If someone is shy, and avoids people, isn't it strange they would talk quite freely when put in a situation where they can't avoid socializing, and once in that situation, they reveal more than they would like because they're talking too fast and too much? Is this person really shy?
2007-01-03 20:37:20 · 6 answers · asked by JustMaybe 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, sometimes talking to get over nerves.
2007-01-03 20:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by melark 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes - talking too much, too fast or revealing too much is definitely a result of nerves.
I go through that a lot and I'm very shy. It's hard to explain why this happens, but some of my thoughts are:
When you're shy, it's not because you have "nothing" to say. In fact, you probably have a lot to say and add to a conversation but something happens within you that creates a block. You either are at a loss for words due to some fear or insecurity, or you keep your thoughts to yourself waiting for the right moment to say them and then letting the moment pass by, or you just get unsure of how others will react to what you say. So as a result, you remain shy and quiet. Shy people also may want to go to a gathering but get nervous about how they will react once they get there or they're scared about how the people there will react to them. It's an incredible inner battle one experiences when they're shy. The shy person wants to get to know others and wants others to know them, but they experience a "block".
However, if they are given an opportunity where they feel a little more at ease and someone is noticing them or wants to get to know them, the shy person may not know what to do with this type of situation. So they blurt out things really fast (due to nerves) and sometimes reveal TOO much information because they've held things in for so long. It could also be that they're talking quickly to get the attention off of them.
It's quite a frustrating battle and I experience it first hand. I've realized that it might give off mixed signals to other people, but it's really just due to the battle of shyness itself and the nerves one experiences as a result.
Don't be too hard on the person...they're trying. It just takes time and patience to get the shy person completely comfortable and at ease.
2007-01-07 17:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a nervousness thing. Talking more and fast to get attention off them and to seem and to fit in more. Fast talking may give away unwanted things though, especially if one is not used to the situation at hand.
2007-01-04 04:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by Hyphon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. They are very nervous and it comes out in talking too much.
2007-01-04 04:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a possible case of multiple personalities.
It could also be possible this person does not have any social contacts on a regular basis and has so much to say when in that environment.
Could be a case study for a psychiatrist.
2007-01-04 04:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by r_a_i_n_m_a_n_5_9 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
nervous about what others think.
2007-01-04 04:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋