This loved one was a very influencial person,like their Mother? Especially when they have lost 6 loved ones this past year?
2007-01-03 19:26:05 · 11 answers · asked by kathy v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know if this person is a Christian or not, but my cousin passed away almost 12 years ago of a massive heart attack. She was only 14 years old. At the funeral home, someone came up to my aunt, her mother, and said something like, "When we lose someone here, that just means that Heaven is getting sweeter all the time."
I lost my great-grandmother this past Thanksgiving Day. It was very hard. I was only 6 when my cousin died, so I don't remember it well, so my great-grandmother's death was really the first to hit me as the person being gone. I was very close to her. I think about her every day. What she would say, do, think in a situation. It's good to keep a lost loved one's memory alive. You should tell this person to always remember the person that they have lost, and to keep their memory alive by passing on their story to future generations. Tell them to always keep a picture of the person close by so they can look at it any time they want. Honestly, you forget what someone looks like as time passes. I like to keep a picture close by, and imagine something that my great-grandmother would be saying. I hope this person is able to deal with their loss in a way that will allow them to grieve, but also to learn to adapt to the change.
2007-01-09 16:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by this_is_me_426 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on my knowledge, saying "I'm sorry for your loss" doesn't mean anything to the person whom you are talking about. Just saying certain things doesn't always help. I believe you need to get into the person's shoe and try to understand what her situation is about. Ask yourself what would you want to hear from another person if you were in her situation. Typically when a person dies, in my culture, we would give them white (not red) envelopes with money included within. It usually ranges from $300 and up. I would then also say to them that this is a very unfortunate event and I wish I could do more to help. However I am trying the best I can. Is there anything else I could do for you. Usually saying that always helps make the person feel better.
I hope this helps.
2007-01-03 19:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This thins I'm sure you can say..
"Life must go on," though it is hard to put things just as past.
Learn to accept that life and everthing in this world is not permanent learn to anticipate future...
Always remember that where ever they are they are all happy with God's hand... For sure they are not happy if you will not move on because they will think that you dont care for yourself and you stuck yourself though it's a part of lossing someone they want you to learn to let go.
leave it to god because od knows the best for you...
and god loves you...
2007-01-03 19:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by rhegs15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One three occasions I have done this and it was greatly appreciated. I found a photograph of their loved one that I had taken and framed it. Then I told them what the gift was so it would not be too big a shock and upset them too much when they saw it. It's a gift they can display when they want to or pack away when they are too sad.
2007-01-03 19:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Californiamama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really like what Tim had to say, my husband died young, you feel scared, that would of helped, also sorry for your loss is kind, Life goes on is ignorant to say to a person who just lost someone. yeah Tim
2007-01-03 19:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tough knowing what to say but just being there if they want to talk, sharing their pain, giving them a hug means a lot. Spend time with them and encourage them to get out and do things with you or other people.
2007-01-03 19:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell that person that you are really, sincerly sorry. and you cant even begin to imagen how much they are hurting. but let them know that you are really there for them if they need to talk or need a shoulder to cry on. and if you can, send that person yellow flowers and a bear.
2007-01-03 19:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by So in love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be physically present. Listen to them. Be willing to sit in silence with them. Don't abandon them because you don't know what to say or are uncomfortable.
2007-01-03 19:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by mutvulture 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try this if you don't have anything good to say just keep silent but be there to comfort, sometimes it's better to be quiet and just hug them...........God Bless .............
2007-01-03 19:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
feel sympathetic towards them and be there to support them if they need anything. .a hug and shoulder to cry on is great!
2007-01-03 19:29:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋