How do I through the pains of a divorce?

Question

Except for the first two months we quarrel almost every week.Either she complains about me or my parent or my sister although we live in a foreign country,my parents live in my home country and my sister is living in another country with her own family.They never interfere in my married life which my wife doesn't believe.I really tried a lot to make her understand that there is no conspiracy going on and no body in interfering.From the beginning she had the tendency to complain every single details of our conjugal life to her parents and now her parents just hate me and my family.It's a family problem now and every now and then me and my parents have to hear that we did this or that which are totally baseless.If I ask her to give ONE example how my parents and sister interfered my family,she can't answer.Instead,she says "do you think I am a lier??"I tried a lot but she didn't understand.I think a divorce is inevitable.I can't bear the pains and I don't know how to move forward. Help!!

1)She already left me. She is with her parents right now. She wants to comeback but she says "Even though you all treated me bad, I wanna come back as I am a good girl".
2)Her parents behaved very bad with my parents accusing them of lying about me.
3)She is the only daughter. She has 3 elder brothers who treated her like a princess all her life and she thinks that she can get whatever she wants.
4)Usually she doesn't say sorry as she believes that SHE IS RIGHT.
5)To prove herself innocent she told lies about me to her parents.
6)She has the tendency to misinterprete what others say.
7)I got too angry with her many times even though I could've been calm.
8)We are married only for 2 years. I am 28 and she is 24.
9)I have never cheated her. I am very loyal to her...but she blames me for cheating.again..without any PROOF.
10)She says that she loves me.but her actions don't proof that.
11)I even quit my phd and got a job with good salary to support her better and make her happy.

In reply to DEE:
I don't consider my self as a nice guy.I am just a normal guy with mistakes of my own.I made lots of mistakes and sometimes did awkward things..I guess.As I mentioned, I could've been calm in some cases where I went too angry.At the end I acted like a loner who doesn't want to talk about problems any more.She came up to me with problems, complains, and I wasn't just listening as my experiences with her taught me that she never realizes that she is not always right.As I became quiet,she also became quiet.So quiet that living under the same roof we talked pretty less.I shouldn't have stopped listening to her.I am also quite responsible to create a distance between us.I was also getting angry with silly things at the end.I know my faults.But believe me or not,I really cared too much for her and my friends also told me from time to time that I am doing too much.Somehow "caring too much" turned against me.

Answer 1

you sound like a really nice guy......but like everything there are two sides to every story.
however the whole princess, only daughter with three older brothers does ring a bell, so why do you put up with her dictating to you what you can and can't do? doesn't is sound like a lack of mutual respect between the two of you........
you quit your phd for her and yet she still has the nerve to tell you off for anything else.... i am sorry to say but when they start to walk all over you, you either wear it and lose who you are or leave with some dignity and self respect........it is very rare for the abuser (which is what she is doing) to change who they are. Either way there is still pain to be had with either choice.........

Answer 2

this marraige is really destructive! she sounds very spoilt and demanding. she is thinking of herself on every level, and your needs and feelings are being ignored. if a divorce is inevitable, i REALLY feel you should accept it. this woman may have loved you to begin with, but now it`s just all about control for her. she wants everything her way, and doesn`t seem to care how much she is hurting you to get this. she also has no respect for you or your marraige if she is telling all your private business to her family! you need to be really strong, and brave, and tell her that you will not take any more of this, and that the marraige is over. yes, it will be painful, but NOWHERE NEAR as painful as it will become if you allow this to continue. talk to your family and friends, get support. walk away from this now before it does you any more damage. good luck.

Answer 3

you can never forget or loose the pains of a divorce, it will always be their, im sorry to say this but this is true, some divorced people try to find other people just to forget the pains but it doesn't work..............

once your divorce it's like having pains that would last forever, coz you broke your vows during the time you were joined together as one..............

Answer 4

i know it is hard to let someone go, but it sounds like she wanted to create some kind of drama, you are know divorced, go through the emotions of that and don't worry about he past. trying going out and meeting some one knew, just take it slow, and be your self!
Happy New Year!!

Answer 5

Give her a choice: marriage counselling for the both of you, or a divorce lawyer for each.

Answer 6

try to not talk to family members so often and spend more time together doing things that you both like to do.

Answer 7

Dump the bimbo and rent a hooker whenever you feel like getting laid!

Answer 8

Did u tell her u wan divorce?tell her first and is she say sorry you then that good!