well a while back i had a myspace, i showed mine to him and he got mad over a couple of comments that really werent bad, and at that time he had one also, but nothing on there. Well to avoid arguing i just deleted the whole thing, asked him to do the same and he assured me he did, and sure enough he hasnt. I noticed this one girl on his list that i specifically asked him not to talk to because of a certain situation that happened and he promised he would stop, but obviously he hasn't. He now set his profile to private so i cant see it anymore and he doesnt know i know he still has it...what do I do? I wish I could see it to make sure that it is nothing. What makes the situation harder is that he came clean to me and told me he cheated on me with some other girl. I was trying to make this work out for our children's sake, but now I don't know what to do, I really can't trust him.
2007-01-03 18:49:40 · 23 answers · asked by USMCwifey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did delete mine, and he told me he had deleted his, but i checked to make sure and he hasn't
2007-01-03 18:55:03 · update #1
oh and about counseling i would try that but hes currently stationed overseas.
2007-01-03 18:56:41 · update #2
Girl, don't use the kids as an excuse to stay with a man that I don't think you are ever going to trust again like you did in the beginning. Those kids KNOW when something is not going right. The word cheat, then finding out he betrayed your trust again-- you answered you're own question. There is only so much in a relationship that you are required to put up with, and he has used up all his strikes in this ball game.
2007-01-03 18:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by rosey 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
You two are really worth each other... If you deleted yours and never looked back, you would not have found out... Obviously, you're back on (for whatever reason, be it to check on him or otherwise), so it sounds like you have broken a promise, too. Sure, you could confront him with it - but what good would it do? He had already betrayed your trust before, and just now did it again. He will find ways to do stuff behind your back over and over. Don't know what a good solution would be to this situation, other than accepting him the way he is, the wandering eye and all - and stopping to snoop about. Something you don't know about can't hurt you.
2007-01-03 19:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no excuse for cheating of any sort. Being apart from someone doesn't make a person cheat so whatever lame excuse he gave you for cheating don't beleave it. He slept with her because he wanted to and he knows he still can and will continue to do so. To stay with someone for the children's sake? Who are you trying to kid? Your only fooling yourself their honey. If he really had his children's heart at interest he would of thought of the consquences to his actions before even considering it, he was selfish and proably still is. Once a cheater always a cheater it's all about the thrill of cheating for them. You work it out becasue you don't want admitted it to yourself. But don't ever use your children as an excuse to stay with anyone. Your children will be fine and will understand when they are old enough to understand. All you should tell them is that daddy loves them very much and if he could be here he would. But don't say anything bad about their father to them. Just explain that daddy has to live elsewhere and sometimes that happens that mom and dad dont live together but they both love their children. Only work the relationship out if you want to but be warned he will continue to cheat.
2007-01-03 21:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by babydollgem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your going thru. See my husband pretty much did the same thing and he is also overseas. But the only thing I can say to you with out sounding like a hurt woman(but I am) Is to sit down and really think about what you have. Is he worth all the headache? All the drama? And Never stay with someone because of the kids. You do it for you! When you allow someone to have so much control over you and your action you have truly lost yourself in him.If he was to delete his my space page would you trust him then?(no) You have no trust in your husband because of what he has done now and in the past. But never allow someone to steal your joy. Trust in yourself do what your heart tells you! I hope things work out for the best! And keep your head up don't get fed-up.
2007-01-03 19:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Nina 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously not a trustworthy person. Don't make myspace the issue. Start coming up with things to do together so there is no interest in myspace or another woman. If he does not want to put you and the children first how are you doing your kids any favor by staying with him? You are only teaching them how NOT to have a healthy relationship. Give your marriage a good try then move on if things don't improve. BTW, how much time do you spend on the internet talking to strangers like us rather than doing things with him?
2007-01-03 18:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by Californiamama 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There really should be no secrets in a relationship... I learnt this through being in a pretty screwed up relationship for nearly 5 years, and only found out how easy it is to be honest once i started dating my current girlfriend. If you can't trust him, then take my advice and get out as soon as you can... You have to beleive that there would be an ocean full of guys out there that would never hide anything. Its all about being comfortable and secure! You should try it, it is the most fantastic feeling ever!
2007-01-03 19:18:49 · answer #6 · answered by NotSure 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This reminds me of something I went through a few years ago. I was very naive. The thing was, this guy was in the military and stationed overseas, like your husband. Well, I never met the guy (only spoke to him online, thank god!). Anyhoot, I was "that girl" (like the one on myspace). He told me he was married, but seperated from his wife and getting a divorce, blah blah blah. Anyhoot, your husband is probably feeding this girl with lies and you should leave him.
Funny thing is, that guy's wife actually cheated on his sorry @$$, had 2 kids by other men, and married her second child's father. lol
2007-01-03 19:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay... he set it to PRIVATE because he doesn't want to share that info. You do not trust him for SO many reasons, this is just the proverbial straw. Why not get your myspace profile back up and send him an add request?
Will he deny you? Probably not. Will he say you are just sending him an add request to be nosey? Probably, but at this point what do you have to lose?
MySpace is the devil... addictive and just silly, (PS I have one!)but just deleting the profile won't remove the underlying issues that you all have.
2007-01-03 19:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by SoCal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
definite he's obsessed and this would be very risky for you... you may have a severe talk with him and tell him to calm down. in case you have not executed something to reason those insecurities then he should not be treating you like this. in the long-term, this might in easy terms positioned distance between you 2 as a pair and it would expand to a minimum of something greater severe. Take this severe and seek for counseling. This not healthful...
2016-10-19 10:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly sounds like there are trust issues going on...........if it is too delicate for you, maybe you need to think about moving on. Being in a relationship like that is not a good feeling.
2007-01-03 19:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by cold runner 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋