Human evolution undone!!?

Question

Men are the way they are because of thousands of years of evolution. Beginning in the late 60's, society said we need to be more emotional, less aggressive, etc. So over a 40 year period, we are expected to undo thousands of years of evolution.

The same goes for the roles traditionally held by men and women. For example, as much as I love my daughter, I can't comfort her the way my wife can. We have a traditional marriage where I make certain decisions and she makes certain decisions. There is no 50/50. No organization works well with 2 bosses, but marriage is supposed to.

I think it there is a direct correlation between the changing roles of men and women and the increase in the divorce rate. Please save the male chauvinist pig accusations and consider my argument and respond with logic.

Thanks all.

Addition:
It is interesting to see how my statement has been interpreted. I made no claims of superiority, nor did I say that certain decisions are more important than others, nor did I say that any sex is weaker.

When I talk of aggression, it is not in terms of voilence, but speaks to the "feelings" that men are now forced to exhibit, something I find contrary to my being (and maybe that's just me).

Per my original question, how do we go against evolution?

Answer 1

sweetie, there is no such thing as 50/50.....the reality is that sometimes it is 90/10 and other times it is 10/90. there are times, specially with regards to your daughter, your wife can empathize with her because when they talk to each other heart to heart this is a woman to woman talk. if you had a son you will realize that boys never confide in their mothers either.....lol they talk about football games and why his voice is changing. it is between father and son (man to man). i know, i have 2 sons and 1 daughter.

men and women today share some of their roles.....men now spend more time at home and are sensitive to their wives and children when long time ago, all he did was go to work and when he got home, everyone is told to keep quiet and told not to disturb him while he goes into his study and ignores everyone.

women too are sharing some of her mates role. instead of staying home cooking and cleaning and never allowed to share her knowledge, she now goes to work too and contributes to the expenses. she also goes pick up the kids from school and helps with the homework.

so you see, the traditional role was good but not great. men never showed emotion and were never showed tenderness. it was not considered manly.....he was aloof and alone. women were caretakers but never was expected to share responsibility of finances, never helped her mate make decisions and everything was left on his shoulders. that is why, when the great depression happened, many men killed themselves..... they never talked to their wives about it and the whole burden and responsibility of providing for the family was on his shoulders.

you have come a long way.....fathers have so much better relationships with their children. they know their children and their children are close to them.....close enough to be sassy like teenage daughter sometimes are...

women today have come a long way too. they help their mate if a financial situation comes about. she shares with him the problems of their children and does not to hide from their husbands what is going on with their children and what is happending at home. she works and comes home tired like her mate but she also cooks when she gets home, does laundry, etc. and her man helps her as he knows how tired she must be, as he is exhausted too.

in the past, there were not much divorces but there was not much of a marriage either. then, the sharing of roles has made the difference after world war II and the baby boomers generation was born...when soldiers came home, they realized their little homebody delicate wives were building planes and tanks in the factories to help with the war effort.

that is when things changed and a mutual respect was born.

take care of your family....your wife and daughter. and remembers, even if your daughter runs to her mommy, she will always be daddy's little girl....

Answer 2

First of all, men don't need to be as aggressive now. In civilized societies, there is little need for competition over women, food, living space, etc.

Secondly, emotion is an asset for both men and women. If you consider ancient Greek society, the beginning of Western civilization, you'll find that men were quite emotional. Rage, passion, and sorrow were admirable, not embarrassing. After the Renaissance, men became colder and colder until they reached the peak of standoffishness during the Victorian Age, a period which is hardly considered admirable today.

I'm all for well-defined sex roles, but I don't agree that emotion and a lack of aggression weaken men.


I believe the increasing divorce rate is due to a wider acceptance of divorce, to a lack of determination and commitment on the part of older couples, and to ignorance and a lack of foresight by younger couples.

Answer 3

I agree with you. Marriage is an institution that conflicts with the Male's genetic need to spread his seed among as many fit females as he can. I don't think that it's appropriate for men to do this these days, far from it. I think its only fair that a couple stays together to raise their children.
There are certain things that women do better, and certain things that men do better. For people to try and say that men and women are equal is rubbish. They both have different strengths and weaknesses. I think men are better leaders than women, which is why in a family situation men a better at making decisions. I think women are better at giving love to children, taking care of them and supporting them. I believe men are more suited to preparing their children for the real world. Teaching them lessons that at the time may seem harsh but are necessary to create a good person. Women don't have the 'heart' to do this. Which is why men who are raised by a stronger female figure and a weaker male figure are often considered 'mummy's boys'.
Men have roles and women have roles. Not all people are good at them, but generally Men are better at (A) and Women are better at (B). Let them do what they do best.

Answer 4

Humans are no longer walking hunched over with fur covering their bodies (no offense if you have one of these disabilites). Humans have evolved and become more intelligent and improved themselves. If a father is better able to comfort his child, change a diaper, or have a loving partnership with his wife this is the natural course of life. In keeping with Darwin's theory, the better man will survive. Women will want to marry and reproduce with men who do more than go to work and bring home a pay check. You are lucky you have already found a wife. There are not to many women left who are looking for what you are willing to give.

Answer 5

It's not clear how much of the resistance to change is genetic and how much is engrainged in our culture. We evolved for a division of labor which was more consistent with a hunter/gatherer or agrarian society. It has been a very rapid transition to a post-industrial society, so many things haven't caught up. I agree with your correlation, but not the causality. The marriage contract carries less meaning in the modern era since the difference between the sexes carries less consequence in partnership.

Answer 6

I agree with you to a certain extent. Men and women are different. They think differently, they communicate differently, etc. And I think it’s important to realize that.

However, marriage IS a partnership. I’ve been married 17 years, and my marriage is fairly traditional. There are decision that I make (for example, I’m generally the one who decides when the kids are sick enough to go to the doctor) and decisions that my husband makes, but only because that’s what works for us and we’re both happy with it. But when it comes to MAJOR issues, you better believe we have equal input, and if my husband had ever declared his ‘superiority’ in decision making, then we have divorced long ago. Men and women are different, but men are NOT superior.

Answer 7

"some scientists are expressing severe undertaking that the human genome is surely deteriorating as a effect of amassing mutations, or imperfections. If genuine, this certainty could undermine the view that we are evolving, or recuperating." it is finished nonsense. "The Bible tells us what technology can't—that human imperfection stems from sin, or disobedience to God." This too is finished nonsense. "A deteriorating genome, as a result, argues against evolution yet in help of the Bible. Does this imply that the genome will proceed to head to pot indefinitely? No! God has promised to intervene in human affairs and undo each and every of the wear brought about via our unique mum and dad. confident, our writer, no longer mindless evolution, will appropriate our genome." And this end is nonsense too. while will theists understand that there's no longer something medical interior the bible, neither is any of it supported, justified or in any different case shown via technology and that the extra durable they combat and bypass down this direction, the sillier they seem for the easy certainty that they for sure have surely NO theory what technology surely is.

Answer 8

First off, this isn't a question, second, women don't being like treated like the lower species, I mean, think about it, what if us males were the ones that were the followers and the women were the leaders, I'm sure you'd have something to say about it, and I'm sure the reason divorce is the way it is now is not that men are changing, its that women are, they are fed up with the way they are treated.

Answer 9

but i would not want to go back to the good old days myself,my wife earns as much as me,and we make descions togethor were appropriate.i,d like to see a woman as president,but when you see how thatcher and arroyo of the phillipines i guess theres not much difference there.undoing evolution,come on who wants agressive men around,go to a doctor to see the results of male aggression,no i ,m happy but expect the unexpected in marriage and family

Answer 10

Well, you really can't go against evolution, now can you. But human behavior is not a function solely of genetics, there is also the nurtured input to our behavior... we can be taught behaviors.

Now that that question is answered, what is your real question?