last year (2006) i almost got married to this girl coz she said she was pregnant and even pretended to be, but luckily for me i found out she was a no good loser who just wants to get married coz she's growing old and is running out of time. anyways, the experience was pretty nasty and my family was put on the defensive.
now, by some lucky stroke, i met the most wonderful girl you can imagine, just perfect for me, and i swear that i really love her, not the lust-love i had for the other girls i went out with...and i want to marry her. i'm known and approved by her side of the family but i just need some advise on how to breach the subject to my sisters and parents. thanks guys
2007-01-03 19:28:26 · 12 answers · asked by Moyo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I would bring her around them a lot if possible, so that they can see for themselves how wonderful she is. There is no need to rush into a marriage. You will be married for the rest of your lives, so waiting a few months or a year won't seem like it's that long. If you tell your family too soon, then things don't work out, they will stop trusting your judgement, and it will be much harder for them to accept the person that you end up marrying.
2007-01-03 19:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family should listen first to what you have to say,then they should realize that since you did fined out the truth about this other girl and didn't go through with it,because "SHE" lied and you were going to do the right thing by her and marry,they should be behind you 100%! And think of you as a good man,who has a heart and a brain! Obviously! Besides if you love this girl,they should just support you no matter what,that's what family is for,isn't it?
2007-01-04 03:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by kathy v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you can understand why your family has their reservations about you being involved in a new relationship after what just occurred a few months ago. You will have to earn your families trust and respect back now. You do that by showing them, not telling them that you are mature . For you to be thinking about spending the rest of your life with someone, you need to make sure that you can take care of yourself first before you can even think about entering someone else into the picture. Don't rush into something that you won't be able to get yourself out of.
2007-01-04 03:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by LaurenElyse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be straight forward.Tell them that you love her and finally you have met someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. And you are %110 sure this is the right thing and you would appreciate their support. If they truly love ya as a family member and want to see you happy they will support you and your future wife!
2007-01-04 03:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your parents and tell them u met this lovely girl and bring her to diner at your parents house and keep her there one night get them to know her well and like her. U need to tell ur family that u like her and ur going to marry her
Then after that make ur family meet her family.
Finaly propose to her infront of all of them and ur family will be happy for u.
2007-01-04 03:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by mimo_2991 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth shall set you free my man. Just tell em exactly what's going on and they'll either support you on your decision or they won't. You're not gonna find 10 magical words that will immediately make them love her as they (I'm assuming here) love you.
2007-01-04 03:31:10 · answer #6 · answered by mjcalohan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should bring up the subject of what happened and ask them how it made them feel.
encourage them to be honest.
then tell them you want to be honest too and tell about the new person you met.
ask them if they would give her a chance and if they would meet her. i think if they love YOU they'll accept HER if she's a good woman.
2007-01-04 03:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go on with your plans, for it is your life, and not your sister's or your parents'. At some point, they must accept that you want this girl.
2007-01-04 03:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them, schedule a dinner and tell them, for sure it would be a schocking moment for them but you'll see they will understand you, it's your family....
or if you want tell it to your sisters first coz usually they can understand you......then tell them to support you and help you when you tell it to your parents................
2007-01-04 03:36:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with them tell them how u really feel about her but also do whats right for u and her best of luck
2007-01-04 03:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by debbie o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋