What is with teen black girls hating their african heritage?

Question

I remember my friend always would want to braid my hair, and one day i asked her why, and she said because she hates nappy/kinky hair and she didnt like looking at, she said nappy hair is digusting , and i know tons of girls who arent light skinned, but trick them selves into thinking their lightskinned, they want to be lightskinnned so bad, most of them are the color of brown sugar, and go "No no, im not darkskinned im lightskinned see!?" and my response is always the same "You dont gotta be pitch black to be dark skinned"
And an off topic thing i noticed is around school EVERYONE is black, and theya ll call them selves black, but when they see someone who is darker then them they refer to them as "Black".Sure they are black but its the way they say it, for example they will go "Oh that one Black n1gga" then when someone calls them black they go "No i aint black, do you see black on me?" but 2 seconds later i ask them "whats your race,fool?" and they say "Oh i'm black", stupid or wat

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Another thing is, why dont african americans want to be accociated with africans? Its a insult now to call anyone a african..You could say "Your mother is a african" and people go crazy

Answer 1

Each person has their own reasons as to why he or she chooses to act in a particular manner.

I suppose having course kinky hair could be annoying... it is usually not as easy as wash and go; Blacks (African Americans) that choose to reduce the kinkiness sometime use relaxers, but over time that dames their hair, and I have seen patches of hair fall out of people that tried relaxing a few too many times.

As for the whole Black name calling thing.... I noticed it myself about 10 years ago. While the words being exchanged may sound degrading, depending upon the situation, such an exchange can actually be a positive confrontation between two black individuals.

I am still baffled about the used of the word ***** I do not know where the term was founded; did it have anything to do with individuals being decendents of Nigeria? I am part Polish; if someone wants to refer to me as a Pole, so be it....

I just do not understand why individuals would continue to refer to themselves within their culture using this term if they find it derogatory... but I guess no one ever said life had to make any sense.

Answer 2

I understand your point but Blacks aren't Africans were just like Hispanics were mixed with African, Native American, and European. I can't go around saying that I'm African American because I didn't immigrate from any African country. My Father is Dominican and my mom is Creole. I'm not African American I'm Black or Multiracial. I don't understand why Black people claim Africans to be their people when they don't consider us real Africans. Anyways, the light-skinned vs Dark-skinned thing is partly our fought for buying into. Many of our "idols" like Halle Berry, Beyonce, and J.lo are light-faced and they have long silky and straight hair and many young Black girls wan to mimic them. I think it's ridiculous when Black women use perms when they can obvious use a pressing comb so they won't damage their hair. When a Black person uses a perm they are basically saying "I hate myself and I never want to have nappy hair again." Why does our hair have to be nappy? That's a degoatroy word that I think that equates the word *** ger.I wear my hair natrual and it's curly.

Answer 3

because they're just foolish...they don't know how to handle what is different. i personally don't like nappy hair myself....looks dry and not very nice looking. but anyways, you're obviously in high school so you guys still have a lot of maturing to do. many guys go for lightskinned black girls cuz that's mainly who you see in music videos...so girls at your school wanna be light even if they're not...so they just say they are. thing is, they haven't learned that saying it all the times they want won't make them any lighter. they just wanna be someone they're not. i know it's frustrating, but it takes time for certain ignorant things as such to pass. and about denying african heritage....that's crazy! i have an african bf who is the best....there's nothing wrong with africa...it's where we all originated. that's why it's called the Motherland......

Answer 4

Reading your post is sobering, because I know there is some truth to it. I think that all teens are at a stage where they are building their identities. There have been so many harsh and ugly misrepresentations about Blacks and Black Women in particular that many people have bought into things that take us away from who we are and the very things about us that are beautiful and unique. Sadly, many of us are hateful towards each other because of variations in complexion, hair texture and other features. I think this has been widely influenced by racism and constantly being bombarded with negative images of Black people. Even on Yahoo Answers, I am frequently taken aback by the sheer hatred people represent.

Answer 5

The media shows women embracing long, silky, hair. I guess this makes an impression on young girls, being pressured to be the perfect girl, the perfect image. About them not knowing what race they are, then they must be stupid. The color of my skin is like dark tannish, but my race is black or African-American.

Answer 6

MISINFORMATION and UNCONCIOUS DICIPLINE. From the moment we are born, we are immedietly bombarded with images and traits that are more acceptable to society. We can always ask the question, do people naturally hate themselves, or has society taught them to hate themselves? And this can include black, white, asian, etc.

Look at asian women, they strive so hard to marry a white man with any circumstance thinking that society will accept them as an individual. Yes it's partially their fault for being so brain washed, but can we put all the blame on them?

Many black women embrace their heritage and do not attempt to pass off as a light skin woman or cover up their natural hair. But keep in mind, like someone mentioned, over 98% of blacks in the U.S. derive not just from African lineage, but European lineage as well. So their natural hair may not be preferenced as "kinky" but curly or crimped.

Race is a pretty complex issue, now days, people can identify with how they choose because they have so many cultures that makes them who they are. We pressure them to consider themselves light skin, as much as we pressure them to only look at themselves as black people with "kinky" hair. Everyone is pulled in a different direction, but we in the end choose the route we want to go.

As long as we have media telling us what looks right, and what will get you ahead in life, you will have more and more black women dying their hair blonde and trying to pass off as light skinned, more white women tanning themselves to become a darker complex, and more asian women submitting to only white, and now black men.

Answer 7

Besides all the caps, valid question I really don't care about him, he would make a great lecturer and sales man. I just don't want what he's selling. As always the lesser of two evils and don't know who's worse. Gut feeling is to go with someone who has done something besides show up. Always thought young voters were smarter than most, guess not.

Answer 8

Because of the way society portrays the image of black women.
Did you notice that most black hollywood stars allways appear to be lighter than they realy are?
Trust me Beyonce is not that pale (there is a lot of phototouch involved) in order to make her more acceptable to the rest of the world.

Answer 9

wow that's a lot ot of words for one question.but anyway we're unfortunately disconnected from africa every black person born in america in this day in age knows nothing bout from where they come ancestor wise there are no true born Afrikaans born in america if there were they would be Afrikaans don't let a light skinned person get to you we all black to other races even if we're not of Afrikaan decent

Answer 10

don't blame them. They are products of thier conditioning. Even thier conditioning has been conditioned.

Don't belive "americanb" she doesn't know what she is talking about. White people would want you to believe that 98% of black people have european in them, but there hasn't been that much intermixing, get real.