk about it, in depth. Talk about it calmly and gently and express to her all your fears and worries and emotions so that she knows where you're coming from, and encourage her to do the same. Your open understanding of her situation and showing of what her behavior would do to you might just help her wage out the fight against other desires.
Good luck.
2007-01-04 04:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed feelings about bisexuals.I know that I shouldn't stereotype because stereotyping is inaccurate 80% or more of the time, but I just can't help but feel that dating someone that can go either way is someone that won't have eyes only for me.
With that said, I once asked a bisexual if he could love one sex and be only with that sex and his response was that if it is love then yes.He also said that it is possible that some bisexuals may have only a sexual attraction to one sex and have more of an emotional attraction to the other.But he pointed out that most bisexuals, true bisexuals as he put it, are people who literally can have it either way because they are not limited by gender boundaries.
So, can she be committed?That is a hard one to answer because everyone is different.While I try to avoid bisexuals for relationships that go beyond just friends, I would also not discount the possibility.If you love her and she says she loves you then it is worth a shot.It could be true love or it could be just a short thing.But either way, you won't ever know what could have been if you didn't try.And it sounds like you want to try.So why not?
2007-01-03 21:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally can't resist women. But I suppose it's possible. I am married to a wonderful man who I love very much. The sex with him is great but it's just very different between two women. I can tell you that it's something I can not give up. Of course, maybe I'm just selfish. Good luck to you.
2007-01-03 21:03:27 · answer #3 · answered by just jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I frequently tell my companion whilst we've been jointly for a pair of months. some do not techniques in any respect, others take it like I stabbed their mom. the two way it truly is terrific to nicely known early on how they're going to take it, permit's you comprehend what variety of individual you're with. 2 to six months is what I reccommend.
2016-10-19 11:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I can, so I suppose other women can too. I think it's not a matter of being bisexual, if she were heterosexual she would have to stay away from other men. I think it's basically the same thing. Even if sex with a female is different from having sex with a male. I think it's a choice to stay faithful to the one you're with, whether your hetero bi or homosexual.
2007-01-03 21:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way.. you were attracted to other women before you met her but now claim to be able to commited to just her. I'm quite sure that it's more about being commited to one person and not the sex of the person. she may have been with women before but so were you. Now the two of you can be with only each other.
2007-01-03 21:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's up to the individual really. some people just can't stay faithful.
IT's also harder for a woman to stay faithful nowadays coz it's not such a taboo to have an affair and a woman is no longer dependant on men for income.
2007-01-04 04:41:31 · answer #7 · answered by Langdon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Ellen Deg. last "girlfriend" ended up having a life changing attitude & married a man....
2007-01-03 21:03:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nocine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should help her and she need to have a hi-determination.. It's always too soon to quit and It's never late for a change
2007-01-03 22:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by yusdz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her chances with them are the same chances for a straight girl with other guys...
u're always risking this in relationship.. but we always take a chance.
2007-01-03 21:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Deema 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋