i and my hubby have been married for abt 4 months.. we are in our earli twenties... Aft marriage, i had suffered with Chicken pox.. Since there was no elderly around to take care of me.. my hubbi went on urgent leave which lasted more then 10 days.. and since i stil did not get any better.. he resigned his job jst to take care of me... since then... he have have been finding for job but NOTHIn came by...Sad to say, he hav given up hope on gettin a job.. Recently i gave him cash to take his motocycle licence... and he is doing good..At the moment he hav lots of jobs in mind which will need his licence.. so he is jst hurrying to finish his course as soon as possible..
Wat troubles me is: i jst feel he is not worried how i am mending the house... how do i settle the household bills ect ect... i feel he's LAZY!!! i seriously don noe .. i feel he's selfish.. y doesn't he think of going to a Part time job for the time being??? wen i discuss this with him,its ends up in a fight!!!i hate him!
2007-01-03 20:46:05 · 11 answers · asked by sUnseT 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its your suspicion that he does not ? he does it in much the way than it requires, you said that he left the job for you. Then ? just give him time, he is always with you.
2007-01-03 20:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by ngg_ghimire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-29 23:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by bonanno 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really know how you feel, all I can say is you should get out of the relationship if you feel that way & you're probably right. It may have seemed like a sweet gesture at the time but he did more damage by giving up his job & I'll bet he was happy at having an excuse to quit. If he's like this now, think about how your happy marriage will be 7 years down the road with two kids & a mortgage payment. Trust me I'm living it, get it together & find another cause he's not gonna change.
2007-01-03 20:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is the only able body that can work then he shouldn't be picky about a job if you needs the money to survive. Get off your butt is what you should tell him becasue if you weren't ill I am sure you would be doing your part. It is his responsibility to take care of you since he married you. He needs to be a man and stop acting like a child thinking about what could be until he gets that license. He still doesn't have a guarnetted job even after he gets that license. A job is better then no job at all. He still needs a job in meantime even if its only part time.
2007-01-03 21:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by babydollgem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is selfish of him.Trying to talk to him ends up in a fight? Thats just wrong! As newly weds its normal.You guys(or HIM in this case) need to learn to communicate with each other better.Ask him how does he expect to have a good marriage with you if you cant exchange thoughts? Try and come up with something to resolve this problem like an agreement.Let him try and get his license so he can try and progress and go where he is trying to go.Let him know thats its too much for one person to do.You guys made a commitment to each other when you got married and started living together.Not only with sex but with everything else that comes with a marriage! You guys are really young also.I also live with my fiance and im 19 years old.It's hard to do at times, but thats why you have to have communication.Without communication, you dont have anything. If he keeps on with his non-sense and he cant be reasonable to your feelings then you need to let him go.I know its not easy, but think about it sweety, how do you expect your marriage to last when you cant tell him how you're feeling? He cant be selfish.It takes two to make it work! I wish you the best of luck, Happy new Year.
2007-01-03 20:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Loving My Babyboy ;) ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is sad because it doesn't sound like either of you are ready for the responsibilities of living on your own, let alone being married.
I don't know why he would need to take off work to take care of you because you had the chickenpox as it is not a serious ailment and unless there was serious complications or you worked in food service or health care industry, you should not have had to miss much work either.
In the meantime, if he won't get a job, you should in order to keep a roof over your head or see if your parents will let you move back in with them until you can get your life sorted out and back on track.
2007-01-03 20:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if hes to lazy to get a job u get one if you don't already have one and if you truly hate him then you are not in a very good relationship and maybe it is time to call it quits sorry to tell you this but it most likely isn't worth ur time and energy to be putting something into this marriage and not getting the same back in return i say call a divorce lawyer after you give him one more chance to get a job and help out with the bills and if it ends up in a fight tell him to leave or pack ur bags and leave him i am SO sorry that ur marriage is going through such a rough time i really hope everything works out for you GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-03 20:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by love_beauty_kindness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like my man in some ways, he dosen't work & just expects that the bills pay themselves. Men are just like that I think. Mine actually gets mad at me if I don't have enough money to cover everything. He has only worked probably a year & a half in the 8 1/2 years that we have been together. He needs to grow up, thats what I tell mine
2007-01-03 20:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems like he' s not mature enough to be a man and get a job to support the both of you...
2007-01-03 20:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to GROW up & stop being a child
2007-01-03 21:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by nbr660 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋