i have a masculine side too which does surface when i'm with my girl but in my feminine self i'm all girl. i fantasise about other crossdressers when i'm with her to sometimes get aroused. i know i'm not gay but these days getting aroused when with her becomes quite a task. please help.
2007-01-03 19:50:01 · 11 answers · asked by sylvie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Go ahead & tell her that you like to dress-up in women's clothing. Or suggest something to spice up your sex life & tell her you'd like to see what it's like to be a woman. Who knows, she might love the idea, but you'll never know until you ask her.
2007-01-04 11:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her if you think you want to be with her for good. It depends on her as to how she will take it. Most women will freak out, think you are gay and not know how to handle it because they are afraid of something that they don't understand. Would it help you be aroused if you could cross dress whilst being intimate with her? What I mean is, are you turned on by her as a woman and therfore really not gay? Because if it's just that you want the womens clothing etc aspect then perhaps you could add it and she may be ok with that. I'm guessing that she won't but there really are a lot of married men who's wives do understand and live with their men cross dressing. It's not common because most women don't understand it but it's not impossible for it to work if you love each other. If you are in fact not gay, it is possible to find a woman who will understand your need to dress as such. You may even find a woman who is turned on by you dressing in this way. It takes a special person but I do believe that it takes all sorts to make up this world and there is a woman out there who can fall in love with you, even with this being a part of you. afterall it's a part of who you are.
2007-01-03 20:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you cant get aroused with her because you have to tell her something.I think you should sit her down and just be honest and talk about it openly.Let her know you're not gay and that it's a bit of fun for you too dress up ,like you do.If she loves you she will understand,and she might even like it,you both could use it as a role playing game,or tell her it's a fantasy and she might join in.
2007-01-03 19:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by devil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably a good time to have a talk with her. Imagine how ticked and hurt she'd be if she found out from someone else about your hobby. Unless it's not a serious relationship, which it might not be with the problems you mention.
Just maybe, it might be time to *not* be in a relationship so you can figure out who you want to be and what sort of person it would take to make you happy. Everyone needs to take the time to do that but most of us don't, probably because of the stigma of being "single".
2007-01-03 19:56:14 · answer #4 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all:many men have this fetish:I can't see myself doing it but....
I think it's better to tell her.
Would you like it if she found out by herself one day and feel all betrayed by you,whilst there is really nothing going on?
Try to get the right setting to tell her.
Maybe tell her you got a big surprise for her.
And to show it you need some time.
Then show it to her.
Might be:
1)she gets real upset.
2)reacts like :is this for carnival?
3)wants to know why?
4)is intrigued
5)etc.
Al least you created a chance to talk about it.
And BTW:it's your feelings we are talking about.
You live in a free country
So give it your best shot.
And as you mentioned that you are not gay:so what????
Success with it:Rob.xxx
2007-01-03 20:06:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go see rocky horror at a theater, sit in the back and half-way through the show shove her hand down your pants to feel your silk panties, garter belt, lace stockings and raging hard on... then act all coy and shy on the way home.... once you get home give her the "present" you've prepared for her... a giant strap on dildo with realistic giant slapping balls... then tell her you love her... but she needs to start giving a little bit in the relationship and stop being such a selfish *****...
2007-01-04 00:24:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woke up with my grilfriends tank top and underware on before she just giggled and asked what that was all about.I told her I just grabbed something quick.Nothing wrong with a little humar to the relationship but don't over do it.
2007-01-03 20:15:12 · answer #7 · answered by Matty G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to tell her, Tell her in a different way, Like when you have an intimate evening, tell her that you'd like to dress up in her cloths and she do the same in yours. Take it from there.
2007-01-03 19:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
nicely be easy with him in case you like it tell him. in case you dont permit him comprehend that as quickly as you get carry of into the dating you probably did it for a guy in case you wanted somebody wearing females outfits you may of gotten with one.
2016-10-19 10:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to break it to you honey but your gay
2007-01-03 20:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by revolution 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋