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i and my hubby have been married for abt 4 months.. we are in our earli twenties... Aft marriage, i had suffered with Chicken pox.. Since there was no elderly around to take care of me.. my hubbi went on urgent leave which lasted more then 10 days.. and since i stil did not get any better.. he resigned his job jst to take care of me... since then... he have have been finding for job but NOTHIn came by...Sad to say, he hav given up hope on gettin a job.. Recently i gave him cash to take his motocycle licence... and he is doing good..At the moment he hav lots of jobs in mind which will need his licence.. so he is jst hurrying to finish his course as soon as possible..
Wat troubles me is: i jst feel he is not worried how i am mending the house... how do i settle the household bills ect ect... i feel he's LAZY!!! i seriously don noe .. i feel he's selfish.. y doesn't he think of going to a Part time job for the time being??? wen i discuss this with him,its ends up in a fight!!!i hate him!

2007-01-03 20:45:16 · 7 answers · asked by sUnseT 3 in Business & Finance Careers & Employment

7 answers

Money is the center of many divorces. Ask yourself "how badly do you want to stay married to him?" and "How much do you appreciate him taking care of you when you were sick?"

You may feel like you're doing more than your fair share, but he sounds like a man worth keeping. Spend a little time taking care of the house but a lot of time taking care of him.

You'll get through it.

2007-01-03 20:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I think he is not lazy, rather he was not happy with his job and was looking for an excuse to resign. The best thing would be if you let him get his license, mebbe once he is mobile, he will seriously look for jobs. Travelling by local transport can be frustrating. In the meantime you can utilize ur education and start giving home tuitions to keep the mill spinning. Once you start earning, you will be in a position to explain him and he is bound to hear you out. Try and talk to him when he is in agood mood and avoid conflicts. Handover the bills to him let him settle them.

2007-01-04 04:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

maybe he is worrying about your bills and how to pay for it, but just don't want to discuss it with you (as you say, when you discuss it, it ends in fight). Most men are like that, they don't want to be confronted, so don't. If you really like to discuss those things with him, write him a letter, say all the things that you like, and wait for a reply from him. If he doesn't reply right away, let him be, but, if it's already a week or two and he still doesn't answer, follow him up personally, not through a letter, and tell him he can also write you a letter, just to avoid the fights.
Good luck!

2007-01-04 04:53:20 · answer #3 · answered by jocjac 2 · 0 0

You think he is selfish for taking off and resigning from his job to take care of you when you are sick?!?! Wow you are a little mixed up that was completely unselfish and you hate your husband?

2007-01-04 04:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by Golfr 2 · 1 0

Um, First off, you are the selfish one, second he is lazy because he hasn't found another job. Third, you need to learn some spelling and grammer.

2007-01-04 04:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by Metal 4 · 0 0

If he is acting this way y dont u do a job urself that will surely make him realise that he is also suppose to handle responsibilities.

2007-01-04 04:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by harsha s 2 · 0 0

Fire him..... Come to work for me...

P.S. are you over your pox and do you ave any other problems STD's included.........

2007-01-04 04:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by o_r_y_g_u_n 5 · 0 1

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