My wife is supervisor at a telemarketing firm? About three weeks ago my ex girlfriend was hired there and she now works under my wife. Granted my wife is very small (4 foot 11) and my ex is very tall (6 foot 5) 275 pounds, my ex rarely do her job or come to work on time. But my wife is afraid to tell her to do her job and to be on work on time. Knowing my ex when she sense fear she runs with it. She sometimes walk up to my wife stand over her and just look down at her until my wife walks away. She also told me that when she is in line at the cafeteria she would sometimes jump in front of her for no reason. It was a nasty breakup between me and my ex but the relationship been over and have not kept in touch (due to her alcohol abuse). I think my wife is afraid to action against her but it might cause her own job. How can I convince her to stand up to her.
2007-01-03 18:49:16 · 8 answers · asked by deeman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife has stated that she is afraid of her and that she is also afraid of what my ex would do if she went to a higher authority.
2007-01-03 19:15:31 · update #1
your wife is clearly afraid of this woman, she fears what she can do, if confronted. sometimes we have to face our fears, and stand up to bullies, we can't run from them, or they get bigger and bigger, your wife needs to talk to her supervisor, and be upfront with exactly what is happening, and needs to tell the supervisor that she shares a past with this woman. can't let people run over u, or they will keep doing it.
2007-01-03 23:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually to tell the truth your wife Is doing her job. Staying away and keeping cool may be the best for now. Have your wife keep document of her tardiness and ridiculous behavior. After enough has tallied she can have her terminated. Everyone answers to a higher person, maybe someone can keep an eye on the two of them from time to time so others can see whats going on. She should also be able to talk to someone about their conflict of Interest In the two of them and have her moved to another department. I wouldn't go as far as saying she's afraid to action with her, It's just your ex Is jealous and all this behavior Is not worth It to your wife. She's on another level, a more sophisticated level and your ex can't stand her for this.
2007-01-03 19:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by passion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a supervisor at the organization, you wife has the duty and responsibility to make sure that everyone is doing the best that they can and if she is intimidated by your ex, then she should looking for another job or condiser stepping down from management because it will affect workplace morale and if the ex gets away with it, others will follow suit and sooner or later, you wife may not have the option of whether or not to do either as her manager will make that decision for her by terminating her employment.
2007-01-03 20:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that this has anything to do with the other lady being your ex. This is a work place problem. U need to support your wife on this by being with her on every decision that she takes. If she doesn't want to do anything about it, don't force her to. The other woman sounds like a bully and there may be more to it than you know. First speak to your wife and get the details. Discuss it with her every evening and be there fore her by letting her spill it all out. Eventually when she feel that its 2 against 1 (you and her against the bully), she'll want to take action about it.
2007-01-03 19:44:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your wife is in a helluva position. But the bottom line is, King Kong has to follow the rules too. If she is not doing her job, she needs to find another one. I betch if your wife would get a little tough with the bully green giant, she would tuck her tail between her legs and haul buggy. After all, the bigger they are, the harder they can fall. Tell your wife to grow a set and put an end to this b.s.
2007-01-03 18:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by rosey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may equate standing up to your ex with becoming your champion and she's not comfortable with that. Ask her how she would handle a man acting the same way or some other woman whom you don't know? It's about taking charge or losing her position. Perhaps she doesn't really want a supervisory position. You probably need to ask the questions I mentioned then butt out. You just add to the pressure.
2007-01-03 19:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Californiamama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her it sounds like she needs to make a choice - her job or her fear of your ex. If she feels uncomfortable with approaching her, maybe your wife could go to her superior and explain the situation.
2007-01-03 18:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut up
2007-01-03 18:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋