What is the answer of the true love - Punishment or Forgiveness?

Question

Hi,
I have a girl friend and we belong to different culture and I have not met her for a long time as we live in diffenrt countries but we two love each other and feel each other a lot. Last week I cheated upon her , something which happend I could not control but latter I confessed before her and asked her for the forgivness , a sceond chance but she wish for punishment and want to break up and I dont wish to . I had never lied to her ever and neither wish too. Can somebody advise the fair solution for us.

Thanks a lot

Answer 1

You don't deserve her love - you are accepting no blame for what happened. How could it not be controlled? There are many reasons why people cheat - some forgivable - but you are ALWAYS in control.
Yes, you confessed, but you haven't mentioned if you APOLOGISED? That is key here. You don't seem to feel any remorse, or guilt over your actions.
Let her be angry, and let her find someone else. If you really love her, you will see that you are not right for her, and you will let her be free and give her the chance to find a man who will love her and respect her.
I don't think there is a fair solution - you wronged her. She is the victim, the innocent party. Act like a real man and admit your mistake.
She isn't punishing you, she just doesn't want to be with a man who obviously doesn't care for her.
Would you want to be with someone who chose to hurt you, and then didn't want to accept any responsibility for what happened?
This is nothing to do with being from different cultures, and this is nothing to do with true love. If you love someone, you don't do what you did.
Learn from your mistakes - if you manage to find a new partner - treat them properly. There is always temptation, but if you truly want to be with someone, you choose them over and affair - everytime.
You have no choice in this break up - your girlfriend has made her wishes known, now you need to be a man and accept it and let her move on - without you.
The saying goes "If you can't do the time, don't do the crime". You cheated on her. You have no right to a second chance. Accept it.

Answer 2

I feel sorry for you that the relationship has turned sour even after you have made your confession to her. You should not have thought about doing something like this knowing that it would jeapodise your relationship. As I have no clue as to how serious your relationship with your girlfriend is, there is nothing that can be done to regain her trust in you again. Even punishment is not going to revive that relationship again. In what ways you should be punished I would not know but it seems a bit harsh and victorian!! Surely she doesn't own you!! Perhaps the best thing to do is to have some space for the two of you to think about whether you would want to continue with this relationship or to end it. Whatever it is would be best for the both parties...It is no point in contiuing when one does not trust the other anymore. Good Luck.....

Answer 3

Since you have cheated on her you deserve punishment.

But then again no love can be successful without forgiveness and trust.

Since you have shown your trust its her chance to forgive you. But since she is dedicating her full life to you she needs time to retrust on you.

Stand in her shoes and think what should be done. It becomes very difficult to regain a trust once it is broken.

But a second chance should be give, but you should prove worth to her chance.

If you couldn't control this time. what is the guarantee it wont repeat it again. So you better be careful and I hope she will also forgive you for sure.

Good Luck with your life.!!!

Answer 4

it is quite normal for one to seek punishment for unjust treatment. the decision is up to her if she wishes to forgive u. u can't force it, but u do need to be open and honest with her. your cheating did not just happen, u made that decision u made the choice here. some people can't forgive being betrayed, because trust has been lost, and is not easy to get it back. perhaps she doesn't want to be hurt again, if u are telling her oh it just happened, beyond my control, u are not taking responsibility for it, takes more than just confessing it to cleanse your own soul, takes being remorseful, repetitive, and willing to take the blame. this happened because u made it happen, u and u alone need to be accountable, and try to convince her it will not occur again.

Answer 5

You have betrayed you girlfriends trust, If you cant stay faithfull b4 you get married how will you after?
Yes you had the decency to confess, but who did you make feel better? only yourself, you should have kept quiet for her sake not yours.
For now you will have to work on your girlfriend and gain back her trust, if she still feels the betrayl is too much to bare then i'm afraid it could be over.
Good luck, we all make mistakes and everyone deserves at least one second chance xx

Answer 6

hey hi!!

if i was in ur girlfriend's place n really loved u, i wud give u a second chance because i think that love is all about forgiving.At the same time i wud expect u to be good and not cheat on me again.

love is about forgivenss. if she loves u she wont let u suffer for long. but since it is ur mistake.......maybe she will take her time and decide about ur future.......

tc and all d best

Answer 7

hello nites, you really dont eat what you dont like rite? i guess the you dont deserve her love allow her to punish you and after that who knows she may forgive you but make sure she is aware that you mean it no to do that again.
all being things being equal, you simply dont deserve his love.

Answer 8

never hurt someones feelings.its very difficult to regain.ask sorry and don't repeat it..

Answer 9

karma.......you don't deserve her love.......you will do it again by how you sound....you don't deserve love.....And you Can control....you just make a excuse for yourself

Answer 10

she is not generous - you are TOO honest - too late to change