we been toghether for 5 yrs we have a 2yr. old daughter and im pregnant again im like 6 mon. but it seems like he doesnt love me we cant even be in the same room i just walk in and he gets up and leaves or he always want one of his friends their and they stay around all day one of his friends told me that he always asking him to drive him around and when he does leave he leaves for hours he says hes just going to the store he takes about 8 hr without even calling me when he get home he doesnt even want me to get near him and the weird thing is that its been more than 10 days without having sex and that he doesnt even get near me or even try's to. when i do bring up the cheating part he says its all non-sense that im fu***** stupid and thats why hes never here that im a dumb bi***. i just want somebody to give me good advice
2007-01-03 19:37:25 · 13 answers · asked by ladianawhcali 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try counseling. If that is out of the question, then leave him. If you stay, you are sending the message that it's ok to treat people like that, and worse, to be treated like that. I know that your daughter is only 2, but it's amazing what kids learn and carry with them. Also, do you want your child to think that you ARE the things that he said? I'm not saying he's right, so please don't be offended. He's abusing you (mentally and verbally- for now anyway) and odds are that his behavior will escalate. So, do you and your kids a favor- find a counselor, or find a new place to live.
I hope it works out well, whichever way you choose.
2007-01-03 19:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's my opinion that Facebook was the culprit here, I don't do Facebook or any other type social site on the internet. It could be that he was faithful and committed up to the point of possibly someone sparking an interest on FB. Maybe not, but it really doesn't matter at this point how it happened. He was not committed to you or he would have ignored her. Your plan to break it off for good is a healthy decision for you ... kudos to you for having respect for yourself and not tolerating his actions. Most guys that are in it for the long term thing are more attracted to women like you that are independent and confident, ones that don't tolerate BS. You will end up finding a great guy that would never do that to you. Good luck and God Bless, I know this hurts. Time is your friend ........stay busy !!
2016-03-29 07:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trapped Hell!!!
Leave the DUMB ***'.
Any man that can talk to his wife/woman like he talks to you
isn't worth the pot he 'p****s' in.
And for him to be gone for hours at a time 'just to the store',
is another load of bologne'.
He's got you between a 'rock and a hard place', knowing you're pregnant again, and a little two year old running around.
He knows you can't just 'up and attum' to see where he's going.
I'd be really 'P****d' if my old man was gone for hours without
even a phone call.
Bottom Line' he does NOT 'love' you, or RESPECT' you.
If he did he wouldn't do the things he does.
If you want some peace and happiness I'd get away from that loser!!!!
And is he cheating? I'll bet you he most certainly IS!!
2007-01-03 20:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay even if hes not cheating on you.. it sounds like you could do SO much better. I dont think hes cheating i think he might just not want to be with you anymore and he might not know how to say it. He obviously cant handle having a decent conversation with you so maybe you should sit him down and tell him how you feel. And if he tries to leave stop him.. he shouldnt be treating you like crap.
2007-01-03 19:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just feeling trapped. We go through this as the family is forming and our old life is dying off. Probably not cheating but even if he is, he'll probably come out of it in awhile. Give him a year. I know, long time. My wife held in there and once I got over it, we were fine.
2007-01-03 19:41:07 · answer #5 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL HE HAVE NO REASON CALLING YOU A DUMB B****. THAT IS A SIGN OF VERBAL ABUSE FOR ONE. NO MAN IS GOING TO ADMIT TO CHEATING UNLESS HE'S TRYING TO HURT YOU. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH BECAUSE I WAS RAPED BY MY BOYFRIEND AND BECAME PREGNANT WITH TWINS AND I WAS ALWAYS A STUPID WHORE OR SOMETHING OF THAT NATURE. I LEFT HIM AND NOW IM MARRIED TO A WONDERFUL MAN. YOU SHOULD WEIGH YOUR OPTIONS AS IN WHAT WILL I GAIN IF I LEAVE OR WHAT WILL I LOSE. FROM THE LOOKS OF THINGS YOU ARE ONLY LOSING A HEARTACHE.
2007-01-03 20:09:31 · answer #6 · answered by I NEED HELP TOO! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should approach him differently -don't bring up the cheating issue (nag). You are setting up a tense environment at home. Try get marriage counseling if possible. Any proof he is cheating?
2007-01-03 20:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by chubbycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like something is bothering him if he doesn't even want to be alone with you. if he won't talk to you, what about asking his friend if he knows what's going on. if they don't know and he won't tell you, then you're better off by yourself since it's kinda that way now and i certainly wouldn't put up with him called me a dumb bi***.
2007-01-03 19:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your so-called boyfriend is verbally and emotionally abusing you. Probably in front of your child, soon in front of your children. Do you really want to raise them in that sort of environment? Not to mention, do you really want to spend the rest of your life in that environment? Get out now, before the verbal and emotional abuse turn into physical abuse.
2007-01-03 19:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an a s s hole. You just need to find some one that won't belittle you. He probably is cheating on you anyway.
2007-01-03 19:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋