Why i fear to speak or meet people?

Question

I wanna know if there is anything like fear of people and how to control it. When i see huge crowds, i start to shake and feel uncomfortable and i dont like to meet new people. I think it's psychological. But my hands not shake for nothing all the time. Is this some form of illness. I've never had any mental disorder and i'm not on any medication. Plz give me extra details so that i can control my fear and stop my ever shaking hands.

Thanks in advance

Answer 1

I used to be the same ( and sometimes still am) .. I would refer to it as my PEOPLE PHOBIA... I think as time goes by and i become more comfortable with who I am and not worry about WHAT i think people are thinking about me... I stopped having that take place as often.

I think once i realised I wasn't thinking about everybody else , i accepted They were also not thinking about me and my paranoia eased.

but it wouldn't hurt you to seek proffessional advice :)
good luck,

Answer 2

Sounds like an anxiety disorder. Could be one of two things (or both, as is sometimes the case): Generalized Anxiety Disorder or agoraphobia. Agoraphobia is the fear of the outside. Usually, this involves socializing, being in unfamiliar areas, or just being outside in general. While it is a phobia, it's commonly considered an anxiety disorder, as well.

Either way, the treatments are similar. You might need medication, since it could be a neurological problem (an imbalance of norepinephrine). If this is the case, reasoning your way out of your anxiety will not help--you will need to see a psychiatrist. However, if you don't want to explore that option for whatever reason, you can also reason your way out of it. Most of the time, people use Cognitive-Behavioral Psychology to treat these disorders. Try gradually putting yourself in more stressful situations. For example, if simply going outside to check your mail produces minor anxiety, keep doing that and concentrating on the irrational thoughts you have about going outside--the fear (even if it's just your preoccupied thoughts about your shaking hands). After you become more comfortable checking your mail, try going out for a drive. Then go to a coffee shop, etc. You get the idea--just keep opening yourself up to more anxiety-producing experiences as you gradually become comfortable with them. If going out to check your mail or going outside at all bothers you, then try simply thinking about going outside. Don't go too far--be patient. If you put yourself in too stressful a situation, you could take some steps back. All the while, remember to concentrate on how irrational it is to feel uncomfortable in these settings. You can fight the small battles until you win, then onto the next challenge. Good luck.

Answer 3

The first thing you should do is to relax, completely relax. Mind of mind you should accept the fact that people bring cheer and meaning into our lives. They are just like us, however they may look, having the same likes and dislikes.
My cousin sister stayed in a remote location, in a forest, with hardly any human interaction other than her dad, mom, brother and servants. Her dad was posted there. After many years, at the age of 20 or so, when she came to stay with us in the city she also felt like what you are feeling. her hands also used to shiver and shake. This is no form of illness, there is no medication. A positive/ sensitive person, on whom you have full confidence can, with positive suggestions and analysis remove the fear gently.

Answer 4

Psychologists refer to this syndrome as Social Anxiety Disorder and it's treated by a combination of counseling (talk therapy) and some medications (sometimes to treat the depression that usually results from being socially isolated).

Please seek professional help. Contact your local Mental Health Association for referrals or check out your local yellow pages for listing of psychologists and psychiatrists. There are more people with your conditions than most people think. Good luck and best wishes!

Answer 5

Yes, but I wouldnt call it a illness..you need to talk to you doctor and find out what can be done. It prob is a phobia of some sort. I have a friend that I have known for about 4 years who is petrified of leaving his house and has not done so in the past 12 years. He lives with his mom, does not talk on the phone (tho I was able to gain his trust and we would talk for hours on the phone). He hasnt driven, been to the store or even gone outside for the past 12 years. He sleeps with a gun under his bed for fear that someone is going to get him. He's really a great person, handsome and smart, but his fear of people has kept him isolated for so long. He has tried to go outside to check the mail but he is afraid someone will see him and hes also afraid that people will make fun of him because he thinks he is ugly and too tall.. I've been of some therapy to him talking to him, making him feel more comfortable about who he is, but still he hasnt been able to take that step outside his door yet, but I know in time I can get him on the first step on the front porch.
Your case dosnt sound as bad as his but I think that if you dont get help now, it may lead to this..

Answer 6

you might have had some unpleasant excperience in the past. Were you as a child lost in a large crowd at any point of time or abused. think of your earliest memories when you were in crowds. when was the first time you realised you were anxious about huge crowds.

Do you have a fear of speaking in public as well. there may be some deep insecurities about meeting new people. it would be good to find some trustworthy respected adult to share this with or find a counsellor you can confide in. this may not be something you can reslove through a posting like this and may need greater introspection and in depth understanding.

Answer 7

The only thing you got to do is to treat women as women... you do have a mother, if you do treat women like the way you treat your mom with respect and don't fear them because behind all the failures of men you were evil women but to tell you the truth behind every successful man lies a beautiful woman... What im trying to say is not all women are evil but they can be deceitful if you are... so be good and treat them they want you to and i'm pretty sure you'll get over that fear of yours. Good Luck!

Answer 8

You may have anthropophobia which is a totally legit illness. Fear of people and society. Google it and see what you come up with. In any case you have some form of anxiety. You need to get proffessional help.

Answer 9

yes there is a type of fear i think. maybe you should seek proffesional help if one day it bcomes so serious u refuse to step out the door. now, that's serious. or. everytime you go out, gather up your courage and meet head on with the crowds. or when u meet people, you can repeat to yourself, "they are just like me.a normal, vulnerable, fearful human being." you might feel better, hopefully braver.

Answer 10

It's really easy. You feel that you have some sort of obligation to prove something. These symptoms are usually common to very consciuous people. Untreted can lead to very serious paranoia and schizofrenia. So, you better try to believe that noone will ever question your secrets and judge you for who you are. Cheers.